(THIS IS A PRETTY BIG POST, BUT I HIGHLY RECOMMED READING AT LEAST THE FIRST PARAGRAPHS)
Have you ever been in a situation where you were making out with some decent chick and you were about to have sex but you weren't feeling horny and made up an excuse not to have sex (cause you were afraid of not getting it up)? Or have you ever been literally with some naked girl wanting to have sex with you and you couldn't get it up? ( Lets still consider you were calm and confident in both situations ). Alright, as I recently discovered, I'm not the only one, but there are thousands of young men out there with this issue: Erectile disfunction.
First I'm gonna introduce myself and tell something that happened with me short time ago.
Im 19 years old, virgin, never did very well with girls but from a year ago on, since i was introduced to PUA World, I've become a much better person. So I have been making out with girls with some ok frequency but sex chances have always been rare. I've had 2 real good chances to loose my virginity. In the first one, I messed it up cause I was pretty nervous, didn't know what to really do and the girl didn't get in the mood of it. It just didn't work. But in the second chance, which I'm going to tell the story in the next paragraph, I was calm, confident ( due to some good inner game I had built in the last months) and I still didn't make it. Here's the story:
I had been going out with a lovely girl. We went on 4 meetings and they were all basic stuff: kissing, huging, cuddling, talking, laughing, getting to know each other. Except the end of the 4th one. I drove her back to her house around 2pm and i was planning on sex escalating inside the car before she left. We started kissing and 1 minute or 2 later she let me suck her tits. I noticed she was horny and we could do some considerable sexual escalating and maybe have sex on that day. The only weird thing was... I wasn't feeling horny! And she's pretty hot... (probably the hottest chick i've made out in my life). Weird isn't it? I grab her ass, suck her tips, grab her nice hips and I don't feel like fucking her… She sits on top of me and starts rubbing her pussy on my... limp dick. I was relaxed and confident the hole time and thought some kind of arousal reaction from my dick would occur at least. But I felt nothing.
I told her I had to pee and it was better for me to go home and suggested meeting her again some other day. That was my excuse for not being horny ( willing to pee. No i was totally fine, didnt want to pee).
A week later she invites me to go to her house cause there would be no one in there. Hell yea! That was the day I would loose my virginity. But this time nothing would go wrong. I dint masturbate in the previous day so that I could benefit from it with her and eliminate every chance of erectile disfunction.
On the way to her house i was horny as fuck. Nothing could go wrong. I get to her house, we make out on her living room and my dick was almost hard. Seemed like everything was going well. Sometime later, we start to sex escalate... I take her shirt off... the more we kiss and the more we escalate, the more I notice my dick getting softer. My level of horniness decreased pretty fast. (WTF ?!?!?! )The sensation was totally weird. It seemed like my body wasn't recognizing the situation, it didnt know what to do and was not responding my will to fuck her ( I wasn't anxious and not afraid of performing bad, its just some weird sensation I can't describe accurately). And I was relaxed and confident the hole time ( until i realized i was not going to get it up). Resuming the history: I stayed at her house for 6 hours ( making out, talking, laughing, but no sex) and didnt notice any arousal level in my dick. I didnt take my cock out to her cause i was afraid of it not getting up, even with her stimulating it, and ending up in a embarrasing situation. But believe me, I was pretty calm and relaxed cause i thought i would have enough time for getting it up ( I insist on this cause everyone I searched for help, they told me that there might be some thought in my head thats not letting me calm and relaxed for an erection. Fuck that, when I was 10 years old I would get nervous as fuck, when I entered a porn website, and still had some fucking erections. And yea, believe me, I was confident with that chick).
The next day I'm completely bummed. Well, at least I had an idea of what could be happening to me. I realized that although that chick was hot, she wasn't as hot as the pornstars I would masturbate to everyday. I knew there was some correlation. I felt like if the chick was super hot I would get erect.
On the same day I find a website called Yourbrainonporn ( go check it out already ), saying in its first page " Evolution has not prepared you brain for pornography ". After watching videos and more videos of scientific explanation of how pornography addiction alters your brain function, your reward circuitry, your libido, arousal levels and attraction levels to real females, Im convinced it's definitely affected me. I have been masturbating to porn everyday (1-2 times a day) and thats some considerable addiction.
But what's wrong with porn? I thought it was healthy masturbating to it… all my friends do it too.
Science basically says that after masturbating to porn every day during many many years it makes your brain conditioned to sexual satisfaction by masturbating to pornography in front of a computer instead by real women ( doesnt mean you don't get turned on by real women, but you do get less). Viewing many porn videos (with super hot women) at the same time, multiple tabs opened, during hours, stimulates your brain at a such a level that it makes you less sensitive and less attracted to average real girls ( remember when you were 12 years old and you would get some random boners during the day at school, in the street or at the beach just by looking at some hot girl? Remember that you would get erect with such basic stimulations ? Thats probably when you started watching porn too… and from that time on you started not getting turned on by the same things. Alright, I believe you are starting to notice some correlation at this time).The scientific explanation is more complex than this is a resume ( go search for it if you wanna know how it exaclty works).
And for my surprise, I find many forums with people trying to heal from "Porn Induced Erectile Disfunction" relating really similar symptoms and sensations to mine. Yes, theres a cure for this problem. There's a way to reboot your brain and have your dick with kinda like that same old sensitiveness ( people say that after this SPAM, erection are so much powerful, you get so much more attracted to real girls, much easier to create strong connections, you feel attracted by smiles, you enjoy giving hands in a way more intensive way, and so many other awesome benefits).
Alright, this is BASICALLY how your reboot works: give a break to your dick and your head on sex. STOP WACTHING PORN and REDUCE DRASTICALLY YOUR ORGASMS for a few months ( Yea, this shit is crazy, but thats how it works, i gotta tell you). With little sexual stimulation during this time, your brain will disassociate sexual satisfaction by masturbating to porn ( your dopamine receptors will heal, scientifically saying) and get back to its old and normal working standart.
Im 12 days without having an orgasm. I can say it hasn't been that hard. I don't feel that many urges to masturbate and I feel soooo fucking much energy in my body. Im needing less time to sleep and also feel more confident.
PS: Im not saying that every case of ED among young people is related to pornography. I think there are other factors too but pornoraphy is a big one.
Well, visit this website to get really well informated about this thing: yourbrainonporn
Dont trust verything i said exactly like I said... This is a very controversial topic, but these are some bascis thoughts on the subject.
Search for forums and you'll see how many men are into this rebooting process and how many have recovered.