Sex Addict - Dude, mega props for your game.


Playa - "The secret to not giving a fuck is to literally not give a fuck"

What that means is exactly what SA911 said - if you're already successful with women, what does it matter? I'm not deadpan, I'm not stoic. I'm not a zombie - when I go to a club, I enter the place smiling, upbeat and energetic. Why? Because I dictate MY mood. If I walk in alone, I'm immediately smiling, and making conversation with ANYONE near me. Guys, girls, waitresses - it doesn't matter. I show I'm comfortable in a group setting, always positive and I smile - a lot. I find women take notice and many will comment that I seem like I just have it all figured out (subliminal implant success).

As stated, I'm not outcome dependent. The chicks I meet now aren't "new or special" (yet). They're just next. They're just one more potential addition to the stable. Until they show me they're worth culling my herd for them - I don't.

BUT - I've also passed over the that 'dark side' of PUA - I truly don't give a fuck anymore. Many guys tell you it's 'mindset'... It's THINKING "She's not controlling me, I'm controlling her"... I think that's all mental masturbation. I don't allow a woman to control me. It's not even a blip on my radar. I'll allow her to THINK she's controlling me - I don't care. It's a mental challenge then. And, if I'm pumping hard in to her an hour later - what does it matter?

Define your goal - them map out how to achieve it. ANYTHING off the path to achieving that goal is wasting time. That's how I've embraced my life - and how I embrace pick up.

Best,

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

@Sexaddict

What you up to man? Me again.

You've probably answered this ton of times but, right now, I don't have the time and the will to navigate through 50pages.

I've been trying some daygame cold approaching but with low success.
I've been inspired by Sasha's stuff on this matter, so I try to be direct. But somehow I found it hard to stop the girl and make a connection. She'll answer, thank you and walk on. Probably she's a bit creeped out. . .

Do you do daygaming? And if so, do you have a kind of style?

Indirect approach, build comfort, try to establish a connection, observe body language, look for signs of interest, then become direct.

Every woman will have a threshold to comfort. Once you past the threshold her body language will open up, this is when you can start to work on a connection.

Whats important is that you follow her cue's and go at her pace. Show a lot of positive energy and make the interaction fun. ( this will loosen a girl up fast)

Initial attraction is important, but it's not the be all and end all, if it's not there 100% If you can paint the picture of fun and excitement in your presence, you can still intrigue the woman enough to set up a day 2, or even an instant date.

What's important is that you get her past that threshold of comfort, this is when you can see the personality type of your target and dictate your game accordingly to her and the reads you get.

If you can't manage to engage the target long enough( time constraint) to build comfort and establish a type of connection, then by all means be direct right away. But always start off in a polite friendly manner, with a very positive energy.

Make it appear as though you never do that, but you couldn't help but approach her and express your desire.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

The secret ingredient in my daygame!

Spot on!!!!

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

For the newbies reading this thread:

Who in the REAL WORLD does one thing, but feels the need to 'appear' as they're doing something else? Who in the REAL WORLD tries to appear to be one thing, but does another? Try this exercise and write down the names of people you know who actually practice this sort of thing.

Is ^this an attractive trait or a repulsive trait? Avoid being the village idiot.

800 seems like a small number for 38 years old. I surpased that before I finished college

In the real world who doesn't do one thing and appear to do another is the real question? This world is full of manipulation from the point of commercials to how you talk to someone to get them to do something.

At what point can you be direct with a woman during day game? Can you walk up and say you are sexy my biology says your ass and tits are the right size. Your face is pretty enough and you have youthful enough look for me to fuck your brains out.

When I manage I ask with a please to get someone to do something, but I expect it done it's not optional. That is saying it nicely but really it's not a question. Everything we do is manipulation from a woman getting her husband to do a little extra to fake mad. Perhaps you saying you did something you didn't to make yourself look good.

If you are a homosapien you have lied which means you appeared to do one thing but did another. You are just reaching for straws and look pretty stupid when you say shit like this. I don't feel like writing down every name in the world, but you need to stop with your ridiculous attack because it's blinding you to reality. You really look like a jack ass.

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Comments like this - really don't help.

They muck up a thread.

Thanks.

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

They help as much as the claim itself?

In the Real World, you will notice that those who do positive things will most often attribute those actions to hard work and thoughtfulness. Meanwhile, the guys who get the 'guilty verdict' for doing something really stupid will attribute it to external factors such as:
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Ironically, you seem to have some negative feelings about those who lie and cheat to get what they want but seem to have no problems justifying your own negative actions with the idiocies of others.

Any how, none of ^this has to do with my reply. My initial criticism isn't about lying. It's about having to create silly fantasies in your head and living out delusional lies. The OP advises to "Don't worry about being alpha. . ." But go back and take a look at some of his rants, "I am alpha. I am so alpha. I am bull. I am this and I am that." - Is this an attractive trait or a repulsive trait? Do you normally like to socialize with those who say/advise one thing but behave the opposite way?

