To be a good conversationalist you must be a good listener. If you don't listen to what a woman is tell you; you'll miss out what's really important to her. Also by listening to her she'll feel understood and have a sense of bond with you; since you can relate to her and how she felt or what she was passionate about, or what she did. I need your feed back on these conversational threads and tell me if I need anymore improvement in building comfort with a girl or am I correct on showing wihich one is bad and which on is good.

BAD:

HER: I just got back from Miami!
GUY: Oh, really? I went to Miami when I was younger and it was so much fun! I went to the beaches and collected shells. I want to go back there but can't afford the money because of my bills! Wasn't Miami fun?
HER: Yeah, sure! [IOD- lost interest because the guy blabbed on and on about his experience.]

GOOD EXAMPLE:

HER: I just got back from Florida!
GUY: [Thinks and puts himself in her shoes. Let see, she just got back from Florida! I wonder what her experience was like. It must of been fun and exciting.] You must of had a blast! You have a tan, looks like you had some sun; or are you naturally this tan?
HER: Yeah, I'm usually this tan.
GUY: I bet the weather was nice and hot! When you got there was it hot or warm?
HER: It was hot but later that night it got cooler.
GUY: WHere again in flordia did you visit?
HER: Miami!
GUY: Ah, Miami! They have wonderful places down there! I visited there when I was younger and the experience left me great memories! Did you vist there before?
HER: Yeah, when I was younger like you. I went there with a friend from college and partyed at some clubs and bars! It was really fun!
GUY: You drink? Okay, I really can't talk to you now! This isn't gonna work out hun! [Smile and give her a wink. Start to turn then turn back.]
GUY: Before I go back to my friends. I just wanted to tell you something. [Go into routine].

In Gambler's book he discribes talking about building RAPPORT with a girl. HOOK-CONNECT-QUESTION-RESPONSE or something similiar to that! In MYSTERY'S METHOD it's BAIT-HOOK-REEL-RELEASE. I may have followed MYSTERY'S METHOD but not sure.

It's important to listen to a girl and to respond to a girl. In HITCH, the movie with Will Smith he tells the guy to LISTEN & RESPOND. WHat he meant by that was to CONNECT on every point she made and to listen carefully to what she said. Men sometimes lack this ability. It's a shame because they're missing out so much. If you're not a good listener then you don't have good SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE; which is the key to attraction for a woman. SOCIAL PROOF, SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, and being a LEADER will flip those attraction switches on inside her head.

tell me if I need any more improvement on connecting and building RAPPORT or am I head on? Thanks guys!

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I think you're on point with this one, NO ONE wants to hear someone babble about themselves. I've noticed that even with a couple of guy friends, I'll say something and they respond with YET ANOTHER story about THEMSELVES, and its so annoying because you wonder if they are even listening or if they care about anything but themself.

Also, on a more psycological level, if you can bring her back to experience positive memories from the past, you are literally controlling her emotions. When she thinks back to that positive state, she will feel those emotions and then associate those with you, because YOU made her feel those emotions.

On the other hand, If you are talking about yourself and your own stories, she's going to have a hard time feeling emotional because she didn't experience YOUR memories.

So instead of babbling about yourself, ask her questions about her past and eventually (not until you've built at least some rapport) steer it in a direction of either relationships or sex. Ask her to describe her first love, and what it felt like to be in love. If you succeed in making her really think back to when she was in love, she will associate those feelings with you. Not saying she'll be in LOVE with you, but she'll at least feel really good because of you. And that will make her want to stick around to continue getting these good feelings. She will be completely hooked.