Hey,

There's a girl on my train to work, I only saw her yesterday and I just saw her again today, she's pretty cute. Anyway, I was thinking of a good way to approach her.

Normally, I'd just start a conversation but for some reason it feels a little weird. Bare in mind that I see her at 8:45am.

How does this opener sound?

Me: "Hi, let me ask you something"
Her: "Okay"
Me: "If you saw somebody you liked on the train and wanted to ask them to go for a coffee with you, how would you do it?"
Her: *Smiles* "Just like that"

Get number - meet.

I once was on a packed train.. sat one seat in front of a girl I really fancied. I was only going one stop and there was too many people in ear shot to game her.. Simply as I thought she'd just feel uncomfortable..
So I took out my phone and wrote a text message..
"Hey.. I just thought I'd say.. If we were in a bar right now i'd totally be chatting you up!" I Turned round in my chair and showed her my phone..
She read it.. Smiled.. And said thanks. I just smiled back.. turned round and had to go as it was my stop. As i walked down the platform she waved.
My plan was to talk to her if I saw her again.. Disappointingly I didn't. But it seems yours is there most days. I'd use that to your advantage.

Hmmmmmmm, I quite like that text message idea. Would work well if the carriage was packed as well.

Where I get off the train is fairly empty so I might just man up and start a conversation with her.

This works great ESPECIALLY if shes got headphones on (i know this is a common frustration)

step 1. sit next to the girl

step 2. take out one of your school/work books and read a bit

step 3. On one of the corners draw a tic-tac-toe grid, put an x somewhere and simply write 'your turn'..

step 4. beat her ass with your mad skillz

step 5. take off your headphones and signal her to do the same

step 6. say 'i cant study now.. you wanna play a game of hangman to kill some time?'

step 7. do some small talk and such, number close before getting off or do it next time you see her

This one I can recommend from own experiance, it works really good! Too bad I don't know how to continue the chat, anyone have some nice train-convs? Wow, this one I just have to try! Thanks bro!

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First off I want to say that I'm having a hard time aproaching in day broadlight or in clubs. But surprisingly my best pick-up worked in trains or in the bus when going from one town to another.

Luckily I'm pretty good at maintaining a good conversation with so many people so I have no problem in keeping the stuff interesting. I don't know why but aproaching in trains is so much easier and she can know you better because let's face it: she's gonna stay there and not leave anywhere untill she reaches her destination. Offcourse I'm not saying to be a jackass.

You'll be surprised but most of the time I open with:

Hi! My name is....(fill with your name) Nice to meet you...

And then the conversation tooks off depending on the situation. One time I remember that I've gone through several compartiments in the train and picked the only one with one chick and I've chatted the whole road (so you can do the same). One girl had a violin and I've started talking about what does she do with it. I've found out that she was in classical music and as I said then the conversation took a really good turn.

Another time a girl was reading something (it was more like studying for an exam) and I've opened with:

"You know if you are reading one more line your head is gonna explode" and she started to laugh and with this the conversation was open.

Last time I did it I just presented myself and she was wearing some really cool glasses and I've asked where did she got those? And then I've talked about how some people could modify their vision by training the eye muscles just like any other muscle in the body (I watched this on a documentary btw -> I watch a lot of documentaries )

I hope I helped you a bit. I'm still strugling with AA in day broadlight or in clubs. One step at a time though. Always improving never going back.

doesn't even have to be complicated like that.

the other day i was sat next to a beautiful asian girl in a lecture at university. room was pretty crowded and she seemed tired. she almost nodded off a couple of times, so i wrote her a note asking if she'd like some coffee during the break - otherwise she should leave the room and go home to sleep. she giggled and said yes to coffee. after the lecture she gave me her phone number - i didnt even have to ask.

it was a friday and later that night we arranged to meet in a bar. met her there at nine - back at her place at ten. mission accomplished.

I field tested your line, and it worked awesome as an opener as long as you have a routine/conversational skills to keep it giong. I think if you are getting approach anxiety, it is because the public transportation is just that - public. The idea of getting shot down by a HB in front of numerous people, in an awkwardly silent social setting is not high on anybody's list. Too get over this, I just thought about how all the guys on the train were jealous about not having the balls to go and chat up this girl, and all the women on the train are probably going to feel shitty about themselves because I chose to talk to this HB, and not them. I hope that helps. Anyways, I will post my field report in the other section for you to check out what angles I used.

Brilliant. I'm definatley going to have to try that.
That's also very clever, nice.

To be very honest i dont think i would use any of these. Some of them show way too much intrest in the target way too quickly. Remember you have to have her attracted to you before you start giving out SOI and showing too many IOI.
But then again im very picky when it comes to opening because i like to give the right first impression and not give the game away before i've even began. Sometimes if the wrong opener is used, you could have lost the set/target before you've began.

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Showing interest isn't always a bad thing...

Maybe so? But i tend to go by what i have learnt through life experiences and MM and DD.
You can do that and create some attraction, or you can stick by the teachings and create a high level of attraction. If you look at all the methods you'll find that they're very similar in one or another.
For me, justing opening and talking/flirting with them is already showing enough intrest, and you should'nt be so obvious when you first meet.

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To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we percieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.

I got a couple of numbers last week during my long train travels, here's what I used.

I would sit down next to the target and flash her a big smile and say
"Hey, you look pretty normal I think I'll sit next to you"
This usually gets a smile at least.

Then I'll whip out a book and ignore her for a little bit, then after a few mins I'll say

"Im just gonna pull this lil seperator down it's a little bit too intimate right now" smiling of course, which will get a smile or laugh.

then about 10 mins into the journy ill ask her

Me "Hey, is there a snackshop on this train?"
Her "Sure its xxx"
Me "Awesome, I havent eaten since I got back from my training, do me a favour and look after my book"
Her "Sure"
Me "Are you sure? Can i trust u Its a big responsibility are you sure your ready for that kind of commitment?"
Her "Yeah" hopefully a laugh.

Then go off, come back and say summin like

"awesome my books still there! thanks!"

From there theres all sorts of things u can say, what i try and do is find different ways to say normal boring stuff.

Instead of "What book you reading?"
Say "This book is doing my head, you reading anythign exciting?"

Also try "thats the third time youve sighed in the past 3 minutes, your book cant be that bad can it?"

Instead of "What have you been up to?"
Say "Been on any exciting adventures thsi week? if you havent make up a story and entertain me".

Basically I was trying to say things that maybe she hadn't heard before, even if the context was the same.

I'm new to this community, but I got 2 numbers this way and one of the girls had a bf ( I wouldnt have known until he called her while we were chattin, she kept that quiet).

Summer guy, welcome to the forum, and you perfectly exhibited how to reframe normal life questions into questions that harbor emotions in them. Well done.
Train rides are tricky because you don't exactly know how much time you are going to have with the target, so I would say you may have to try improvised mm. Open, attract, time bridge. That seems to be the way I would handle it.

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cool guys i was looking for an opener like this good one