We want to trigger attraction, that feeling of like in her as quickly as possible. We need to be able to flip those switches instantly & without saying a word. We can do this through the way we dress. Showing her that we get what women find attractive, swagga. Showing up to a party/mall with a hottie or two. Having those ladies in good rapport.

Pawning & Pivoting.

The idea being that if you trigger attraction before approaching she will be more receptive. If she likes you then your job is just to not mess it up.

Or you could make eye contact and smile. If she returns it, you can assume attraction is there.

I agree with golddust, it's definitely all about using your eyes. But, what I would do, is make sure she has seen you first instead of looking at her and waiting for her to look at you. You can do this by DHVing, eg if in a club, be the AMOG or peacock show that you're having a great time with your wingman/group. Then catch her eye when she's checking you out and do NOT break the eye contact. This will make you come across dominant and powerful.

Ben

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"Our fears always outnumber our dangers"

This is no joke. We know that AA will always be there and even the best of us chicken out of an approach sometimes.

Even when I make eye contact with a girl, we hold it for about 5 seconds then she looks down and smiles. I was the dominant one there but I was still too scared to go up to her. Everytime this has happened, a friend of hers has always come up to me and told me that her friend thinks I'm cute.

As Jukebox said, it's in the eyes. If the girl holds eye contact with you, you can guarantee 99.9% she likes you. I need to start taking advantage of every opportunity when this arises. If she doesn't like you, she will look away and her facial expression will remain unchanged. If she looks away but looks down and kinda smiles, she likes you.

It's so simple but even I pussy out sometimes. This is what I look for everytime I go out now. I do it sometimes but no where nearly enough the amount of times I catch a girls eye. I could be getting laid every night if it wasn't for AA, but it's a long process. I'm learning.

The eyes don't lie.

The eyes don't lie! So true.

Like you say, if the girl holds eye contact for more than a couple of seconds you're in. I've finally managed to work out how to beat AA. Basically, you have to write down what it is that actually makes you feel anxious. Whether it's being rejected, or just getting embarrassed, you just have to remind yourself, that if it doesnt work out, it's unlikely you'll see them again anyway. And even if they do reject you, just say "well it was nice meeting you" if you do that every time, you will always feel positive about every interaction you have, because you know that you were the friendly one. At the end of the day if you don't interact with them, you have a 0% chance of ever getting to know her. You miss 100% of the chances you dont take!

Ben

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"Our fears always outnumber our dangers"

Yeah I've heard a lot about writing down your fears etc.

Does it actually work though? Everytime I've read that, I never do it because it just doesn't seem to do anything. Maybe I should give it a go.

How does writing down what makes you anxious help though, from a psychological perspective?

When you write down your anxieties, you'll see how stupid they are and will be able to laugh at them because you know that all feelings/emotions are just states of mind. They're made up in the head as a barrier/ excuse for not approaching. As soon as you learn that you are actually in control of your emotions and you choose what state of mind to be in, you will realise that AA is ridiculous! Hope this helps man.

Ben

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"Our fears always outnumber our dangers"

If you trigger attraction first... through strong indirect game.. then naturally she will send signals, such as Eye Contact, Stroking Her Hair, Breaking Frame, or something else which is indicating her attraction...

Then you can go direct with a safety net.

One time this chick dropped her phone when she saw me coming.

Another time my friends sister, who I hadnt talked to before this, gave us sum free drinks from the store she worked at. I told her thank you, and she froze up. Stunned. She said, "You're awesome. I mean you're welcome!"