This is pick up. It's not that complicated. And doing ^this is repulsive.
I don't have a direct reply to this . . . it just seems worth repeating.

I don't have any negative feelings about lying, I'm a realist. We all lie, we all say one thing and do another. We all manipulate. You made such a broad spectrum statement it is out right disappointing, every single person has said they are one thing and have done another. You are full of shit if you say you haven't that was my point. I won't ever allow you to say you haven't because then you'd be lying to everyone here, which also makes you a hypocrite (something I have said to you in the past).

Do I go out of my way to lie about shit? No, I am honest, forward, and sometimes even a little too blunt though I've learned to be a bit more diplomatic when I state the truth. I am a grown man, I have no reason to lie about things but I have lied in the past(we all have). That is my point.

Your behavior on this forum is repulsive and often makes you look like the village idiot, you lack tact and diplomacy. You are a smart man on a PUA forum with no social skills, why would any of us listen to you about women? PUA is all about social skills, and you have none, it's hard to take advice from you. You have narcissistic behavior that is very distasteful, yet you come on here talking about someone else being repulsive? Your behavior is never attractive on this forum, and you ask what is attractive? You don't seem to have any clue what attractive behavior is because you certainly don't illustrate it.

It's just getting ridiculous, you don't like someone so you say things that are out right ignorant and stupid. After that you comment on their intellect, behavior, who they are as a person. It is just hard to respect anything you say when you are so blinded by your dislike/hatred for someone that you state bold untruths.

I'm no longer replying to you, I've said what I need to say.

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Sexaddict, others, please give me advice on this situation ignores-questions-vt139398.html

thanks

This is an excerpt from Grammer, Kruck, Juette and Fink in "Non-verbal behavior as courtship signals: the role of control and choice in selecting partners" as published in the Journal of Human Evolution and Behavior 21 (2000) p. 374:

• Male deception about intentions or male quality may be the result of male±male competition and female mate selection standards. The content of male advertisement is controlled through female and male perception of an optimal mate. Indeed, men report that they attempt to deceive women with status symbols (Buss, 1992), whereas women use deception to enhance their physical appearance. Men also use deception more often when they try to attain a short-term sexual relation. These low-investment copulations have been cited more often among men than among women. Men test continuously for opportunities to reduce investment and pursue women (Landolt, LalumieÂre, & Quinsey, 1995; Townsend, Kline, & Wassermann, 1995). When comparing them against the background of male deceptive mating tactics, women should have evolved psychological mechanisms that motivate manipulation of men to reveal information about their intentions (what relationship is he seeking if any Ð short or long term?). This evaluation should take place without male awareness of female evaluation along this dimension (in which case male deceptive efforts might be intensified). A consequence of this strategic female influence is that men should be less aware of being manipulated for the purpose of revealing information about their mating intentions and interests and, indeed believe that it was them, rather than the woman, who initiated and guided the interaction.

Deception for purposes of courtship (pick up) is not limited to the human species. It also applies to insects and other animals. It's universal. According to the same authors as cited above, some counter-strategies to courtship deception include:

• 1. Hiding of intentions
  
  2. Tactical deception and misinformation
  
  3. Adaptive unpredictability

Newbies should be aware that a field tested pick up technique is effective on field for the simple reason that it's universal both in the animal kingdom and insect kingdom. Meanwhile, newbies should also think critically about marketing fluff and branding. Someone might be positioning another fellow PUA as the village idiot without provocation so he will look cool and wise.

Bullshit will always be bullshit no matter how it's packaged. It's just that some bullshit make sense while some do not.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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^This is what every criminal says about the behavior of others. "Hey, everybody steals! I just got caught, that's all." - the reality is . . .unless you're a professional actor or a really good thief, you get CAUGHT every day. This is why the OP has never gotten the results he seeks.
This is only partly true. My behavior is repulsive to ONE particular know-it all retarded liar who uses this forum as his personal outhouse. In real life, I am just as repulsive to such characters. Delusional liars have no place in my life but hey, this is a free forum. By the way, the moderators (who are just as, if not more repulsed by the OP, are bound by forum rules to leave lying idiots alone). Being a lying idiot apparently is not against forum rules. Personally, I have never met anybody in either real life or online who works so hard to contradict himself so much to make an absolute retard of himself.
He has the intellect of a broccoli, yes.
He behaves like a baboon. . . yes. (Try reading this thread from the beginning.)
And all of this is the reason why he is a 38 year old low life oil squeezing massage boy. In REAL LIFE, people like this get kicked out of social groups and work groups. And it's because of his unbalanced level of high self esteem vs. lack of real talents that he will remain here. And this is why he lies and lives in a World of make-believe. If this is the future you want, go ahead and follow everything he advises.

Really? So should I consider all of these as well?

http://www.cracked.com/article_15926_th ... tuals.html

The point is that we are NOT animals. And in the REAL WORLD with REAL HUMAN beings, those who pretend to be what they are not are those who are not what they wish to be. The OP has wasted half of his life 'wishing' to be what he is not. Lying about it doesn't change anything.