I was at a frat party, and this hb9 is standing with her friends on the front porch. Im there too with my three guy friends just drinking beers, so I come up to her and use an opening. Everything is going great, and I get a lot of genuine laughs from her, but all of a sudden my friend comes by and starts ruining everything. He tries to come in and display value by negging me. This not only makes me feel awkward, it makes the girl feel awkward as well. The girl loses interest and walks away to her friends.

Im real cool with this guy, and don't want to be a jerk hogging all the ladies to myself. How do I deal with my friend trying to neg me without disrespecting him?

i'm sorry but i don't think thats a good friend.
Me and my close friends tear each other apart amongst ourselves from time to time from fun but in front of girls i never say anything about my close friends but "he's a really good guy" It not only supports your friend but it makes you better person, nobody likes a negative personality.

Yeah, this is a common thing among guys that are really familiar with eachother and really it just stems from your friend being jealous and a jackass btw. One thing you can do is pull him aside if it happens again and just tell him "hey you better quit talking shit about me in front of girls or we're gonna have problems", and be serious about it. Or you can try and hit him with a good comeback like "Hey at least I don't fuck sheep in my spare time" or something like that and maintain higher value in front of the HBs. But friend or not, u shouldn't have to take that from anyone.

I just posted a topic like this in the newbie section. But in dealing with this problem pulling my friend aside will make him want to continue because of past issues... There would then be a fight and the shit would hit the fan... He is a bad ass friend in almost all other aspects though. Beating him at this game really seems like my only win/win situation

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Unfortunately most of us have ran into this behavior from AFC.

I just had this exact discussion with a fellow PUA this last weekend. I think it's a guy mentality to aways win. If he can't win than he needs to blow it for the other so they don't win. This is were a good wing comes into play. The guys I go out with don't compete against one another. When we are out it's us against the world. If one of us wins the group wins. You can't get that from AFCs.

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First, don't bring theso called friend. What's the problem?

If its unavoidable and he plays hard ball say '...do you think he does that because he has a crush on you or me? I can't tell..."

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Yeh thats true, i guess we're the lucky ones. Me and my friends payeach other out all the time, its great. Confidence building and self esteem raising, because then whatever you hear from another source you've heard it from your friends anyway. But in front of women, all i have to say about any of them is that they are genuine great guys, bad-asses who break the law etc.. lol DHV!!

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'Oh my, you sir are the Moriarty of self awareness and personnal refelection'

What a title!

hey man that aint a friend if he fucking with your game... so... use your wingman!!! it might not be the moral thing to do but when a guy who is an acquaintance of yours becomes a cockblock, i say if u cant try hint to him at the time that u workin... treat him like any other afc, but get help, thats why a wingman would be a good idea at the time...thasa just my oppinion though...

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tell him hes a fucking douche and go cockblock someone else

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I'd rather go out swinging than strike out looking.
A lifestyle is a terrible thing to waste.
What I say when I see her is what I'll say.

or u could go with xxIcexx approach!!! haha m sure thatll work!!!

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if he's such a bad ass friend, you must have some point in time where
you guys have a heart to hear. as gay as that sounds, it's the point
where you talk serious, even if it's for a minute.

tell him what's up and you'd appreciate it if he didn't cb you. if he blows
you off, then you need to rethink your assessment of a bad ass friend.

Get all panicked about a CB and your game will die, don't take it seriously and HBs will read it as calm, confident and you are not trying to get them laid.
Next time an AFC becomes a CB just laugh it off and understand that he doesn't know what he's doing and that this is simply his idea of gaming. If the HB sees that you don't take the threat seriously she will only become more attracted.

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Anyone can walk into a bar and pick up a random girl.
The trick is to make the experience unforgettable to her.
A real PUA will make every women he encounters feel like she experience something once in a lifetime.

me and my friends tend to fuck around like that amongst ourselves, but for the most part we have a mutual understanding of when one of us is chatting up an hb - i don't interfere, if anything i act as a wing - cockblocking is very shunned in my circle, and if one of your friends does it, even on accident, you have to let them know

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"Know thyself."

isolate her somewhere your amogging friend wont find you. if they do see eachother make sure that YOU are in control of the situation...give your friend high value - when she meets him say, "this guy is the coolest mother fucker in the world!" and high five him, be excited. then - lead her somewhere away from him.