Hello. Just had chat with a girl. We dated a long time ago at summer campus (7 years ago), found her again by accident so pretty much don't know each other. I want you guys to say where did I fail. She has a BF (status) and I was conveniently doing other business while chatting so I posted with delays (if it helps you analyze? I dunno). All of the following is translated from Russian (so meanings can be a bit shifted):
Me - Hi, so many years and you didn't get old(=age), huh?) u still tell other boys you are 14? (because she lied to me about her age to attract me)
Her - aha ha))
(small delay=up to 5 mins)
Me - So you look older)) (~more attractive)
Her - Hah, well now(=at this age, though she is only 20 now) it makes sense to lie that I am younger ))
( small delay)
Me - Nah) I like older girls)
- Stop. You speak Russian now? (when we met earlier she spoke Ukrainian only. Just genuine interest, not part of the game)
Her - Emm) well I can speak both now) I guess I spoke only Ukrainian earlier )
Me - Well I see something out of place(~changed). I was wondering its either your lipstick either your language )
- You study now?
Her - Yes, University)
Me - what you studying? )
Her - System analysis) and you?
(small delay, following are simultaneous)
Me - Physics. But I'm not gonna be physician - I have small company, quests )
Her - Cool))
Me - System analysis? ) Jesus, you like this stuff now? ) (she didn't earlier)
Her -Well after studying this I can do both programming and analysis) Or economics - but those are boring )
Me - Wow, so you are pretty much IT-girl ) (I genuinely respected that)) )
- And where do you study (tried to find out the city she is in)
Her - Kiev (Bla-blah) Institute ) and you?
Me - Hell, Ukraine is just one big village) (cause, after all, we happened to be in the same city)
- Me at Kiev National University )
- Ok, I gtg) lets meet tomorrow at 7 near (blah-blah) mall)
Her - I see ) (I thought she related to the second of my last 3 messages, not last, but now I dunno)
- Sry, I cant tomorrow)
Me - Well, as you wish) Ok, bye, write me if you wanna chat )
So what do you guys think?
EDIT: damn, I think the invitation sucked all of the balls possible. I was in a hurry and rushed it. Anything else?
It honestly seems like she was not very interested at any point in the conversation. This could be for any number of reasons but it could be because she didn't feel like she was connecting with you on any level above what she gets standing in line at the grocery store. The conversation seemed far too impersonal.
If you choose to move on I would not compliment her appearance at all, if you think something she is doing is cool that is fine to compliment. Also, ask more open-ended questions to try and get her more engaged with the conversation. Looking at your messages and then looking at hers she was never really engaged in any conversation, mostly just answering your questions. It may just be my morals talking, but trying to pull girls who are in a relationship is really scummy and against the code of manhood.
If you really cant see yourself with any other women, keep in light contact with her until they breakup, which they may not, and then make your move from there. I think you should just move on though brother.