Anyone have any other advice besides 3 second rule and act fast and don't think about it? My approach anxiety is just too strong to act that fast.
Consider your approach in general. Ask yourself some of these questions and see where you come in. This will be something you do BEFORE leaving the house.
1. What do you have to offer? How can you contribute to the interaction? Useful belief: " I have all the skills and assets to make sure she enjoys the interaction as much as I do."
2. Why do you approach? What is the outcome you are looking for? Are you setting the bar too high? Useful belief:" I want to meet that person and make her day a little brighter."
3. Do you freeze up? Have nothing to say? or do you not know how to progress the interaction? Useful belief: "Everything and anything that comes out of her mouth is a gift." Even rejection - since in a long run you may not be compatible anyway. She is saving you loads of time, money and frustration.
4. In general, if people are healthy and not psychologically damaged, they welcome the interaction and love to meet new people. They love finding people of quality who have something to offer (doesn't have to be material). That's also called networking.
Pickup will teach you the ropes, but ultimately you have to have strong AND compelling reason to approach.
Hope this makes sense.