Lovestruck London is an online dating site, which you effectively have to pay for, but does offer a free alternative.

I have been using it since two of my good friends have had success from it, but I haven't had as much "luck". I'm happy to figure out what I'm doing wrong and fix it, right now I'm figuring out what's up.

I have a "connect" membership, which means I pay for it and can message people, basically I used Google to find out how to use it, and found a thread from JoeSki called "Success with Online Dating (Now Updated!)" - Sorry, I can't yet post URLs.

My profile is a bit different from that suggested, but that message template has got me the best success of anything I have tried on the website.

The issue I have is simply the time spent to replies ratio. Since each message involves thought and structure, they take me around 15 mins each to write, my grand total is 33 messages sent, I got a mere 3 responses. Of those three, one was a girl who had a profile saying don't use the wink function, just write and say hi my message was "hi ", never converted to a date. The other two were the standard template, but frankly were a low calibre of girl, one bored the hell out of me, the others own opinion of her sexiest outfit was "jeans and t shirt". Looks wise they were a 3/10 and a 5/10.

My questions are:

1) Am I being unrealistic in my expectation of responses?
2) Is there anything I could be doing better?
3) Does anyone else have experience of Lovestruck specifically, and what are their views on the website?

Below is the text from my profile, it has six varied photos of me doing various things, one with girls.

Thanks in advance for your help,

Steve

Love is the most over used word in the English language. The word itself therefore loses a lot of meaning and potency. I love drinking. Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience, for all the people involved. We don't stay in love forever, and anyone who want's someone else to "complete them" has a lot to learn about themselves. A healthy, normal, loving relationship is a partnership of two independent people, which helps them both to grow spiritually.

When I think of my ideal relationship, I think of someone who is succeeding at life, like me, who I can spend quality time together with. We are always there for each other, listening and caring about each others adventures through life, ready to support the other when they need it. We help each other achieve more and more, and are also great friends.

So many people talk about wanting to meet that one in a million person, the way to do this seems very straight forward to me. Meet a million people. Is that too simple?

Dude - your profile text looks good, cept the last line about 1 in a mill. You kinda lose the flow there, you'll have to think of something else...
A message 'Hi ' is never going to work under any circumstances. You are missing the keys ingredient that she needs from an initial email which is strength and direction. You establishing your presense, you leading and directing the conversation, without being a dick in love with himself. 'Hi ' smacks of I have no idea how internet dating works and I have no character in her mind. It also isnt really congruant with your Don Juan profile. Unfortunately the real world 'Hi' which alot of women say they like, has no value in an initial email in the online world. Sorry to not be able to give a proper alternative of what to say... kinda at work and meant to be well, working.

My two primary openers which do convey the right qualities and have a general response rate of about 70% (all positive) from 7.5+ girls are these:
The Direct Approach Opener - I think its a sticky thread somewhere on here. Very reliable and a good baseline message if your out of other things to say. Also best with the professional non-humorous types of girls or those from differing backgrounds who might not 'get' your humor.
The Extreme AFC Opener - written by me, search my other threads, I put it up a couple of days ago. Also very reliable. Good with mega hottees as it kinda takes the piss out of normal ass-kissing AFCs and is extremely original. Best used with girls of a similar cultural background who you know would 'get' your humor. Also good for those with no text in their profile as it kinda takes the piss out of that too.

Good luck.