Part III: The Holy Grail of Online Dating:
How To Craft Killer Introduction Messages
That Will Blow Her Mind &
Get You Her Phone Number
In 1 Email Message!
I want to thank you for sticking with me this far. We are about to get into it. The holy grail of online dating – the introduction message! If you followed the steps previously laid out then you are ready to reach out and start plucking phone numbers from the hottest women on online dating sites of your choice!!
You are now ready to get phone numbers and eventual dates from the hottest girls online using my proven and fool-proof online dating system. This is the real deal! It has taken me ten years to develop the message writing techniques I am about to share with you here now and for free. So sit back and prepare to have your mind blown!
Let’s begin by talking about the difference between a good introduction message and a shitty one. My messages are so tight that I can get a phone number from the very first message I send! I can do this consistently, with many different women, and across a variety of different online dating sites. The reason is that I understand the difference between a well written message and total crap. My definition of a well written message is one that gets you a phone number on the first try AND results in the girl actually picking up her phone when I call or text!
The rest of this guide will go over in detail the formulas to craft your very own “high converting” messages that can be used on any of the online dating sites and with the hottest women online.
The Importance of a Good Headline In Your Messages
Makes All The Difference In the World!!
The very first thing to discuss before we go any further is you headlines. I do not want you to underestimate for a second how important this factor is. We discussed it earlier in this guide but I wanted to bring it up again to really hammer home. The headline (next to your profile photo) is the most important thing needed to get “right” in order to have your message opened and read!
If you headline fails to do its job, all that time you spent writing that nifty message is time wasted because it’s going right into the recycle-bin! So take the time to craft some really amazing headlines and your response rate will shoot up significantly!
Let’s dig into a good headline a little further. A well written headline should grab her attention. Hot women’s inbox’s are flooded with messages form guys just like you who want a piece of her. She has to scroll through dozens of messages to get to yours. The first thing that is going to draw her attention to you is your very best profile photo, which has been discussed to death earlier in this guide. The 2nd thing she will notice is your headline!
The 3-Step System For Writing Killer Headlines That Get Your Messages Opened and Read!!
The headline needs to grab her attention and illicit an emotional response! This is the interesting part. It doesn’t even have to be a positive emotion!! Just make her feel something and you have done your job to build curiosity. Many guys think they have to kiss up to a girl to get her to read your message. This could not be further from the truth. In reality all you have to do is 1) make her notice your message above all the other crap in her inbox and 2) open your message and begin reading it!
Step 1: Write a Headline that Elicits An Emotion – This is where you can get really creative. You can ask her if “she is serious” about a photo she posted on her page as she had to be drunk when she posted it! You can slightly make fun of her clothes or something silly but don’t insult her too much! Remember this is meant to be a gentle slap and not a punch to the face! Make her feel a little emotion (positive or negative) but not enough to piss her off! Other things that have worked well for me is slightly making fun of their pet or username…
Step 2: Write a Headline That Makes Her Curious — Another thing you can do to get her attention is to peak her curiosity. You know – show you are different than the other guys on this site and make her curious about you. Tell her “I noticed something about you that other guys miss” or “I just had to tell you…” and force her to open the message to understand what you are talking about. In addition to eliciting emotion, making her curious about you can be very effective!!
Step 3: Write a Headline That Is Custom For Her – One final thing that you can do to make your message really stand out from the rest is to customize it for the recipient. Maybe you can start off by saying “Sup USERNAME…” and mention her alias. Or call her by her “astrological sign” or even by her “hair color”. Any of these things can be used to grab her attention by mentioning something about her specifically so that your headline stands out. Wouldn’t someone get your attention if they called out your name! Do the same thing on the dating sites and watch as your success rate goes through the roof!
Crafting A Message That Melts Her Heart & Mind; An instant Phone Number On the First Message!!
This is where shit is about to get real. I am going to tell you my very own, closely guarded secrets for easily meeting and dating the hottest of the hot women online. If you followed every step this far then you are about to be enlightened…
This is the final step. The last (and maybe most important) piece of the puzzle. But without the other parts this piece doesn’t work. So if you jumped ahead I suggest you take a few steps back and follow the guide closely up till this point. If you skipped any steps at all or “half assed it” this step will not work as good as it can. So no cheating! Go back if you need to and do it right. And for the rest of you let’s dive right into it!
5 Closely Guarded Secrets To Getting a Women To Reply…
AND My Secret Weapon Finally Revealed!!!
The secret to getting women to reply with their phone numbers is to use psychology on them. I am referring to 1) the psychology of selling yourself and 2) the psychology that goes on between a man and a woman; let’s just call this attraction for now!
A lot of guys or so called experts will tell you that your introduction message should be short and to the point. I disagree entirely! I think your introduction message should be a 1/2 to 1 page or more! Crazy! Right? Wrong! Let’s think about it logically for the moment…
On an online dating site you only have 1 tool to convince a girl that you are they guy for her and that’s your “written words!” Obviously you can’t reach through the screen and physically talk to her at this point so you need to seduce her with your words. And trust me brother – there is going to be no seduction going on with a few words like “Wassup! How you doing today?” You have to think far more outside the box than that…
Secret 1: Use a “Yes Ladder” – So what do you write to illicit a positive response from a girl you never met and spike her emotions to get her into you? What techniques can you use? I like to start with a system that salesmen call a “Yes Ladder”. This is a series of questions that you ask a person that ALWAYS result in her answering YES! You can start off by asking several of these right in a row to get her saying “yes-yes-yes!”.
