Hey guys! I'm brand new here and I've been trying to become more social but there are just several girls that I find myself not wanting to open. At the stage I'm at I feel like i should be opening every set i see just for the sake of practice even and it's not that I can't open. When I want to I can open really well I just get this feeling that there's a lot of people that i don't want to meet. This might be AA because I know they're probably cooler people than I give them credit for but something about people will put me off to them. Any advice or words of wisdom for me? All would be appreciated. Thanks!

A few things.... 1.) You need to be having fun out there. It doesn't sound like you're having a lot of fun going out and opening. It sounds like a chore to you. If you aren't have FUN then you aren't doing as well as you can, and it's going to affect your sets.

2.) Get in the habit of talking to everyone just to be social and for practice. You never know who you'll meet by doing that. I know some people that I've opened and was hesitant about it that became good friends later. Doesn't mean you have to hang out in set for a long time but still talk to them. #1 it gets you out of your comfort zone and pushing your limits. #2 It gives you added social proof. #3 It's kind of hard for a girl to call you at as just liking her if you are opening up everyone.

3.) I'm willing to bet you are in your head a lot while you are out. You are in field thinking a lot about what you should be doing or not doing. We've all been there however a big key to getting better is NOT BEING IN YOUR HEAD and just going with the flow of opening and talking to people. Do what you need to do before going out to be in great mood, a smile on your face, and a clear mind.

Blessings,

JSmooth

Yea, you just need to get out there and do it. I know that while I'm here in Germany I have problems with getting out there, but language barrier is my reason. Even when I do get out of my way, I just go and do it, and I have so much fun doing it.

You need to have a frame in your mind of, "Every time I'm out, the only thing I'm worried about is having fun." By you doing that you can go out and have fun. Its about talking to people, not totally about always just talking to women.

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Thanks guys! Tonight I relaxed and just DID instead of thought and I did fantastic! I'll be posting a field report soon to see what feedback people give me.