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PostPosted: Thu Sep 05, 2013 7:40 pm 
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(THIS IS A PRETTY BIG POST, BUT I HIGHLY RECOMMED READING AT LEAST THE FIRST PARAGRAPHS)

Have you ever been in a situation where you were making out with some decent chick and you were about to have sex but you weren't feeling horny and made up an excuse not to have sex (cause you were afraid of not getting it up)? Or have you ever been literally with some naked girl wanting to have sex with you and you couldn't get it up? ( Lets still consider you were calm and confident in both situations ). Alright, as I recently discovered, I'm not the only one, but there are thousands of young men out there with this issue: Erectile disfunction.

First I'm gonna introduce myself and tell something that happened with me short time ago.
Im 19 years old, virgin, never did very well with girls but from a year ago on, since i was introduced to PUA World, I've become a much better person. So I have been making out with girls with some ok frequency but sex chances have always been rare. I've had 2 real good chances to loose my virginity. In the first one, I messed it up cause I was pretty nervous, didn't know what to really do and the girl didn't get in the mood of it. It just didn't work. But in the second chance, which I'm going to tell the story in the next paragraph, I was calm, confident ( due to some good inner game I had built in the last months) and I still didn't make it. Here's the story:

I had been going out with a lovely girl. We went on 4 meetings and they were all basic stuff: kissing, huging, cuddling, talking, laughing, getting to know each other. Except the end of the 4th one. I drove her back to her house around 2pm and i was planning on sex escalating inside the car before she left. We started kissing and 1 minute or 2 later she let me suck her tits. I noticed she was horny and we could do some considerable sexual escalating and maybe have sex on that day. The only weird thing was... I wasn't feeling horny! And she's pretty hot... (probably the hottest chick i've made out in my life). Weird isn't it? I grab her ass, suck her tips, grab her nice hips and I don't feel like fucking her… She sits on top of me and starts rubbing her pussy on my... limp dick. I was relaxed and confident the hole time and thought some kind of arousal reaction from my dick would occur at least. But I felt nothing.
I told her I had to pee and it was better for me to go home and suggested meeting her again some other day. That was my excuse for not being horny ( willing to pee. No i was totally fine, didnt want to pee).

A week later she invites me to go to her house cause there would be no one in there. Hell yea! That was the day I would loose my virginity. But this time nothing would go wrong. I dint masturbate in the previous day so that I could benefit from it with her and eliminate every chance of erectile disfunction.

On the way to her house i was horny as fuck. Nothing could go wrong. I get to her house, we make out on her living room and my dick was almost hard. Seemed like everything was going well. Sometime later, we start to sex escalate... I take her shirt off... the more we kiss and the more we escalate, the more I notice my dick getting softer. My level of horniness decreased pretty fast. (WTF ?!?!?! )The sensation was totally weird. It seemed like my body wasn't recognizing the situation, it didnt know what to do and was not responding my will to fuck her ( I wasn't anxious and not afraid of performing bad, its just some weird sensation I can't describe accurately). And I was relaxed and confident the hole time ( until i realized i was not going to get it up). Resuming the history: I stayed at her house for 6 hours ( making out, talking, laughing, but no sex) and didnt notice any arousal level in my dick. I didnt take my cock out to her cause i was afraid of it not getting up, even with her stimulating it, and ending up in a embarrasing situation. But believe me, I was pretty calm and relaxed cause i thought i would have enough time for getting it up ( I insist on this cause everyone I searched for help, they told me that there might be some thought in my head thats not letting me calm and relaxed for an erection. Fuck that, when I was 10 years old I would get nervous as fuck, when I entered a porn website, and still had some fucking erections. And yea, believe me, I was confident with that chick).

The next day I'm completely bummed. Well, at least I had an idea of what could be happening to me. I realized that although that chick was hot, she wasn't as hot as the pornstars I would masturbate to everyday. I knew there was some correlation. I felt like if the chick was super hot I would get erect.

On the same day I find a website called Yourbrainonporn ( go check it out already ), saying in its first page " Evolution has not prepared you brain for pornography ". After watching videos and more videos of scientific explanation of how pornography addiction alters your brain function, your reward circuitry, your libido, arousal levels and attraction levels to real females, Im convinced it's definitely affected me. I have been masturbating to porn everyday (1-2 times a day) and thats some considerable addiction.

But what's wrong with porn? I thought it was healthy masturbating to it… all my friends do it too.

Science basically says that after masturbating to porn every day during many many years it makes your brain conditioned to sexual satisfaction by masturbating to pornography in front of a computer instead by real women ( doesnt mean you don't get turned on by real women, but you do get less). Viewing many porn videos (with super hot women) at the same time, multiple tabs opened, during hours, stimulates your brain at a such a level that it makes you less sensitive and less attracted to average real girls ( remember when you were 12 years old and you would get some random boners during the day at school, in the street or at the beach just by looking at some hot girl? Remember that you would get erect with such basic stimulations ? Thats probably when you started watching porn too… and from that time on you started not getting turned on by the same things. Alright, I believe you are starting to notice some correlation at this time).The scientific explanation is more complex than this is a resume ( go search for it if you wanna know how it exaclty works).

