Well, I think the subject line makes it pretty clear. I've had a problem lately with a girl who I met at a party I hosted and slept with. She pretty much won't leave me alone. Drunk-dials, pop-ins, and other assorted annoyances. To add to the problem, I am a college student, and even though there are 25,000 other students here, her social circle is close enough to mine that she can mess up my reputation. Is there something I can say or do to get her to leave me alone without making her want to screw up my rep? Or do I need to wear a disguise when I go out?

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I am the Alpha dork

Sounds likea tricky one. If i were you id slowly start ignoring her. Dont do it all it once, just slowly make it clear you're no longer interested in her. Also if she knew u were spending time with another woman she might give up as well.

Another strategy is to pull them into the friend zone, and just slowly push towards that.

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Sinceriously,
Serj

Develop the great habit of messing up her hair for fun.

This caused one of my ex's to break up with me.

Apparently it causes 'knots' or some shit.

Her hair was soooooooooooo soft!!

I once seen a girl who hated when i touched her face. Have you tried being up front about things and just say "Look i like you as friend". Just be honest in a nice way but im not sure this will always work

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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me. ~Winston Churchill

Man, just tell her the truth.

Call her: "Hey XXXX, I need to talk to you. Can we get some coffee tomorrow?"

Let her know you just dont have the feelings you need to invest further in the relationship and that you dont wanne be an asshole who doesnt pick up the phone or tell her lies.

Ask her what she would have done in your shoes.

She will respect that.
Nothing as powerful in theese situations then the truth.

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered

If anyone has a truly good answer to this, I am interested as well!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Actually I do have a good answer as I've had this situation a few times before.

One thing that works really well is just to refer to her as 'mate' or 'man' or 'dude' at the end of every sentence. This might not seem like much to us but for some reason it seems to work really effectively on girls, in that they feel they are tangibly being put into the friend category. In fact I did it to one girl recently over text and she replied with: "Mate!? Is that all I am to you, just a MATE!?...".

If ignoring doesn't work, the attitude to have is just a really nice, boring, generic attitude. Like if she texts you just reply with: "yeah good thanks. How are you?" Or if she says what are you up to, reply with "Not much. You?" Eventually she will get bored.

Another technique is to try and have really long conversations about really boring topics. Might sound funny but it works well because they try and play along but eventually get severely bored and are forced to run away from you or face the wrath of your boring and endless conversation.

The final thing I would do is to focus on changing her state of mind. Try and elicit feelings and states that are not conductive to pickup. I always talk about work, for instance, because she can relate to this, however it takes her completely out of the seductive frame.

In summary:

1. Refer to her as 'mate'
2. Have a nice/boring attitude, offer no value
3. Have long conversations about boring topics
4. Change her state into a boring/bad one, e.g. talk about work & stress.

These are what have worked for me in the past. Ignoring is not often the best solution because it can generate more interest. Often attack is the best form of defense, so being needy and following some of the more aggressive steps above can work well.

You know all those things girls do to LJBF us? yeah, tables have turned.

Just treat her as a friend and steer away from her making you sound linked.

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Raf! You are the man! Basically you say that being lame will get rid of her! I am definately gonna try that!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

i would tell the truth. it's maybe harsh. but just tell her you don't want to put energy in this relation. and blablabla:d
or you could just start to act afc:d

I'm in a similar situation but its just a girl from class that I haven't hooked up with, or even flirted with for that matter. She's what we in the field like to call a Stage 5 Clinger (e.g. I cant get on facebook without her commenting on my status or starting a chat convo, she texted me and I definitely never gave her my number, and she keeps trying to have inside jokes and call me this really dumb nickname). Normally I love getting this kind of attention from girls, but she's not attractive at all and I know I wouldn't ever hook up with her even if I was black out drunk, so its becoming really annoying. Its a sticky situation because I know I will continue to see her around campus until I graduate in 9 months.

So far, I've made up excuses not to hang out when she invites me to social events. I have also made sure to only talk to her about boring, interview topics like classes and school, pretty much the opposite of what you would try to do if you wanted to pick up a chick. My most recent strategy is when she texts me, I give close ended responses that send the message I am not interested in her. That only led to her continuing the conversation until she finally got the picture, but then she immediately got on facebook and posted a status that was definitely directed towards me, i think it was a song lyric like 'I think we have a shot, are you gonna kiss me or not'. She's desperate!

I know I've kind of been rambling, but the bottom line is IF SHE'S A STAGE 5 CLINGER, YOU HAVE TO TELL HER THE TRUTH TO GET RID OF HER
Other strategies like being a dick, flirting with other girls in front of her, and ignoring her are only gonna make her more attracted to you.[/b]

Or you could just tell her you think youre attracted to dudes haha

I do number two all the time.
Some years ago I would panic if a girl fell for me. I would be all awkward, and try to tell her I wasn't interested any more.

Keep her as a friend, just ler her "clinglyness" fade away. Keep replying to her texts, behave as you would do with a friend and you'll be in good terms with her and no one gets hurt.