Today I was very confident, more confident than I have ever been. I have been reading the game by neil Strauss, and mystery had a good analogy about insecurities, he said they exist but like a rock in your shoe you just have to ignore it and keep walking, and I ignored all my insecurities and approached many women at the mall. I started by talking to unattractive females, by making witty remarks. I then had a nice conversation with an hb8 I was super confident and she seemed in to me.

I also saw a girl I used to go to high school with, she was a worker at a shoe store. As soon as I walked in I could tell she was in to me, she asked if I needed help I said "no just looking". After browsing for a few minuets I was about to walk out and I said bye Chelsea because I knew her name from high school, (I have changed much since then) so she didn't recognize me and she was surprised I knew her name and she asked how I knew it, Boom I was in. We conversated for a few minuets and she hinted she was leaving for Cali soon she told me when she was leaving and when she was getting back.

As I was looking for my friend in sears, a cute employee said hi I said hi back and smiled, it was sensual.

Overall I broke out of my shell today, I literally felt like ryan gosling in the movie stupid crazy love lol.

Here was my problem for today. Me and a few buddies wen to the liquor store I drank a little bit of my wine and I was a bit tipsy to say the least, after drinking we went to the high school basketball game where everything was going well, until I saw my dad that I haven't spoken to in years. My mindset shifted a little, I was still the calm smooth guy I was earlier but things were a bit different. My buddies decided to go sit on the bleachers right by him as they were walking down I took off (I know personal problems ) I went to the away section.

I am just sitting there watching the game until I see a pretty cute chick who has a great fashion sense. I instantly thought (approach) while ignoring mystery's three-second rule I hesitated, which I did not do earlier no hesitation what so ever. I moved a little closer I looked at her and hesitated more, then I saw the opposing team miss a shot, I thought to myself "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" so I then instantly approached.

I asked "are you guys the cheerleading coaches" I asked this question nervously because of the mind set I was in, I can be very very confident and smooth but in this particular situation I was a wreck and IDK why.

I think she said yeah, I said "oh yeah I am from this high school and I am just watching my old team play" again nervously then I asked how old she was, she said "never ask a girl her age", I said " well does that mean you think you're too old for me" she said " yeah probably" but pointed me out to her friend and said shes probably your age, I asked how old her friend was, she said 22. I got really nervous and again IDK why I guess because if the environment, the fact I hesitated so long and make the situation seem harder than it is. I told them I don't usually get this nervous It's weird. I sat in silence for two seconds and thought to myself I blew it I told them "Hey at least I approached" and left (((

I was sad but I mentally shook it off for a while lol but I then ran to the car to drink a little more came back to the game, it was over I then met up with my buddies went to mcdonalds and told them what happened.

We drank some more I dressed up as an old man and some hicks wanted to fight me, I pulled of the masked and said "what's up and they drove off yelling lol"

Now I am here typing sharing my experiences for a day in which I finally started making conversation with women.

Notes: It's easier to talk to a woman while she is at work, its better to approach women after talking to a buddy or talking to other strangers.

I think I am a pretty good looking guy but confidence and verbal game are key. I can tell a few women are insecure when they walk past and a few women make strong eye contact, I just don't know why I got so nervous around this particular woman.



If anybody want to just add their two cents and ramble, it would be nice.

That was quite nice a day! Great story!

Although I don't know why you didn't get the number of the shoe store girl, but you probably got your reasons.

I must say: You are a very social guy, have great balls and makes the best out of it!
Your nervousness was probably caused by your dad, although I find it strange that you said you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, while afraid to take the second shot!

But everybody has their days, their ups and downs. I still think that your thoughts create your emotions, and your emotions create your thoughts. So just always stay positive, think happy thoughts and you will reach positiveness.

Yeah I agree, it's about mojo, sometimes its high and all of a sudden you are the most interesting/confident man in the room, then when its low you are almost invisible or undesired. All of this is created by your mind though, there is no difference between the day or moment when your mojo was high and when your mojo is low, except the things that caused it to be high or low altering your mindset.

The difference between afc's with some confidence at times, and mPUA or celebrities is that mPUA/CelebsCelebs know how to keep their mojo and mindset in a high state at all times, they're socially adapt and aware they can handle any situation.

An analogy ill use here is basketball, when you're starting to get good you have days when you play good then you have days when you play bad, at the time you don't know you're going to be bad because you're new, but over time you have the opportunity to asses the issue and avoid it during the next game. You identify your weakness and avoid it while playing, then in your off time you work on your weaknesses, over time they become your strengths. Through repetition you know what you have to do to win and play good. You have studied the game long enough to know every tactic mentally and physically you need to succeed, just like a mPUA who through repetition can see the bigger picture and be prepared for battle.

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