Ill start by saying that this is important to me. I have this girl (28) whom I met while on working holiday. We were in the same group of friends and became close. I dated her mate. I know this girl was into me but I didnt do anything about it (big mistake). She visited my country recently (not to see me) and I met her. I completely had/have oneistis on her and I know I didnt make the best impression. Anyway I asked her if to go on a date wth me - she refused saying that she really likes me but as a friend and doesnt really see me as anything more. A couple of weeks ago I joined FB (I know, for the first time). I didnt add her as I didnt want to seem keen. She has since added me. Do I message her? Ignore her? What should I do? I was thinking of just sending her a short "whats up?" type of message but im not sure. Im looking clarification!!

From what I read, the lives in another country and she gave you a clear LJBF speech. Honestly, I would not waste too much time on her. You should detach yourself from this girl by talking to other girls.

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I have to agree with Northboy, here.
Sorry Pal!!
Go out with other girls, make sure you have fun with them and don't forget to post the party-pictures on Facebook so your onitis-target can follow up on it.. It's worked in the past for me..
Good luck!

Thanks for the tips lads!! I really do appreciate your advice.

I do see other girls. Im just kinda looking for an angle or method for gaming her on facebook!! I like the idea of posting pictures of me and trying to make her jealous. I was also thinking that posting complimentary comments on her friends pictures might spark some jealousy also. Have you got any other tried and tested tips? Maybe ill never see this girl again but its bugging me that she turned me down. Its like my own personal challenge at this stage.

Thanks,
G

I have to agree with NorthBoy here as well. She friend zoned you and lives in another country.

IF you decide to keep going at her, don't compliment her friends in order to provoke some kind of jealousy as this will only lower your value, tbh.

Ok fellas!! Thanks a lot for your help. I get the picture back off and forget her. Easier said than done on this one tho

It's always hard getting over someone. I'm dealing with it right now. You just have to take it day by day and tell yourself to be rational and that it's the best way. Do this and get out there and talk to other girls and eventually it will pass.

I suggest strengthening your game by practicing picking up girls you don't already know. If you start out with a girl who you've already built up so much in your mind, you'll put too much pressure on yourself and you won't have success. I think the best way to get good at sarging is to learn some techniques from an established PUA, and then practice a lot.

One does not simply go out of the friendzone with facebook.

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