| Think of it this way: You have to get into the mindset of "If they reject me, that's their loss, not mine".
If Bill Gates came up to you and offered you a business deal, where you'll earn $2 million and split it between the two of you, who is the one who stands to benefit more? For Bill Gates, it's nice to have another million dollars, but it's not a big deal. For you, who (presumably) has nowhere near the amount of wealth that he has, it's a big deal, and if you reject it, that's your loss and Bill Gates can simply look for another person to make the deal with.
It's the same thing here. You have to put yourself in the mindset of "I can offer these women a cool, unique experience that they can't get anywhere else". If they accept my offer, that's great for both of us. If not, keep it moving.
As far as the thing with the friends goes, you do your thing and they'll do theirs. If they're actively trying to stop you from approaching, then maybe you need new friends.
None of my friends do active approaches, but they don't stop me from doing it. I tell them some of the cool stories of girls I've approached, and sometimes I'll even approach in front of them. Whether or not the girl accepts or not, it's all a big game and we all have a good laugh about it in the end.
Also, as somebody mentioned, think of every interaction as something you can learn from and calibrate yourself for future interactions. See what works and what doesn't. Too energetic, too forward, too nervous, etc. There's been a few lines I've learned when I'm in a bind (for example, one time, I saw the interaction was slowing down, so I said "I wish I was better at holding a conversation", and all of a sudden, the girl perked up and said "You have to talk about what you're interested in", and we went from there. Obviously, it doesn't work all the time, but it's nice to have little tools like this in your arsenal).
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