By her “agreeing” in her mind, you now seem to “get her!” You already connected and it’s just your first paragraph! Good job… Keep this going by sprinkling additional “yes” questions through-out your letter. At the very end when you ask for her phone number, she is going to be trained already to say “Yes!” Trust me – this is a killer tactic and it works!!
Secret 2: Make Her Understand That You Know What It’s Like For Her – This one is huge too, and another principal of selling that works really well on girls! Make it immediately obvious to her that you understand what it’s like to be a beautiful girl on an online dating site. You can let her know that it must suck having to read dozens of messages from boring guys all asking the same lame questions. You can also tell her that it must get really old being kissed up to by “needy guys” or having to deal with the overly aggressive “horny jerks” that are talking about banging on the first message. This is disgusting to most women and a total turn off – but YOU get her!!
If you let her know that you understand what it’s like to be her, then you have demonstrated that you understand “the game” and “her world”. And if you’re a part of her world, and far more “in tune” than all the other “losers” on this site, then you must be a guy worth getting to know; because you are at her level! Make a girl understand that you see her world for how it is and she will have mad respect for you and will want to know if you are as amazing as of a guy as she thinks you might be!! We know that you are!! Remember this – hot girls date above their level and not below!
Step 3: Customize Your Message – This is a huge one guys! NO!! You can NOT get away with sending garbage “copy and paste” emails. Women spot this a mile away and it kills any chance of success you may have had with this girl if they detect it. So don’t do it! I know it takes a lot of time to write 1-off custom messages but it’s an absolute requirement for you to be successful! This girl has to think you are only interested in her and that you took the time to read her profile and write her a meaningful message. If you can mention specific things that she wrote about in her profile you are gaining many points by being the guy who “appreciates her” rather than the guy who “rushes in” and tries to trick her with a “canned” message like every other guy…
Take the extra time it takes to customize each and every message you send significantly by mentioning things from her profile. Refer to her by her username or astrological sign. Mention something about her “pet” or “children”. These are 2 subjects women will talk about to no-end and that’s just what you want!
But keep the questions to a minimum – re-phrase them as comments. I will tell you why in a second. For now just make sure the bulk of your message was written for them and can NOT be mistaken for a “copy n’ paste” message! Custom messages are the key to success… I know it takes more time to write custom messages but I will show you a secret tool I use to reduce this time ten-fold in just a moment!!
Step 4: Don’t Ask To Many Questions – This one is huge too! Many women check their dating sites from their phone while on break from work or school and don’t have time to reply to a lot of meaningless questions. So don’t ask meaningless questions! Instead make a lot of general comments. Just talk. She will correct you if you are wrong. But a woman likes a man with confidence who can make statements and NOT take up a lot of her time answering the same boring questions. She will respect you for it…
Just think how boring it is when someone asks you the same question 100x. This is exactly what is happening when you ask it too! Because trust me, you are not the only one asking the same lame questions! The real trick here is to ask the only 1-question that counts. “What’s your phone number and when can I take you out?”
Step 5: My Mind Blowing Awesome SECRET Weapon: It takes a ton of time to write these messages by hand. I know it! I have done it before and I know it works. But it’s also like a 2nd job because it can take 5 hours or more a day or more writing these highly detailed and well thought out messages one by one by hand. Nobody said that online dating was easy. But that was yesterday! The game changed for me and it’s about to for you as well!
I started using a software program called “Online Dating Genie” that automates the daily grind of online dating by combining the 5 largest dating sites into 1 interface — so it’s convenient and easy to use. It also automatically messages as many girls as I want it to by itself and it sends them highly detailed custom messages written for them based on specific information taken directly from their profile.
You can find more about it at http://online-dating-genie.com
. It has totally changed the way I date online. It saves me a ton of time and my response rate has gone through the roof because now I have a tool that works 24×7 to get me dates and it works without a break using all the tools and techniques I laid out in this guide. It’s definitely worth checking out if you are serious about your online dating…
By using the principles laid out in the guide and combining it with the power of a very powerful software application I have been able to completely transform my dating life. I am dating hotter women now than ever before and it’s easier than it’s ever been for me. Try these techniques out for yourself and I think you will agree that this success can be replicated!!
Wrapping Things Up;
Go Get ‘Em Tiger!!
I know how frustrating online dating can be. It was a ball breaking experience for me as well for many years until I figured things out. I am not saying that this is the only way of going about it, but this is what worked for me!
Feel free to change things up to fit your style and personality as you see fit, but if you are just starting out with online dating then follow this guide pretty closely and you will be able to mimic the same type of success I relish in on a daily basis!
Trust me – this stuff really works… Now go out there and sleep with some beautiful women for me! If this guide has transformed your love life like it has mine please message me as I would love to know all about it. Take care and happy hunting fella’s!!