Why "I don't give a fuck" doesn't work

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PostPosted: Wed Mar 29, 2017 9:57 am 
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So a lot of times I hear or read guys say "I'll just do it, I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks!"

It's usually about:

> I don't give a fuck, I'll approach that girl
> I don't give a fuck about what others think
> I don't give a fuck, I'll just do it!

Now when I hear them say this, it's mostly a cover up of how they actually feel inside. They usually
feel like they do give a fuck - a lot of fucks.

They get tired of the insecurity and fear and shyness that they feel like the way to go is by saying

"I don't give a fuck y'all!"

And then they BOMB.

The reason why having this mindset fails so badly is because it's not true. It tries to ignore the reality
that you infact do give a fuck - a lot of fucks, and that you need to find a way of actually not giving a fuck.

So I want to propose a new mindset for you to keep, or repeat to yourself, that will actually work and
help you achieve this desired state.

Instead of "I don't give a fuck" I want you to say this:

"I am OK if that happens."

> I am OK with approaching this girl, and having her reject me in front of everybody.
> I am OK with exposing my interest to this girl, and have everyone judge me.
> I am OK if people I know think bad of me.

When you say I'm OK with this... you're actually rooting yourself in reality. When you say I'm OK you're
also scaring your body with the fact that you this can actually be OK.

"What? Really? I'm OK with it?"

Being OK with something is the ultimate path to freedom.

Fighting with yourself that "you don't give a fuck" is the path to inner struggle and even more anxiety.

So from now on, when you think of doing something and you feel uneasy about it, repeat 3 times to yourself:

I am OK if that happens. I am OK if that happens. I am OK if that happens.

And notice the difference in how you feel.

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 30, 2017 6:54 pm 
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I don't a fuck, and it works just dandy.

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PostPosted: Thu May 04, 2017 4:00 am 
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I actually like that. It's pretty clever.

But just realize that "I don't give a fuck" is not a literal representation of your genuine feelings towards the outcome. It's simply a coping mechanism that allows you to more easily achieve the end you are ultimately aiming for.

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

PostPosted: Sun Jun 11, 2017 6:30 am 
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I think i get what black phantom is saying though. It doesn't work because saying "I don't give a fuck" is incongruent with how you may actually feel on the inside. So by accepting and acknowledging the fact that "you actually do give a fuck"..and actually "letting go" with your actions in spite of everyone judging you, is how you actually not give a fuck. Correct me if i'm wrong on my interpretation of what you were trying to say black phantom.


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I don't a fuck, and it works just dandy.
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