So this is my update of the party. I didn't drink so much so that I could behave like normal.

Party were a success, and I had a lot of fun and kissed three different girls. Damn I even kissed a girl I haven't seen in a while and I had an earlier one-itis for, she kept coming over to me, and wanted to talk, and when I were talking with another girl, she would get over to me and pinch me, but i ignored that and kept talking.

The night was a success, but not the success that I wanted... I didn't talk with the girl I wanted, I only gave her a cool "hi" and moved on, even though she was the one saying hi to me - Her friends kept pushing her to do it, and it was obvious.

I didn't try to find her friends at the party, they actually found me. Her best friend came over to me, and gave me a big hug, asked me when I came to the party, and a little smalltalk. She then asked me if I talked with her friend(the girl that I want), I told her no, and then my friend took me out of the conversation like a hero.

Then afterwards when i were talking with some random boys I just met at the party, another one of her friends(the really sexy one) came over to me and asked me where some of my friends were, trying to get my attention. I answered her shortly where, and she still stood there, and then told me precisely like this : Why are you so sweet? You're even too sweet for xxx(the girl i like). I answered her, that it was who I am, it's best to be sweet. She answered, like it was a bad thing to be sweet. I then tried to cut her off, but she kept hanging on me, and talking about everything weird, about her name, where she was from. God, it was like she was introducing herself to me. We had a strong eye contact, and for a moment i thought that she would go for a kiss, but then i just stopped it, and told her to go have fun with her friends.

Was it stupid of me to let her go like that? I mean, she is my girls, friend and i don't want to fuck it up more. (Maybe I already did)

But yea.. There was plenty of girls that night, and I talked with many of them. But every time i saw my girl, she was just standing with her girlfriends, in the hall. Sometimes she was trying to talk with two of my good friends. I told them to somehow bring me up in the conversation whenever she came.

I even went to the dance floor and danced with two chicks at the same time, and just having fun. Randomly a group of girls where my girl was in, were dancing right behind me and the two chicks. I kept making the two girls grind, and didn't let it distract me that my girl and her friends were dancing right behind us.

Some time after, when i wanted to go the bathroom and came up again, I saw her crew with my crew. When i passed by, she winked at me, I winked back, but looked at her like "that's weird". One of my good friends then took me to the side and told me that she was trying to find me for her friends, so that they could talk with me. My friend told me that she lied, and were trying to find me for herself.

But i didn't react to that, and kept flirting with other girls, while I knew that she weren't fucking around with some other guys. Man, this is a good girl, it really is a pain, and I don't want to lose her.
I feel that I were to cold and punished her, by letting her see me with other girls without showing her a little bit of attention. But I got three signs by her showing that she was still interested, and I didn't know how to react, which made me not to make a move.

We are still friends on facebook, and i got 5 new friendrequests(4 of them girls which facebook tells me has my girl as a friend on facebook aswell).


So guys, what do you think? I feel like I failed, even though I did very well with the girls that night. What's my next move with my girl, now that she thinks that I don't give a shit about her, even though I do?

Cheers for your performance forget about being a man, you was the Man

It looks like your in a bit of a situation though. Before you go and try to say something like TonyKing said, I would try to gauge her feelings toward you. Yes, she maybe interested, but I don't think she's gonna automatically wanna go out with you after a night you just completely ignored her.
I think your mistake came in when you didn't go and talk to her after the third IOI.

After you ignored the last one, you when from being indifferent to disinterested, which may or may not have worked. Like I said you have to TALK to this girl, and try to figure out how she is feeling toward you now before you try to get a date with her. She might think your a player now, or an asshole,or the sweetest guy. Its up to you to figure this out.

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Damn it, i wrote her a message, it's like i went all in. It was cocky, and not needy.. telling her that she still owed a date.

She answered me very cold, that she just wanted to talk to me to see if it were O.K between us..

EDIT: fuck. this shit really hurts. It's not worth it, I got too much selfrespect to keep running after this girl.

She wrote: Just wanted to see if everything is okay between us.
Me: Is it?
She wrote: I don't know. Just because we couldn't be together in a relationship, doesn't mean we can't be friends?
Me: Relationship-mode? Calm down man..

You put up a helluva fight but I think its time to throw in the towel mate. You've been friend zoned and I don't think any of our advice is gonna get you outta there.

Like I said before , don't get emotionally attached to her and simply let her go. She'll just be the one that got away, and you gotta accept that.

With your skill you should be picking up a new chick in no time .
Now go get'em!

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