| Good point about openers and conversational styles. Questions that lead to a yes or no are questions that end an interaction and make you have to start over. That's no good.
But did you notice the part at the end about people loving to talk about Travel? On the dating web-sites, nearly every attractive woman (or even partially attractive woman) claims that Travel is a key, central interest to her. Perhaps what they are doing is suggesting a topic that they find an exciting opener!? These ladies may in fact be indirectly suggesting to men the best way to open them. That facinates me because it fits a theory I have: Women want to experience arousal and excitement.
That may seem dumb and obvious, but I think that as men we often assume that because of how challenging AFC's find it to open women, that women intend to be a difficult challenge. This is of course a psychological behavior many people do, it is called an "attribution error."
In reality, women want to be opened, they want to be, if not seduced, let through the range of sexual attraction and experience. They pine away for a man who can understand their needs (to be negged, to be aroused, to be comforted, and then, ultimately, led into a sexual encounter that makes them feel awesome). So often, I think women are just dying for us to "do it right," so they can experience their own sensations that go along with it. But part of "the game" for women is that, much like charades, they aren't allowed to directly tell you what they want!
If they tell you directly, then the situation maybe feels fake to them. I.e., if someone compliments you on something of his or her own accord, you can experience that compliment as authentic, sincere, and accurate. But if you tell the person how to compliment you, and they do it, then the compliment has a lot less authenticity and accuracy quality. Maybe the person said it cuz you demanded it, maybe they said it just to agree with you, maybe they said it to trick or manipulate you. So, letting a man figure out the openers and moves to use is vital to the woman's positive experience, but like all players in games, women push the boundaries of these rules, stacking the deck, as it were, to give men hints and clues to get the ball (balls?) rolling. lol.
In fact, women may be giving constant effort to supply an attracting male with the seduction tools and trappings that get her mentally/physically/emotionally going! So, for men the message is clear: Look for these clues in women's behavior, in what they say, in what they advertise as their likes. I'm not saying kiss their ass, I'm saying that like sex and dancing, it takes two to tango. A seduction automatically involves two people, you the dude and she the chick. What all the great PUA guru's have learned is how to structure their interactions with women to give those women the behaviors and stimuli that let the seduction progress. And of course, these are the things that turn the women on, and we learn how to do that, and it is the stuff they really want, not the stuff they are aware of wanting (e.g., flowers and expensive dinners), but the stuff they actually want (e.g., negs, arousal, and positive experience).
Just ask yourself this old truistic question: Are you fishing with the bait you like, or are you fishing with the bait that the fish like?
-Mr. Incredible
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