On POF I've been getting SOOO MANY girls where we send a few messages back and forth and then they will just not message back. Usually when I say we should chat on MSN, but not even that. It is happening almost every time. Especially if I contacted the girl first. This is something that's cropped up that was not an issue before.

There seems to be a fair amount of interest on their part, then I eventually don't get a response back. Maybe they smell too much interest sub-communicated in my last message or something, as it's usually around the point where I do start getting somewhat interested in talking to them more. Should I send a follow up message to ask where they dissapeared to? Is anyone else experiencing this problem?

try making a fake profile with a picture of a pretty girl... chances are your message was lost in the abyss of her spammed inbox... however if you message her again she'll see the first one and it'll make you come across as needy =/. I'd just wait and resend another message thats almost like another opener. Sometimes I pretend I didn't even meet them and that i'm opening for the first time, and they reply again and then I go Oh wait I remember you! How embarassing i'm sorry. That gave me some success but It could of just been statistics

A lot of girls on POF are just wanting attention. I'd say a about a 3rd of them aren't serious about anything. So just chalk it up to "It happens." If it keeps happening though, perhaps you need to tweak something. That's just my 2 cents..

It may be you are not moving fast enough to meeting in person. Going from POF to MSN isn't exactly good, it is pretty dumb actually. As it can make the girl grow bored or loose interest in you. Most girls on dating sites do not want to spend forever talking on line only to talk for a month before meeting you. Basically if a girl does not give you her number or agree to meet at some place within 10 messages move on. Ideally you want it in 5. But really anything more than 10 is a waste of time.

You should have a phone number within 3 "turns". Giving yours out communicates that you've felt the girl out a little and you trust her not to abuse it. She'll likely text you (something like, "Hey, how are you?") or she'll respond to your message with her phone number. If this doesn't happen when you give your number out, I'd say move on; you probably found a girl that has no intention of moving things offline for whatever reason. In short, give out your number within 6 messages.

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Really useful thanks, I've just stared having a few messages back and forth on POF myself.

From what I've read on several girls profiles MSN in particular seems like a bad thing to bring up. Several times I see "No. I won't come on msn and cam with you. Don't even ask"


It's possible they think you're just trying to cam with her?

Half of those girls are probably really dudes

Ok thanks, That's great advice!

What you gotta remember is the free dating sites are full of sausage, the numbers of guys greatly out number the number of chicks on there, yeah there are plenty of freaks and weirdo's on there along with AMOG's and nice guys too... you have to be cheeky and make her laugh from the get go, be confident in what you're saying and number close ASAP, don't give her your number but tell her you're in town in the week and suggest she tags along because she sounds fun and is kinda goofy or something like that, tell her you should talk about the details properly and ask her how she would suggest you do that, she will either give out a number or SPAM, msn etc...

If you really want to get your online game going then find a pay site with a small monthly fee, girls that pay for these sites are SERIOUS about dating so it sorts out the attention seekers and fakes from those who are genuine.

Just my two pence worth... good luck!

GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER. Why the hell do people think it's a bad idea? It encourages her to give you hers; this is a great way to get a number without even having to ask for it.

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it's possible they have expectations from your profile that somehow you're not living up to.

Any dating site you go to pay or not is going to be pretty much a sausage fest. Saying that, a pay site can fair better as girls have a more vest interest in replying and meeting guys as they paid for it. Tho some pay sites make it so girls don't need to pay anything making it free for them.

Got a number a few days ago and texted this girl a couple times. She since took down her profile. When I asked why, she said it's because she's sick to death of guys that just chatter online and never push to DO anything. I think it's pretty pathetic, too.

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The reason why you shouldn't post your number but get her to give out hers is because EVERY dude is posting his number within the first message or the 3rd message, everything I've read so far and my experience in getting girls is you shouldn't be direct about this, build a bit of rapport, be a bit cheeky then get get her to give you her number but don't be direct about it, that's natural game according to Gambler and Adam Lyons, even Mystery and Style talk about this method of never giving a girl your number...the aim is to stand out and not be like every other dude trying to get his dick wet.

All I can say about POf, is to be careful about who you give your digits to...I have had some success with that site, but I have had to change phone numbers twice due to creepo chicks that were way to Low value to catch a hint that it was'nt gonna work...So I would just show a little discretion when offering out your number....there is nothing worse than a hurting chcik blowing up your celly when your with a HB10...

Thats my nickels worth....

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