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after having had a profile on okcupid Fora year here are a few suggestions of what has made my profile better. Also obviously different types of women look for different things. So I don't think there's perfection with profiles.
-brevity is the best. no one wants to read an essay; its online dating; think marketing advertisement and a brand
-pictures. Select pictures where your doing things.... Action photos
-don't pretend to be something you're completely not; completely lying and false personas never work... Also don't be funny unless generally speaking other people find you funny
-mention your best qualities but don't brag
Looking to hear from others what they think makes a good profile or what has produced more matches or messages....has anyone used elements of attraction? Made multiple profiles to brand themselves to different kind of girls
Right on Brother! I like your post! I certainly agree with you that you shouldn't brag in your post. If your best qualities are really that awesome she'll figure them out on her own.
I've posted on this topic a few times here in the past. Being honest and congruent with your dating profile is an absolute must. If you say you are into skydiving and volunteering at the local pediatric hospital burn center but don't do those things she'll figure out you're full of it pretty fast.
Profile pictures are HUGE! Action shots are best of you doing the things that you state in your profile you like doing. For me I like to chase storms pic of me out chasing storms was a must. I like shooting guns so that was in there, because honestly a girl who can't handle that was immediately ruled out anyways. Showing pictures of me out with my guy friends so she saw that I had normal looking friends was a good idea.
Also, a one picture maybe two of me with friends that are attractive women (DHV). This way she saw that other good looking women saw something in me enough to be a friend it was a preselection in a sense but you can't do too many of these or you look like a player.
In addition to that you want pictures that are good face pictures so she can see you a little more up close and some of you from at least the waist up. This prevents the whole worry of you not looking like you do with your pictures. And be sure your pictures are current. Within the past 2 years or sooner is a must. Ideally you want within the past year and keep these updated. Don't just set them and forget them, update them periodically as you go out and do things - take your camera or phone.
I personally do not like professional "glamor shot" pictures. These are staged and the person seeing them has the idea that these could be "touched up" by photoshop or things to make you look better than advertised. One may not be bad but these generally have the opposite affect making you look more fake than real to life.
Summary not essay. Leave some things to talk about on your date so she can get to know you. Putting some basic things in there are great. Don't write a novel or list too many hobbies remember you want to leave something to talk about when this person reaches out to you or vice versa. If they can learn everything they need to know about you in your dating profile then why talk to you?
You need to start your profile like you would a good public speaking engagement and that is what a solid introduction that captures your audience's attention so they will want to read more. DO NOT for the love of God and everything holy in life start your profile off with, "I really don't know what to say on here...." or things of that nature. So many people do that they all start to run together. We get it some people don't like being on online dating or feel bad about being reduced to meeting people that way BUT your audience reading it is on the same damn site so get over it.
DO NOT TALK ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS. If you are divorced or separated or whatever your status mark it honestly but do not talk about it. That being said if you have kids then be honest about that. Nothing worse than someone looking to meet people without kids only to find out they have kids later. For some people it is just a deal breaker. Same thing with smoking and other things. Just be honest!
DO BE HONEST ABOUT THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! If you want to date or relationship for someone for a long term relationship say that. If you want to hookup for Netflix and Chill then say that too. There are girls out there for all types of men looking for things and at different points in their lives. Do not deceive women into saying you want something long term if you just want sex.
There is more that can go into it but these are some of the basics. There are article after article written online in men and women magazines about making a good dating profile and spotting bad ones that have red flags. If you are serious about online dating educate yourself some before making a profile, once it is live people will see it. You only get one chance to make a good first impression.
What else do you guys think helps?
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