And for my surprise, I find many forums with people trying to heal from "Porn Induced Erectile Disfunction" relating really similar symptoms and sensations to mine. Yes, theres a cure for this problem. There's a way to reboot your brain and have your dick with kinda like that same old sensitiveness ( people say that after this SPAM, erection are so much powerful, you get so much more attracted to real girls, much easier to create strong connections, you feel attracted by smiles, you enjoy giving hands in a way more intensive way, and so many other awesome benefits).

Alright, this is BASICALLY how your reboot works: give a break to your dick and your head on sex. STOP WACTHING PORN and REDUCE DRASTICALLY YOUR ORGASMS for a few months ( Yea, this shit is crazy, but thats how it works, i gotta tell you). With little sexual stimulation during this time, your brain will disassociate sexual satisfaction by masturbating to porn ( your dopamine receptors will heal, scientifically saying) and get back to its old and normal working standart.

Im 12 days without having an orgasm. I can say it hasn't been that hard. I don't feel that many urges to masturbate and I feel soooo fucking much energy in my body. Im needing less time to sleep and also feel more confident.

PS: Im not saying that every case of ED among young people is related to pornography. I think there are other factors too but pornoraphy is a big one.

Well, visit this website to get really well informated about this thing: yourbrainonporn
Dont trust verything i said exactly like I said... This is a very controversial topic, but these are some bascis thoughts on the subject.

Search for forums and you'll see how many men are into this rebooting process and how many have recovered.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 06, 2013 3:25 am 
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I've not had much problems with ED but I somewhat support your claim.

I've practiced not masturbating to porn although it's hard at in the beginning after the first few days or so it gets easier.
The feeling of not masturbating is effective almost immediately maybe depending on how often you do it, but all the same it's a more confident, aggressive, embracing experience. Feeling more like your own man.

Now given it's easier said than done at first but I've paid attention to the one thing that will make it EXTREMELY easier: KEEPING BUSY
- Going outside
- taking a walk
- hanging out with friends
- even reading a book

Now for the somewhat part.
I only partially agree because I've found a loophole.
When you choose not to masturbate, as I mentioned, you'll feel more like your own man. Although in all honesty deciding "I won't ejaculate unless it's from sex" since sex may not happen often for everyone (for those who it does, you're all good then) is easier said than not burping the worm to.

So the loophole I've found is simple as well. Compromise and Reinforcement.
I can say you won't feel nearly as masculine from masturbation drought unless you took roids' although when you feel the effects of not wanking it; Embrace it.
Study your thoughts, and reinforce them if you have a more "I don't have an extra fuck to give" mentality, reinforce it. If it's a "I care, but only to things I see fit" mentality, reinforce it. Realize your feeling, repeat, and enforce it over and over and over.

The reason for this is because you're going to have the urge to masturbate, so? its natural. But so is falling back to checking your favorite model on Pornhub. So compromise.

For example; On weekends, I'll masturbate on nights I haven't scored BUT on weekdays, where I interact at my college campus, No masturbation during the week.
If you say "I'll never masturbate" you're bound to give in, if you say "I can hold out until ___" it's easier because all you're doing is holding to your own commitment.

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Another tactic I personally use is when online/phone sarging there's usually a few girls who I end up getting their panties wet and sexting. So my compromise is "If I can get this girl to talk dirty by ___ then I'll wank it and really make her wet, if not, then I'm going to sarge some sleep instead.

Simple as that.

Also: Credit to my first discovery/practice of this goes to Sopherium post752575.html?hilit=Delta%20fos%20B#p752575


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 09, 2013 12:12 pm 
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Im on day 16 of my reboot ( 16 days with no orgasm ). Its not that hard, sometimes i feel the urge to masturbate to porn but its alright to resist. I have in mind how bad pornography is and that makes easier for me no to do it. I feel much more energy in my body, I have a much longer productive day, I dont want to break this energy by masturbating. Im starting to feel attracted to girls that I wasn't when I watched porn. Average girls are looking much hotter. Its feel like im attracted to her female energy, I dont know, its crazy. I havent got all the sympstons of a total successful reboot, but im enjoying my life without porn and masturbation and it feel like I can do it for the rest of my life with some effort. Thanks for your tips too!


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 6:37 pm 
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what do you guys say about jerking on imagination not on porn... is it the same or?


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 11, 2013 9:08 pm 
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I've read some good amount about this hole topic and what I've read about masturbating to imagination is that its less harmful to masturbating to porn. But if you wanna go through the reboot process its recommended to reduce drastically the amount of orgasms during the first weeks of this period. The less you orgasm the faster will be you reboot process. Orgasming by sex with a real girl, in the other hand is beneficial cause rewiring your brain to real women is something good and one of the most important things in this process. But its recommended still not to have many orgasms even with real women. I dont know, seems like 1-2 oragsms by sex per week is alright.

