Before you go into your automated "you didn't game her right" or "your texts were boring" messages... give me the benefit of the doubt. Here's how this went down.

HB9 hits me up, says my profile shows I know how to "proverbially kick a chick in the guts and make her bleed" and started qualifying herself instantly. I knew I was in. We kept exchanging flirty messages and then took it to text. I warned her that I might stop responding if she bores me, so as long as that didn't happen she could give me her number. She complied.

The text conversation was basically a few short Q/A's, I didn't let it get boring and didn't drag it out long at all, this was in the span of a few hours.

Then we exchanged schedules to meet up hopefully this weekend, she said, "where did you wanna go?" and I said "____" and she goes "OK I'll let you know really soon."

I already know that's the kiss of death, and I didn't bother trying to do anything (if I say "let me know by tonight" I feel like that'll just push her away, and if I say nothing she's not gonna do anything). I don't think I went wrong, I had this girl initiating sexual talking like "I can't find my panties from last night" and stuff. And yes, I participated in that too but made sure I was the one leading.

Do you think it was a fake girl or something? I dunno. This happens to me quite a bit. Any advice greatly appreciated.

Comfort, my man. Sounds like you ran great attraction but left out the comfort. Trust me, I've been making this same mistake for months and been experience the EXACT SAME FUCKING ISSUE... supposedly great interest from the girl online/over text, lots of flirting and sexy talk, even schedule a date... but then the bitch flakes.

So now I'm focusing more on comfort than attraction, because if you start talking on an internet dating site you both already know what's up.

Think of it this way... a girl is much more likely to flake on a guy she barely knows/has only met once/has never met than she is to flake on her friend. That's because both people have different levels of comfort with her. So you don't necessarily want to be the dashing young lad who charmed the pants off her but only flirted with her the whole time and you also don't want to be totally platonic to her. You gotta find a happy medium.

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Great advice. I guess I just neglect the comfort part more in online dating by default since I expect them to flake anyway.

It sounds like she went from green to yellow.

The way you set up the date agreement might have been the problem, can you post it?

I like what you said about not responding to her.

I might add that this girl seems unique. She almost asked for you to kick her in the whatever and make her bleed.

You might want to assume she is into bondage, maybe try this as a random topic shift like you arent even going to respond to her last one

"So how did you enjoy the 50 shades book?"

"I didnt read it"

"Lol you didnt read the book thats all about kicking girls in the gut and making them bleed?" (make this cocky funny though, this is just cocky and rude, im often not funny enough)

or she comments on it

Then you can maybe ask for her phone number, social security number, and the names of her last 5 boyfriends, or something (play it off like you are christian grey attempting to control her life because you are a billionaire control freak that she cant resist)

Then classic sale technique, giving you her number wont seem a bit deal to all that

Of course this is only if she really is into that stuff. But I don't see why she'd bring up you beating her up in a favorable light unless she was. Just like someone wouldnt bring up how their cousin is hot unless they were a bit off.

It's true girls you meet online will flake a lot more than girls you meet in person. The most important reasons, in order:

1) You never PHYSICALLY met her and never had a chance to leave a true first impression. You can fix this by giving her a call, or even Skyping.
2) Time wasters: plenty of girls online do it for attention/entertainment and aren't really looking to meet anyone
3) Already qualified herself: once you ask her out, she's already accomplished her mission. For the HB9s+, try talking to her over the course of several days (up to 2 weeks if necessary) before asking her out.
4) Last minute online dating resistance: girls panic and think "why am I even on this site?"

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prolly cuz most are nasty woman who are prolly trying to catfish someone from the beginning.

i wouldn't refer to the "Bondage" and kicking someone in the gut" thing at all. Kicking some one in the gut is nothing to do with bondage, she will think you are a sexually inexperienced fool that doesn't know the difference between BDSM and assaulting someone!