Hey moltenice!
CREATING attraction is actually pretty similar to causing attraction. You do it mostly the same way. The only thing that is different really is your intention and how you think about it.
For example, one might try to cause attraction by saying a certain phrase or touching her a certain way. If she becomes more attracted, you caused it. If she doesn't, then you didn't. This is one way of thinking about it. This is an "acquisition" approach because it about "control".
In another case, you may say the same phrase or touch her in the same way, but this time you do it because you want to create something with her and for her. Sort of like you were tossing a ball to a child in attempt to get them to catch it and throw it back to you. If she doesn't catch it, you do it again. You are not trying to "control" the situation in this case. This is a "contribution" approach to "creating" attraction.
The truth is, in a attraction you can't control, you can only contribute.
The PUA frame sets up it's own bind by endeavouring to control a woman's attraction. Success is falsely blinding because contributions are confused as causes...but the truth is that control is an illusion. Control is the illusion that your contributions are exclusively causal.
In any case, the point is to start thinking about EVERYTHING you do as only 50% of what causes her attraction. You give half. She gives half. Focus on making your half as forward and attractive as possible and you'll be so much more free from any anxiety around women.
I promise you that this attitude and mindset is that which makes flirting with and seducing every women you meet a relaxed and enjoyable experience. It makes it so easy, that you will be doing it without even realising it.
As an extra piece...you asked "Do you mean create attraction by telling them how cute they look and talking to them, making them laugh etc?"
Well that could work as long as you say it from a place of true desire. If you tell a girl is cute from a place of hoping that she feels complimented and likes you, then you are doing this from a control place. But if you do it because you want her to feel good and beautiful, it will be more from a contribution place. The latter works better.
For some final insight, the reason this works so much better is because an attempt to control is a need motivated strategy. Contribution is a strategy that naturally arises when an individual has no need. Men who don't NEED women are automatically more attractive. Deciding to contribute instead of control has the bonus of also making you feel not needy and this more attractive.
I'll give you a discount on my audio download "How to Get Girls by Giving" if you play with this and write me back again.
http://themagneticman.com/store/how-to- ... by-giving/
Have fun!
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