A few days ago, my family was having dinner at a restaurant, and invitations extended to boyfriends and girlfriends. At the dinner table, it was my parents, my sister with her boyfriend, and my two brothers with their girlfriends. I pretty much brought my left hand.

Today, my siblings suggest that I use Tinder, and I got a little offended. The way I see it, using Tinder (or any other social dating site/program) meant that you were desperate enough to turn to the internet to find romance. I’ve spent years doing pickup in real life, and despite not getting any firsts, I’m still determined to use my skillset in the real world to find a mate for myself. In fact, I still consider myself to be socially retarded, so to find myself in a relationship with someone while still being socially awkward is disaster just waiting to happen.

But on the other hand, maybe my siblings are right. Maybe it’s time that I try something new and start approaching things at a different angle. I could find someone online who meets my standards and take the easy way out in terms of finding a girlfriend without putting much effort into it. But then again, this is coming from a guy who’s never had any relationships before in his life, so what im saying could totally be wrong.

So to Tinder or not to Tinder. Should I?

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You're right that you would be better off gaming in the real world. With that said, Tinder can still be good when you got nothing else to do while you're in the toilet. You will also learn some text game and become better at it. Some general advice for Tinder is to not pay attention to the pictures or description and just swipe every girl to the right. The reasoning behind this is that most girls get bombarded with matches or messages all the time, while it's not the same with guys. You can save time by screening the girls after you match with them and start gaming more girls.

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This really belongs in the Online Game area and not Miscellaneous but that's alright. Tinder and other dating sites can yield good results. I agree with the above person that this should be supplemental to meeting people in person and not instead of. I know some people who only focus on online dating and you definitely loose needed skills meeting people in person, that you'll need on dates anyways.

Give it a try, give other sites a try, women are there for the express purpose to meet someone. That puts the odds a little more in your favor. With the right profile and good phone/text game it can definitely pay off. Besides when you are sitting around at home, it is a good way to pass the time.

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More people meet online these days. People said they would never shop online. Times are changing, go with the wave and not against it. You can do real life AND Tinder whilst you're on the lunch break at work. Read my sig thread to know more.

WillEdward, By the way, it is not a good idea to spam swipe Tinder. Reasons being:
- You get punished in the algorithm and will get less matches down the line
- Tinder is no longer free, so you better use those 60 free likes wisely
- The price of Tinder is at the mercy of how much you use it. For me it's $20 a month, for my friend, it is $5 a month

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I just realized how to do that, thanks DA

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Yeah, sorry for misposting in the wrong thread. I'll try to be more careful next time.

So what you guys are saying is that it's actually okay to use the internet so long as i dont entirely rely on it. I'd always thought of social sites as having a bad reputation, much like a Catfish scenario where two people finally meet in reality but only to be shocked or disappointed at what's seen before their eyes. A part of me actually wants to use Tinder just so i know what it feels like to have an online dating profile, get to know people who i can honestly relate to, and just find love in general; however, the other part of me doesnt want to use it because it thinks it's a sign of weakness and "cheats" on real world seduction. Plus, with monthly fees for using Tinder, money could be well-worth spent attending pickup seminars or improving my life without the risk for disappointment. But then again, what's to life without a couple risks? Perhaps there's something telling me to close my eyes and take that leap of faith.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

Close your eyes, and take a leap of faith!

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It's done.

It took me a lot courage to take that leap of faith, but I've finally made my Tinder account. It needs me to log into my FB, which means that I have a lot of cobwebs to dust off. And since I'm new to the social network, I've temporarily disabled myself from others so I can find some appropriate pictures to post, both from FB and instagram.

Here's what my profile bio looks like so far:
Hey, guys! I'm [nrjose27], and I like to do A LOT of things. My hobbs are playing the guitar and making drinks. My dream is to one day visit Paris, France (Je parle un peu francaise hon hon hon). I guess my only CON is that I'm a wee bit socially awkward (people say it's "cute", idk what that means), but I'm crawling out of my shell [shell emogie].

With the above profile, do I sound too needy? generic? tryhard? What other stuff should I say? and how could I stick out from all the other users?

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

That's a really bad profile. Too much qualifying yourself. It would be better to leave it blank than to use your example.

I used to use something simple like, "wealthy supermodel wanted"

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So just leave it blank and let the pictures speak for themselves? Got it.

Also, since tinder is directly linked to FB, does this also mean I should totally wipe out my interests?

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

No. Don't worry.

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Ok, well why is this some like big choice? How about do both? I'm on Tinder, Match, POF, OKCupid and a few others... in addition to doing cold approaches every now and then!
Given this fact you should not RELY on online game though. You should go out and try to talk to everyone!

I do try to talk to everyone as much as I could. Cold approaches are easy; I don't even have AA anymore. But to be honest, I really suck at balancing time to study for exams and sarging. Through Tinder, I could at least work on some aspect of my pickup in between intense study sessions. The real problem comes from me not building attraction after I deliver the opener. Openers are a cinch, it's just maintaining that alpha vibe until I number close. That's where my social retardedness usually seeps in. I'll look into midgame and see what I'm doing wrong.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

Okay, I've had Tinder for a while now and things have been pretty... quiet.

I've managed to have two matches, but i think they already lost interest. I've been aggressive using Tinder, meaning that spend a good hour-and-a-half doing nothing but swiping, but i'd get no results in return. I think it's time for a little troubleshooting:

• Am I severely limiting my results because I set an age & miles limit? Distance wise- I wouldn't want to see someone who's living in another state, let alone someone who's 30+ miles from where I live.
• Pictures I don't worry about: i know how to dress in style (I have a lil bro who's a GQ-fashion addict), but maybe it's what i'm doing that needs to be focused on. I've been thinking of posting a pic of me playing the guitar in front of people (leadership trait) and another pic of me making drinks behind a bar (unique skill).
• Here's my bio description: "No description available. Hit me up to unlock my stories and talents [lock emoji]." Does this sound too ehhh?
• Text game needs to be worked on really bad. I need to know how to stand out the right way without sounding too try-hard (or maybe sounding too mysterious?).

Other than these things, I don't know what else could me limiting my results on Tinder.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

PM me your profile and I will take a look. Be warned, I am brutally honest.

Depending on your fundamentals. You should least get one match per blast of swipes at the least.

I have a friend who looks like and overweight rapist that sells cig lighters to people in the street, and somehow thinks I can magically get him more matches.

To get more matches you need to NAIL the pics. Sometimes it's a long term goal before the pics can be up to par, such as going from over weight to in shape, going from dressing like a tramp to dressing suave.

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