Let's say you isolated a girl and you are talking to her
After some talking.

YOU: "Hey, I would like to take you on a coffee, when are you free?"
Girl: "(Something, something), I have a boyfriend."

What is the right answer and how can you find out, if she really has a boyfriend or was shittesting you without then landing in the friend zone (when you finally get her number perhaps out of pity)?

Make it playful , if she wants to talk with you after your funny response , you still have chance...

"I have a boyfriend."

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"how long have you had that problem?" Lolz

The truth is that those are just funny quips to say in response to "I have a boyfriend" in order to get a laugh and to save face. But they won't get you very much further than that.

The boyfriend line is an iod and never a good sign, especially considering that girls who like you will not mention their boyfriends, and girls who don't like you will make up the fact that they have one. However, there are still a number of girls out there who have legitimate boyfriends and feel compelled to let you know.

What you want to do is not act like you just got rejected. Maintain a solid frame. You also don't want to act like you are some asshole who tries to get girls to cheat on their man. You can be like, "That's cool, I just got out of a committed relationship myself." This conveys that you are relationship material and gets her thinking about "getting out of a relationship". A little NLP action there. Then you can keep talking to her about other stuff and not push the number/date thing. If you still want to go for the number at the end you can ask her again and say "You seem really cool, let me put you in my phone on my friends list." You don't need to say anything about going out with her or maybe she'll be single one day. That's not necessary. Just make it really easy and casual and non-pressured for her to give you her number and then you can worry about working around the boyfriend issue at a later time.

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Yes, because we all know that a woman knows no loyalty and will let you go the moment she can have someone better. Thats why the women dont make the great revolutions in science and society, but wait for the men to do it and then hook up with the winner.

It's not their fault. It's ingrained into their nature. Female rams don't care about territory or dominance or the battles that male rams have to go through when they bash their heads together. They simply hang around the periphery and then breed with whichever one prevails as the winner. All that is required of them in order to be reproductively successful is to have a vagina.

Human females are not much different. Female rams will all breed with the prevailing alpha male, and they don't care how many other females breed with him too. But human females do. That's why human females compete with each other relentlessly. Because they all want the same alpha male, but they want him all to themselves.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

But, PUA Ninja, here you forget the fact that women seek to compete with men in not only areas of status and prestige, but also financially, and at the same time they want to be admired for their wits and merits, while also using their bodies and looks to get guys to buy them drinks. A woman always wears more makeup when applying for her new job than when going to work on her present.

Also we exchanged thoughts previously about the female attraction to "alpha males," and concluded that the "alpha males" of today, AKA Hollywood / MTV / PUA culture are not genetically superiour, but rather the foam on the waves, what comes drifting atop of a society that has replaced rationality, loyalty and creativity with whimsicalness, no strings attached and a hankering after fickle fame.

The theory about the pursuit of genetic superiority does not apply in a society which has replaced natural selection by massive scale technology to provide for our needs. Parasitism rules above all, and it is the duty of society to control the parasitic traits of women. When a society fails in this, it means it enters a sliding slope towards the collapse of the respective civilization. Plato argued this in his Republic, as did Montesquieu in his l'Espirit de Lois.

EDIT: Also, also, also, this just flashed through my mind as I was going to the toilet; in the natural world, a display of strength, force and power is welcomed, embraced and submitted to. Strength, force and power mean virility, vividness and fertility. In the natural world the dictum applies that the strong always shape their own chances, redefine reality to their terms, and use force to make opportunities appear. In the human cultural world, by contrast, there is feminist rhetoric and it is prevalent. This goes among the memes of: "Women have always been repressed by men in all of history. They had all this potential, yet never had a chance. So now we need to have quotas, special SPAM, and exemptions from some rigid rules so that women can fully participate in society. And we are the political class standing up for this group, so we are morally good and righteous, and anyone opposing us must obviously not be good and righteous." With other words, instead of admitting that those with potential create their own chances, the weak/powerless are used as a shield/cover for select (politically correct) groups to gain power in their name. This is what feminism is doing nowadays (this analogy can also be extended from feminism to Christianity and socialism).

Pretty much sums it up.

*after talking for a bit*
Guy: Would you like to go for coffee sometime with me?
Girl: I have a boyfriend.

A.
Guy: Oh.... *walks away*

B.
Guy: I have a goldfish. Thought we were talking about things that didn't matter.

C.
Guy: Does he like Coffee? You can bring him along.


Which of the above sounds like the best answer?
A. means you lose out on a potential friend [who may or may not have other friends that don't have boyfriends, just don't press on the issue].
B. Makes you look like a home wrecking douchebag. If you manage to get the girl this way chances are you wont be keeping her for very long. More than likely she'll tell her friends how lame you are.
C. You come off as someone who was genuinely interested in hanging out with her and not just getting in her pants.

Either way if shit doesn't work out there ARE other girls out there. Try to be friends with this one though and it's okay to let her know you're interested, just don't press the issue. If you're a cool down to earth guy who's more awesome than her boyfriend she may just leave him for you.

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I always say "Tell him he's a lucky lad."

It usually works, as it's an NLP link to getting her to believe she is worth better than what she already has got.

Sweet Jesus. There is so much truth in these posts. Mr. Marville, I made an account just applaud your intelligence. Bravo.

Generally it's true, but in that case, she doesn't even start thinking in that way.

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Sweet Jesus. There is so much truth in these posts. Mr. Marville, I made an account just applaud your intelligence. Bravo.[/quote]

Yes!!! The day is coming. More and more people are supporting my posts and writing private messages about how much they agree with everything, simply because the truth cannot be dismissed by those with a clear perception of the world, not as they like to see it, but as it is in reality.

I hope that we can unite and form an alliance! Everyone feel free to write to me.[/quote]


I agree with this. Also consider that because we have an abundance of food and because we are safer (in survival terms) we as men have less ways to display our prowess and dhv. DHV is now more about talking a good game rather than playing a good game - after all as PUA's most of the work is done through what is said (or not said as the case may be) - you can be jobless, homeless, penny-less but if you've got the right attitude you can still wash over all of this with the right attitude and good social skills.

I developed an idea a few years ago i call Earning, Learning, Living and Giving (or ELLG for short) and its about focusing on the most important elements of life and creating goals accordingly. Very similar to mystery's triangle of love, wealth and health (i think, i'm going from memory) but its important to be rounded as a person. The primary issue i feel with western society today is this extreme self-motivation and neglect of other people, I would say that most people now are really only concerned with earning and living because they are short-term easily obtainable objectives with obvious short-term advantages.

I could go waaaay deeper and philosophical and political but that'll do for now. haha