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PostPosted: Wed Aug 29, 2007 4:16 pm 
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How do you create social proof when you are heading out to a bar/club alone? I tried it for the 1st time last week. After a failed attempt at a 12 set (obviously too hard), I talked to a guy who was working for the radio station there. I then went off to other sets and pretended I was friends with him. It seemed to work alright.

Are there any other ways or would you suggest just bringing friends with you?


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Start by opening a really easy set (all guys or women you're not attracted to). Don't spend too much time with them, but tell them an interesting story or something, so that you can always return to them between other sets, or backwards merge into them.

Style calles this having a "safety set". They become your social proof.

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Start by opening a really easy set (all guys or women you're not attracted to). Don't spend too much time with them, but tell them an interesting story or something, so that you can always return to them between other sets, or backwards merge into them.

Style calles this having a "safety set". They become your social proof.
do you run a risk of running into too easy of a set? for instance at this club there was a group of morbidly obese ugly women. would those provide negative social proof?


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Social proof by greeting everyone you walk by. Each group, each person at the bar. Act like you know everyone.

"Hey, that's a great shirt!" to one girl
"How's the night going?" to another group
Etc.

Just be friendly with everyone and act like you are everyone's friend and this gives others the regard that everyone likes you... thus raising your social proof.

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do you run a risk of running into too easy of a set? for instance at this club there was a group of morbidly obese ugly women. would those provide negative social proof?
Absolutely, you don't wanna go start gaming the group of man-eating fat chicks in the corner. That will do nothing for your social proof, perhaps even lower it if the wrong people see it. Basically, you'll just be wasting your time.

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Going alone is the best way to go, in my opinion. The problem with going with a friend is, as soon as you walk in, your friend is your comfort zone. Why walk up and talk to strangers when you can just talk to your friend that you came with?

However, if you walk in alone, you either sink or swim. If you don't approach anyone and initiate conversation, you feel like the weird guy standing there in a social setting by himself. This forces you to approach a set. The beauty of doing it this way is, once you approach another group, you don't have to worry about anyone besides you saying the right thing or acting weird. It's all on you. No one else can bring you down. And, if you do approach a mixed set, say 3 women and two men, you don't have to worry about your friend cockblocking you, coming on too strong, and getting the both of you ejected from the set.

The other part of sarging alone is, when you enter a set and it's just you, they tend to welcome you in to their set a LOT easier than they would you and a friend. Just something I've noticed.

The other part of sarging alone that no one ever talks about is, once you open a set of strangers and get them into conversation, not only do you feel more socially accepted, you've made new friends AND you've conquered a mission AND you're usually the center of attention because you're the new guy AND, most importantly, you now have the most important characteristic of the alpha male: the smile. You can't fake a smile. It's impossible. After you make new friends, force yourself out of your comfort zone, and you feel socially accepted, you'll be smiling. You don't necessarily get that when you go out with a friend and stand there talking to your friend all night.

Lastly, another nice thing about going out alone is, you don't have to worry about your friend making fun of you for getting blown out of a set.

As for how to do this: ALWAYS approach the men in the group. They are like 99 times more likely to be open and cool than women. Women automatically assume that because a man is engaging them in conversation in a place where alcohol is consumed, that he must be hitting on them. Men don't act that way. Rarely will they blow you out if you have any social skills at all.

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