when i walk through well anywhere be it campus, supermarket or the mall i feel afraid of approaching it seems wrong. for instance i was standing in line today in a store to get some toothpaste and there was a girl next to me in line and i didnt know if i should approach, i dont know what to say and even if i did say something i would feel like all eyes would be on me and everybody would see it and it would be wrong. and i was afraid she was already taken. and minutes later i saw her with her bf. when is it okay to approach and i read some of the pickup lines but couldnt find one that i could (or dared) to use. is there a small conversation i can ask anytime as an opener?

Just start chatting. Just say hi or something, and tell her she looks good. Or comment on what she has with her. "Nice purse" or "Do you always get 'Bubblelicious'?" Just chat. There's nothing wrong with it. This is just your perception, and there's nothing we can teach you that will change that, other than your own initiative to just do it, and you'll discover it's fine.

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

mate just recently i have found this confidence inside me and now i love to talk and what i have quickly found is that you just go up and talk to people there is never a wrong time i would only say that if there on the phone or listening to there ipod then you shouldn't open.

I would even say iPod is ok, though harder. Definitely agree with you on the phone thing, though.

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Jazzy Jeff: "My love for you is like a river,
Like a summer breeze that makes my soul shiver,
One look from you is more precious than gold,
Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

During day approaches I just think to myself that I know this person. My body language says we have known each other for years. Just be natural. No one will judge you for having an interesting conversation with someone, be it an old lady or a hot 20 something.

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Name is MC I'm a number one rapper
I still buy toys and read comics on the crapper
Still playin' stand-up root beer tapper
I'm mackin' mad ho's and you're still fuckin' fat girls ~MC Chris

also on the is it okay to approach? It is always okay to approach.

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Name is MC I'm a number one rapper
I still buy toys and read comics on the crapper
Still playin' stand-up root beer tapper
I'm mackin' mad ho's and you're still fuckin' fat girls ~MC Chris

I tend to hold back at watch a little bit to get a feel about her, then I go in. I always make sure I have an observation. I go in in a simple manner, and say hello how are you going with good energy and eye contact. 20 mins ago i approached a German girl, she was in the park and i sat on a bench and i noticed she was having a little look at me so i new i was all good to go in. I went in and 10 mins later had her number and coffee organised. just go in! life is amazing make something happen!!!!

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Fashion your own existence. Life is a blank canvas, draw your life, your own unique life.

A confidently delivered "hi" is much better than an awesome opener that is delivered without any confidence. Who cares about what the other people think? From the looks of it, you keep coming up with reasons about why you're going to fail (everyone would see it, don't know what I'd say, afraid she was taken). You'll discover that life will go on even if she flat-out rejects you. Plus, being stuck with the thought that you might have been able to get with her if you had just said something is generally far worse than asking and being rejected.