| Control is an illusion of the ego. We want to believe that we can control anything, but really the only thing we can control is our own actions, and that's only when our subconscious doesn't get in the way.
Really since sex is the primary motivator for most people's actions, both men and women, it really isn't a hard sell. The truth is that most of the time, men and women are working toward the same goal, and they just don't realize it. Women aren't trying to work against us. They spend hours try to look sexy, go to sex filled clubs, dance in extremely erotic ways; all to try and have some sex with someone who understands his part in the mating process. The problem is most guys don't. They don't know how to start an interaction, build an interaction, set up the details necessary to get from interacting to sex, and how to do all of this while not seeming creepy or douchey.
The girl is not in control of the situation, but neither is the man, they both are. It's like a dance, the man has to lead but it take two people working together. Just because you're leading, doesn't mean you're in control. One wrong step from either of you and you could fail. If you aren't in rhythm, you will fail. If she doesn't submit to your lead, you will fail. If you don't lead properly, you will fail. Dancing is all about cooperation and teamwork. And so is game, most guys just don't realize it.
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