So the title says it all. Ran game on this girl from MYB, had a lot in common, talked on the phone for two and a half hours thursday night, went on date friday night, hardcore K-close, and now...I can't get her out of my head. I usually don't value other people, especially women much, because most here are of low intellect. But this time it's different.

So I go to bdubs tonight to watch ufc 119, i call her in between fights. She doesn't sound very enthused about anything, even though I KNOW she enjoyed Friday night. Turns out her sister mentioned suicide, and she's absorbed with that now.

She's being very distant whereas the other night she was very into me.

I have made lots of mistakes as far as PUA is concerned, but so far it seems to have been working.
My PUA instinct says to back off, ignore her until she contacts me again. My heart says to try to talk to her more. Thoughts?

P.S-This is a bad habit of mine, to get too interested too quickly in a girl I like. How the hell do I change that?

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if her sister did bring up suicide then it would be hard to get a good read. if that was the truth then you shouldn't have much to worry about. i was writing more to talk about getting too attached problem. i used to go through that a lot before i ever knew about this pua stuff. it seems to me that the more women you talk to and get to know and go out with that the less impressed you will become. you have to just talk to many of them to realize that they aren't special. when you do this long enough you will find that most girls are about the same and to a degree interchangeable. yes there are special ones out there. i must say that there are. Some are a wonderful match and are on another level. My guess is that you have little to compare this girl to so she seems great. She may very well be great. To have control over feeling as you do, you almost have to make yourself sick of women to see clearly. It depends what you are looking for though. IF your goal is for love, maybe you don't want to lose that. All I mean is that if you want the dream of love then you may as well have it with all the vulnerability that comes with it. If you are looking more to play the field and be in control then no you don't want that. Experience does make that go away though. It did with me anyhow. It's almost business like in my mind nowadays.

Thanks man. One technique I've started applying is focusing on their flaws, lol. If I do that, I can keep myself at a distance.

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It's one thing for a woman to gain your respect in time but yet something else to just give them respect for no reason. Let's say you find someone that you think is a sweetheart. Odds are there is a laundry list of things she's done that cause you to not respect other girls. You are just unaware of it. You think you met an angel and she routinely blows strangers. NO, not all girls are that way but what percentage is? Just to put a number up, let's say it's 80 percent. If so, odds are your girl doesn't have a halo. Almost all of us have blemishes in our past. Don't run out to treat someone as if they are flawless. I'm not really disrespectful to women. But I will call them on their bullshit. You have to. You can't be scared to walk away and to make it known you will walk away unless things are a certain way. It keeps things manageable usually, it asserts yourself, and it shows self respect. Much of the time pushing the girl away actually gets her to do the chasing. There have just been numerous times where I'm bored with someone and i'll pick a fight when they do something that i can twist into being a slight. But I'll just says something like "I see how it is, talk to me when you get some bleepin manners". Then I'll just go invis on them and over the next several days i'll get a number of apologies and they will want to make up for things. In the meantime, I have several days to work on other girls. When i go back to girl number one, she will have something to prove. Very rarely do they turn it into a fight. If they do I'll just ignore them again. It's worth the risk as far as I am concerned. Most will act according to plan. IF 1 in 7 wants to argue, that's 6 that don't. Those 6 are locked into not wanting me angry and wanting to make a good impression. I find it to work pretty great and it's fun to push someone's buttons. Women are used to guys apologizing when they didn't even do anything wrong. When you flip it, they really don't know how to respond. You can't do it blindly though. You have to at least have a reason even if it is a flimsy reason.