I got this girl off myspace, we have mutual friends but we had never personally met so it wasnt creepy. Anyway I had no problem attracting her online and im a pretty good looking guy so she liked my looks. However when we hung out it seemed that I bored her out of her mind, that is my problem with gaming I bore girls lol. Anyway here is the convo, what did I do right? BTW start from the bottom and work up, thats the way the convo copied. Thanks


No need to be nervous love, i'm sure everything will be wonderful... get better fast so we can hang out. lol....talk to you soon...

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Date: May 14, 2007 10:29 AM


Heyyy sexy! thanks so much, ya I'm really looking forward to it but kinda nervous as well, we will definitely hang out when things are all healed up, have fun in

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Date: May 13, 2007 10:44 PM


just wanted to say hi and hope you surgery goes well this week. good luck!

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Date: May 7, 2007 10:49 PM


My last name is , here is my facebook profile

actually ill just give you my number

that way you don't have to worry about anything haha

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Date: May 7, 2007 10:20 PM


gosh i hope you aren't some creeper. lol... i'll give you my number but first.... what is your last name?...lol.

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Date: May 7, 2007 10:11 PM


awesome... I go under the knife next week... u should give me your # so I can give you a call... IF you are comfortable with that hahaha

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:33 PM


i just have to turn in my last design project wednesday... i finished with everything else. So i'll actually be in town Monday...

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:25 PM

so when are you done with school and coming back to town?

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:17 PM


haha yeah i totally understand... wouldn't want a bad first impression.... i kid i kid...

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:10 PM


Well I will be all healed up by the first week of june but I want to give another week or so to let the swelling go down on my face because it will look like I just got my ass beaten haha

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:08 PM


so apparently we are both always on myspace lol.... surgery?... that sucks, i'm sorry... mid june ehh?...i'll see if i can if that into my schedule

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Date: May 7, 2007 9:05 PM


Thats tight... I'm thinking we could definitely hang out over the summer, it would have to be some time mid june or after that tho because I have to get surgery for a deviated septum and tonsils taken out...

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Date: May 7, 2007 10:30 AM


wow so you really don't even get a summer?... that sucks... yah private schools are bad about transfering over credits, i actually wanted to take summer school this summer but can't because has a rule that you can bring in hours after you have 54... its dumb but oh well.... haha we would make a good business team wouldn't we?.... i do have to say i'm more into commerial, i am planning on opening my own design firm and specifically designing bars, resturants and hotels...

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Date: May 6, 2007 11:21 PM


this summer is gonna be kind of boring for me... I am doing 2 classes each session in summer school because alot of the classes didn't transfer over so i have take all of these prereqs... and I'm working part time for this real estate developer down in , since thats what I'm going to do for a career... you know its kind of ironic but we would make a good business team... I would develop the offices/houses/condos and you would design the interiors for the customers? hahaha

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Date: May 6, 2007 8:01 PM


haha yeah i know i seriously get a million friend requests a day, it gets old lol. i honestly have never even talked to anyone on myspace that i didn't know personly so i understand. buttttt yes i am hispanic my mom is from spain and my dad is from puerto rico... no body ever thinks i'm hispanic. Most of the time people don't know what i am... i get everything from middle eastern to indian to exotic and you'd be surpised how many times i've gotten i look like jasmine from aladdin lol. it's funny i guess. but thanks. this summer i will actually be back in , i got an internship at an interior design firm in the .... what about you?

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Date: May 6, 2007 7:52 PM


haha I definitely understand... I went out to florida to visit my cousins over xmas break... they are both girls and everytime they come in town have my friends hitting on them... and they had like 50 adds a day from random guys and messages wanting to "meet up" and what not... but ive never dated a girl ive met off myspace... buuuut i did notice in your profile it says you are a latina, you look middle eastern... like syrian or lebanese... which is good because hot middle eastern women are really hot... but so are latinas like you... what are you gonna do for the summer?

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Date: May 6, 2007 7:27 PM


haha well thanks... hopefully that's true... and you caught me i only put that i'm in a relationship to keep weirdos away...

