I was out the other night and met some friends of mine at a bar. There was a girl with them I'd never met before. My other friends didn't "properly introduce" me to her, but at some point within the first 5-10 seconds, she held out her hand and said "my name is blah blah" and of course i shook her hand and introduced myself.

I know there has to be a better way to respond to that situation. I just have a feeling that every AFC shakes the hand immediately and gives the name. I'm thinking going CF here...Anyone got any ideas for this situation?

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-Linwood

"What's with all the formalities here?" *Put your hand up to high five her* "We high five where I'M from!" *Grin*

You'll get a laugh, but more importantly you set yourself apart from the others.

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what i do when they offer handshakes is david de angelos way of cocky funny

what you do is either

when they off their hand, change it to a highfive, which shows u have control.
to have some fun, when they go for the high five, transition into a finger.

high five to finger means:
when your right about to give her the high five, you put all your fingers down except the index finger which leads to poking her hand that is in high five position. (watch out for finger stubbing)
^^^
makes them laugh as well.

for a more flirtatious way
take their hand and bring it to your face, then kiss your own hand.
then wink or stick your tongue out.

all credit to david d

Now, I haven't tried this, but it seems like it would be something
that would bring her into your reality.

Her: (Introduces and sticks out hand to shake)

You: "I prefer a hug" (act expectant of a hug)

(She goes in to hug you. Try and aim it to where her head
gravitates toward your right shoulder) For me, this happens
99% of the time anyway. I guess it's a right-handed person thing.

You: (stop her and say) No silly. That's not how you hug. It's heart
to heart (as you do this initiate kino touching your heart then hers
but don't touch her boob!) Then go in for the heart-to-heart hug.



Like I said... haven't tried it, but it would seem like it teaches
her something about what a hug really means, brings her out
of her reality and into yours, and creates more of a connection
via kino.

This is from a David D interview, though I can't quite remember
who said it. I'll let you guys know if I ever try it though. :)

We covered hugs but if you wanted to extend the handshake, as your shaking hands

say "is that your handshake?"
hb: "yea why etcetcetc"
you: "have u ever heard of a dead fish hand shake? You have one. You need to squeeze a lil harder (keep holding her hand till she squeezes harder)- "there thats better. that appears more confident - now it matches how you walk."
so you will have been touching her hands for longer than meeting with a normal person for the first time.

I forget where or who originally posted this... (props to who did)

I doubt she wouldn't be intrigued, but this seems a bit too intimate in the first 10-15 seconds!

Those are great suggestions...especially bring her hand up and then kissing your own hand. Thanks!

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-Linwood

That's from an interview with Stephane Hemon.

I've tried this, but not the heart-to-heart part of it, I feel like that'd be making too big of a deal out of it. Anyway - it works fairly well, and usually the girl will light up and be happy to give a hug. It throws them from what they're expecting.

If they initiate the handshake first by putting their hand out, an idea would be to stare at it for a second or two, which'll help you 'control their mind,' as Stephane speaks of. Because they're expecting you to just automatically comply, the fact that you don't and just look at their hand for a moment will leave them unknowing what is happening. Then you can bring up the hug idea and put your arms out.

I haven't done this many times, but I can't think of a time that I have done it where it didn't bring in positive results.