Check out yourbrainrebalanced forum, there are tons of people there who know more than I about the topic.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 13, 2013 11:40 am 
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This video is exactly on this topic. After seeing it, I decided to stop watching porn.:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

Pretty intense, right

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PostPosted: Fri Sep 13, 2013 8:09 pm 
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Yea dude I was schocked when I found those things out. check out yourbrainrebalanced forum there are tons of people out there abstaining from Porn and giving tips to each other and telling how they feel like after months with no porn.


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 12, 2013 12:58 pm 
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I understand how you feel, man. I have had the same exact thing happen to me as well.

Long story short, I had recently hooked up with probably one of the hottest chicks in my uni. I was excited as hell and couldn't wait to bring her home! Then one night we went back to hers since there was nobody home. Everything was going great, sexual tension was in the air, couldn't have gone better, I thought. However, at the point when she started taking my pants off, I realized: Hey, why am I not feeling horny? Hence, my dick was limp. I tried to arouse myself by making out with her, sucking her nipples... no effect at all, so nothing happened. The next day I was freaking out - what's wrong here? I am 20 years old, I've got perfect health and now this? It didn't make sense because I am typically a very horny person. So I thought it must have been an unlucky combination of jet lag, alcohol and sleep deprivation.

A couple of days later we were all alone again. I tried not to think of what happened last time and just enjoy myself. Unfortunately, the same problem appeared. I managed to stimulate myself to the point where I put my condom on, however this time I didn't last shit. What the hell?, I thought.

From that point my confidence plummeted. I was really concerned with this problem. Following your logic it could have been a porn overdose, however the chick is really hot and I seldomly watch porn! The only logical explanation after thinking on it was psychological stress. When I think back on the nights we spent together, I realize that I was actually feeling anxious about sleeping with her all the time. On the one hand, the fact that I was a virgin as well, and that I was overly anxious with how things would go about, had been stressing me out all night long. On top of that, the whole pressure I had put on myself to make things work have probably had a major influence as well.

So in my view, yes, you shouldn't do a porn overdose. Giving yourself a good break from masturbating also helps a lot in terms of your confidence and sex drive. However, as I have come to understand, I was actually scared shitless of having sex with her (keep in mind that I also thought I was confident and calm at that moment!). It's the subconscious fear that's the main problem here, and I think that it's what's stopping you as well.

Hope this helps mate, good luck! :)


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 04, 2014 10:58 am 
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Thanks bro, nathan. You opened my eyes man. I am 26, till date all only mastrubation for hours and hours, but no sex. I watched a lot lot lot porn, i think porn makes us socially shy coz, we keep mastrubating at it, rather than meeting people..I am a live example, i feel very fucked up in social settings, i dont have a single friend, i dont have a single relation apart from my family, i am intelligent but i am at present unable to even face laymen, they have higher confidence than i do, i also feel like a dumbwit at times interacting with them, not being able to argue, hence porn is dangerous than poison, there is a video against porn on Ted, its great..thank you..


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 16, 2014 10:36 am 
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Your post has been really helpful to me. Thank you, see this:

The article, The invisible grip, on website by name esquire. Its about eye contact.


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 16, 2014 3:25 pm 
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I read the first question and stopped. At no point where I were making out I didn't have a boner or At least a stiffy . I watch an abnormal amount of porn to. Maybe I'm a special case and I have a lot of hornyness . I do have to say tho it doesn't take a lot for me to get going.
Edit:
I read a little bit more and to be quite honest there isn't really a moment where I'm being sexual aroused and I was calm or relaxed. My heart rate goes threw the roof. (Which is a good thing) I'm gonna be blunt here, maybe your gay? Sorry don't mean to diss or anything. I'm gonna keep reading
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So I read a little bit more and skimmed most of the porn thing.
Although I don't know if that is your problem to your ed I congratulate you on staying porn free for so long . I've gone 3 weeks with out master-bating and It was tough, I actually went 5 weeks total with out porn but I did masterbate after 3 weeks. I would love to stop, but the urges are so strong when your near a pc all the time .

I hope everything works out for you. Oh and I totally would have asked that girl to start sucking on your limp dick to see of it would respond . Sometimes that can get it going.


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interesting post. I'm actually on 12 days off right now myself, even before discovering this thread. I think porn does bite your sex drive (especially if you do it constantly), but only at the final stages of pickup - the actual sex.. like, even when my sex drive sucks, i will still perform the same in the field. quitting watching porn doesn't make an mPUA and

besides, after not ejaculating for a long time, it will just come out during my sleep, and that's just messy.


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Thanks bro. You opened my eyes man. I am 21, till date all only mastrubation for hours and hours, but no sex.

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 11, 2014 5:57 pm 
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it's not just porn. it's social networks and the intenet in general.

but, if you think quitting it will make you superman, then you gonna be quite disappointed. it will not.


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First glance at this post, being how tired i am, i almost decided to skip it. But you said to read the first paragraph so i did, then i finished the rest because i was quickly captivated. Thanks for sharing this! Fascinating stuff right here.

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