I saw this guy make a post asking a question so I thought I have nothing to loose I'll make one too.Okay here goes.


I have a MASSIVE problem in one area when it comes to women.I can meet a girl in a club and make out thats no problem I can even keep makin out on the taxi or bus ride home from the club, but whenever that car/bus stops and she gets off she doesn't want to do anything with me and this is not a one timer this has happened to me MILLIONS and MILLIONS of times in one shape or form.We make out in the club and whenever i ask for a phone number be it in the club or after it they say I have no credit or some other excuse that don't even make sense..i mean just yesterday i was in a club in another town there was lot's of us going up in a bus and there was this gorgeous girl there..She didn't speak to me on the way up but on the way back from the club she litteraly jumped beside me and started flirting and like i mean flirting to the very highest she was asking if I had a six-pack unbuttoning my shirt,feeling it, tellin me i was fit,rubbing my crotch lol and we were makin out.Today when I texted the friend in whos she was staying over asking for her number she said "why"? If you dont understand heres her full message :

ME:your welcome for the present btw ... give me (name) phone no. will ya?

HER:Thank u !she said why?

I tried to sound sarcastic on my next message but I didn't really know how to respond to that.


So to sum up.I can have a great time in a club with a girl but after she wants nothing to do with me.I'm looking for a relationship at this point I'm 19 going on 20 in a few months and I had NEVER been in a relationship but I've had countless one nighters.Can you please tell me the right way to take the next step.Maybe I shouldn't be too easy when they start to really come on to me or something else I don't know.


Thank you,
John[/i]

Dude, if she is all over u like that...u better do one of two things. The first being getting her number ASAP (if u wanna see her again/consider a relationship), then continuing with comfort and making out. The other is to close her that night when she is totally into u...in which case ur unlikely to see her again anyways because that's just how it goes.

U didn't achieve anything. If she asks why, she doesn't remember u or feels guilty. This means u didn't properly sarge her and build enough of a connection or she feels guilty and thus wont see u again.

It seems u r attracting them and escalating to the make out consistently. I'd say ur doing pretty well; just make sure to get her number and timebridge, bounce, or close. Why would her friend wanna help u out so much? I think it's a dlv to have to talk to a girl thru her friend.

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Great thanks it makes sense.

Just one more question what books would you recommend that are good at explaining the how to get the first date/meeting after the clubbing experience .Personally I've had a lot of women being distant from me when I do get the phone number and ring them or text them.Could it be my conversation skills?Actually a lot of the times the girl doesn't even ring back or text back when I leave a message.

Build more comfort and connection and flakes will be reduced. The first date is solidified by what u do at the first meeting. I'd start by reading the Mystery Method. It covers a lot...a must read.

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Thanks sydarm