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Unfortunately, I have gender-specific social anxiety (aka "love-shyness") which makes it hard for me to cold-approach girls, or talk to them at all in a public situation. I often get lost in conversation because it's not obvious what to talk about. While I'm getting some support for these issues now, they are not going to resolve overnight and in the meantime I wonder if dating online would be an easier way to get some more experience. Does anybody here know of good dating sites for guys in their early 20s? I haven't tried Tinder yet either. (I should add that I live in New Zealand.)
Many people use a label,(aka "love-shyness")to describe the fear of starting a conversation with a hot girl. This is a common fear, and most people on this forum call it "AA".
Calling it anything is just lying to yourself, giving yourself an excuse to pussy out. It's just common every day run of the mill chicken shit.
The longer you have this attitude that 'you' have an actual problem, the longer you will use it to hide behind.
That is why the newbie challenge is soooo important.
You are facing your fears by doing random approaches. It just a hurdle that you must jump over. Go do it quickly. You’ll make tons of progress within a week of dedicated practice. And then you can move on to more important matters. Online dating is a start. There are a shit ton of free websites. Go to the online section.
And as for your false standards -it's delusional thinking, just another excuse not to launch the boat. Those are the perfect girls to practice on, noting to lose right? If you strike out, fuck up, piss them off, embarrass yourself, who really gives a shit? Try it. Once you see not a single one turned into a Yetti hunted you down and pulled your wanker off, it will get easier every time.
You'll see the fear is not real. The 'Psychosis' is not real. It's an excuse YOU created.
You want the pussy? Of course you do! Stop building you own roadblocks and walls.
You choose - The alternative, no pussy.
CHAT