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Date: May 6, 2007 12:33 PM


sounds like fun... all interior designers are hot so I'm sure you will do well... your profile says you are in a reltaionship... are you really or did you just put that to keep the weirdos away?

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Date: May 6, 2007 11:34 AM


interior design... i was going to go to an art institute in cali but got scared because i didn't know if i was going to like design and then not be able to switch to business or something... and has the best university interior design program...

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Date: May 5, 2007 6:03 PM


what is your major there?

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Date: May 5, 2007 10:51 AM


oh well very cool. yeah i know what you mean, i miss like crazy. i have to admit, that nightlife there is a-mazing. but like you i had to go where my major was the best, don't get me wrong i love just sometimes i'm over it. ha.

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Date: May 4, 2007 11:20 AM


the entrepreneurship program at ... plus I missed , there is nothing like midtown

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Date: May 4, 2007 9:57 AM


ha small world. i'm actually best friends with his younger brother, ... yay but i absolutely love i am a Pi Phi... huh? what made you leave?

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Date: May 3, 2007 9:19 PM


I do not believe so... the only person I know who went to was , I know him through a friend tho were not personal friends... but is awesome... my best friend is a sigma chi there, i used to go there a lot when I went to ... are you in a sorority there?

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Date: May 3, 2007 9:15 PM


well thank you.... so we haven't met?.... apparently i thought the same about you since I accepted you. lol....

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Date: May 2, 2007 10:45 PM


actually I usually don't add girls I don't know... but you had the beautiful exotic brunette look so I couldn't pass you up...

Originally she asked me if we knew each other so I said the above.

Well... shit it's harder to say what went right when it's just a personallity thing. You made DHV well through friends and school. Other than that you may have just gotten lucky with the fact that you're good looking. I think you should post about the material you used for the meet up.
I will say I think you hit on her a bit too much.

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cool man, how did I hit on her too much tho? and i wasnt really doing material when we met up, just "being myself" like I was an AFC lol... but now things are changing

Hitting on Someone is an IOI. You want to get IOI's not give them(too much). You should do it more with your body language like eye contact and other things that show dominance and a connection. You are the prize, not her. So Don't act like she's a really hot chick, hot chicks get that all the time. Act like you're a really hot guy and she needs you and should like you're hot.

If you didn't really use material on her that may be a big problem. If you aren't cognizant of what you're doing; if you don't have a plan, you won't get anywhere, less you're a natural.

Peace be with you

thats true... going into the gym with no specified workout routine and you wont get any bigger... thats why most people look the same year after year

I agree with others. There's no gaming going on here, she was just attracted to you physically and it seems like you've got a lot in common.


This is totally the wrong thing to do. You've put her on a pedestal, and made her the prize. YOU are the prize.


Again, you complimented her, boosting her ego. I'd say something like 'Interior designers usually have such an interesting look to them'. The word Interesting is not really a bad thing, but she'll probably be expecting to be called hot or cute or sexy....so when she reads 'interesting', she'll have to question you why you said that. And then, she's letting YOU run things, asking YOU questions, and you've 'locked in'.


ACK!!! don't put 'summer', 'boring' and 'me' in a sentence together! that definitely is a DLV. Why would she want to hang out with you if she knows it's going to be boring?


This is actually good! It's an IOD, meaning that you're showing her that you are seeing her as a potential business partner... even though, it's obviously just kidding around. But still, subconciously, it works. Of course, with all the IOI's you were giving her it's not really effective at this point lol
Hmmm.... i wouldn't have offered my number here. You have to get her to trust you, build comfort. If you haven't done that, then there isn't much chance of things progressing.


Ok, i've said my bit. Now let me add on.......

Congrats dude!! She's obviously into you. The things that i've pointed out aren't to take away from your success. Any time you can get a girl interested, it's a win. I'm just pointing out some things to watch out for, so you can become more consistent.

Let us know how it works out.

I already fucked it up whenever I met up with her

Music - Excellent breakdown and great advice. I totally agree. Though I've found that with Online game you almost have to give your number first, at least I do. with the predatory nature of the online communities ladies are much more cautious. It's and added layer of distraction and reluctance. like trying to pickup a woman in a dark alley

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