Hey guys,

I had this thought today after crossing paths with a HB who was intensely staring at me while she was walking by. We were headed towards opposite directions and everything went really fast (5 secs at most). I was in a hurry, so I didn't do anything but I regret it so much now. The worst thing is that such a thing has happened to me several times over the past year (I am still an apprentice PUA).

I feel kinda stupid for letting such opportunities pass, especially since I rarely get such IOIs whenever I go to parties or meetups.
The truth is that daygame is not my style. I am not the type to go out of my way to talk to complete strangers. It kinda feels weird. Even I don't like being approached by unknown persons in the street.

It's not like I haven't tried. I was waiting for some friends one night and they told me they would be 15 mins late. I saw a HB that was waiting for someone for a while, so I decided to go chat with her. It was a test for me to see how I fare outside my comfort zone. Surprisingly enough, I did quite well (she was definitely not my type, so that could have been a factor that reduced my anxiety). We started chatting, she seemed to feel more and more comfortable (she was even playing with her hair at some point). Our mutual friends eventually arrived and we said bye to each other. I didn't even bother asking for her phone number but I felt glad that I could find the courage to talk to some unknown woman out of the blue in the middle of the street, and that the interaction went pretty well.

I wonder if I should change my style and push myself even more out of my comfort zone. Just out of curiosity, I should strike a conversation with a girl that starts staring at me.

I started thinking about this morning's encounter and try to imagine how I could have approached her. Here's a hypothetical scenario:

1) I approach her and ask her the time
2) I then talk about something circumstantial (her clothes, something going around) for 1-2 min
3) tell her I am in a hurry and ask for her number so we can arrange for drinks some other time


Do you think this is doable or is it too simplistic? Has such an approach worked for any of you guys?

The biggest weakness in my plan is that I am not that quick-witted when I talk to women. While I am quite good at teasing my friends, I somehow become shyer on dates...

Also, imagine you number close, how long do you wait until you text her? 1 day?

That's all I can think for now but any feedback/advice would be welcome.
Thanks, mates!

I know it might be easier said than done, but if you really feel she's looking/staring at you, you should make your way over to her. A lot of guys have trouble getting attention from women, so they have to wear loud colors, funny ties, weird hats, etc. So you, just being yourself, getting attention is a good thing. Remember that.

Overall, you have a good plan, but asking for the time is lame. Who doesn't have a cellphone these days? You might want to try a brief, canned opener, not a super long opinion story. What's probably better is to just go direct since you obviously caught her eye. Maybe all she's waiting for is for you to come and say "Hi".

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You need to use your own judgement to estimate for how long you can chat with the girl without making it seem weird. If it is a girl walking by on the street I would say that you only have a couple of minutes at most. Remember that you are interrupting her in whatever errand she has, and that she might not appreciate being approached. If it is a girl waiting for the same bus as you, you probably have more time to spend.

The less time you have, the more direct you need to be. It takes some courage, but if a girl is staring at you while walking by, you need to be bold and say something very direct. Maybe "Excuse me... [Stopping her] This may sound a little bold and crazy, and still a bit fun and adventurous I hope. [Pause. Hopefully she will start feeling some anticipation here] What would you say about a date with me?".