I am 23 years old and I like to lift weights alot. My problem is though that every woman I date always tells me that when I first approached them they got this cocky asshole vibe off me. Then as soon as they got to know me better they realized I'm totally the opposite. What I'm wondering is, other then quiting weight lifting how can I go about taking care of something I project to women?

Not sure if you were doing this currently but make sure you smile, and laugh/joke with the women your talking to. It will make them feel more comfortable

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I definetely wouldnt quit lifting just so you dont look cocky. Keep lifting but just be more yourself when you first approach.

Any examples of a conversation gone wrong? I would definately say that you should continue lifting weights, quiting that is just stupid. Maybe you should re-balance the element of cocky-funny that you use in your openers if your appearing too cocky try to add more humor to it. If that doesnt work at all shuffle your tactics, use an opinion opener or an "Oh My God" Style opener.
Cheers!

~ Augustus

Smile and relax pete.

Stand at a slight angle to them as well.

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Welcome to the forum PeteCage.

As has been said, definitely don't quit lifting. I haven't lifted in quite a while myself, but used to lift all the time. It could be, as Starbuck said, that you aren't relaxed, or that you don't smile, or the way you approach. It's all about your internal attitude, really. Approach at an angle, not straight on and confrontational. Be relaxed, smile, and "feel" warm and friendly.

I concur with Starbuck.

Have fun and smile.

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Recommended reading list.

Double Your Dating by DD
(This will work on your inner game)

http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)

Take some yoga classes to loosen up, open your eyes more, smile, check your clothing.

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Thank you for all replying, yea I do get tense when approaching women. But the problem is that I get like shell shock. I might try the yoga class to relax, I am fairly edgy, it's always been an issue of mine is I cant really relax out in public. Plus I get nervious so I talk in a low voice, but dont know how to fix that. I'd never stop lifting weights, I've been lifting for a very long time and have built up a very good physique. It just sucks because I do get approached alot by women telling me they think I'm very attractive, but thats at bar and then usually I end up finding out they have boyfriends or husbands, or are just flat out one night stand types. Which isnt bad, but I'm looking for something that is going to have substance.

The way to relax in public is to get more comfortable with yourself. That's all it boils down to.