Hi! Im a newbie and have recently got into PUA. Im a natural kind of, but things havent been working the last months mainly because i had an ex that rly destroyed me but im ok now so no further information on that one:P


Thing is: A random good looking girl is adding me on FB, i dont know her. But i can see we have some mutual friends. So i wait a few days before i accept her as a friend.

When i first do i have to ask who she is, because i dont know her(is this a bad idea)
so conversation goes like this. Btw we are both norwegian so its hard to translate.


ME: Who are you?

HB: I was just thinking the same, i dont remeber added you. Sorry

(then she unfriends me, and after that i follow up with)

ME: Maybe you did it while you were drunk?

HB: Haha, i have better things to do when i drink than facebook.

ME: I hope so, even though drunkenfacebook can be fun sometimes

HB: And not always so fun the day after

ME: You have done wrong before or?

HB: Yeah, i woked up to a lot of congratulations because i was apparently in a relationship with someone.

ME: Haha did you do it yourself? or did someone use your account?

HB: Pretty sure it wasnt me, i cant seem to remember it

ME: Funny for that guy, maybe he was getting his hopes up.

HB: What about you, do you have any embarrasing moments from drunken facebooking?

ME: I have some i think

HB: Good to know im not the only one.


Im 19 and she is 17/18 i think.

what should i reply?

PU isn't about getting one specific girl. It's learning how to talk with people so conversations will be natural and women will want to want to get to know you.

You just want to get to know this girl based on her looks? Many women will represent themselves online to look amazingly hot but not so much when you meet them in person. I don't recommend using the internet as a place to pick-up because you don't really know who you're talking to (it could be a guy!). Use the internet as a means to continue comfort building once you already picked up a chick.

But if you want advice on the convo here is mine:
Good looking girls don't use FB to find boyfriends, they just walk outside and guys start hitting on them. This should be a red flag to be extra skeptical!
No it's a perfectly logical question that anyone would ask and it opened your conversation nicely. That would be something great to say if a girl starts giving you IOI's in person and you don't know who they are, it will start a conversation where she is qualifying herself to you.

Then you have a small convo with her, that's just okay.
Things to remember:
Never accept the frame! Make her qualify to you, if she asks you a question, answer by re-framing her, or ignore her question and ask your own question.

Ask her qualifying questions, Tell stories that give you higher value (DHV's). Your response to the drunken FB question should have been like: Side Note: I personally don't like the 'fake it till you make it' theory but there must have been a time where you uploaded something you regretted later that was embarrassing

And finaly, Answer: Nothing, use it as a learning experience and go out in the field and practice.

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-It's no big deal!

Pukid covered it all i think. Very point on man.