| Man, you should link to some info on GM style so the guys here can read the theory behind it in more detail aswell. Give credit, come on.
S&A is great fun but it needs to suit your personality; it's definately not for guys with shy personalities or weak inner game. I'm pretty dirty minded and talk about sex all the time, but people know I'm only messing around and that I'm not a complete pervert. This is pretty important... be fun, not sleazy. Personally I'll turn things she says into something dirty, then accuse her of having a one track mind. Things like that. I do this pretty early on to test the water and see how she reacts. It's pretty much to see if she's attracted to me, because if she is then she'll laugh and join in. Once I know she's attracted to me I just go into cruise control and start commenting on her appearance, what I'm gonna do to her etc. I combine this with push/pull so she doesn't know if I'm entirely serious or not, and I have a bunch of tricks up my sleeve for turning all this stuff into something physical. I'm not going into that though because I don't need to. Reason being, once you get to a point where you're quick-witted and can employ S&A stuff with good reactions, it's not exactly rocket science to figure out what to do.
I wanna go into more detail about the importance of this stuff being part of who you really are. If you think "that sounds like me anyway" or "that sounds like fun, I'm gonna go try it" then work away. If, on the other hand, you think it's just another trick or routine that you can just go out and use straight away, you're dead wrong. Don't use this shit unless you have the confidence, the frame and the personality to carry it off. You can't send newbies out to use this kind of stuff because it's free flowing and natural and it really does need to be you - you cant learn a bunch of lines and go out there to use them. It's a frame of mind more than anything else, and without that frame you're gonna run into awkward pauses or worse yet, feel uncomfortable doing what you're doing. Newbies will shit themselves if a girl gets offended and they won't be able to recover properly. Getting blown out is one thing, but if you use S&A and don't have the personality to carry it off, you will get blown out HARD and that's definately not something you want.
In short, S&A is a mindset. You've either got it or you don't... if you're not a filthy minded man like myself you can still practise and get good at it, but if you're in any way uncomfortable with it, wait until you are.
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