Hi all,

I just did a small research on nervousness, and I wanted to share it with ya'll. Let me hear what you think about it'

Nervousness:
Nervousness is because your trying something 'dangerous' something that is 'not safe'

Nervousness is being cause by doubts, in PUA, doubts about yourself if your able to win over a girl.
Why do we doubt ourself? Because you only have 1 chance to prove/show/presentate yourself, which causes insecurity.

We all know, we can prevent doubts bij preparing ourselves, which most people here do in the forums, finding a good line/routine gives us security, which makes us feel safe.

from what I think, nervousness are 3 things
- Insecurity
- Doubts
- Feeling safe

Now that we had that, lets talk about being yourself.
By finding line/routines on forums, you try to feel secure, kill your doubts and that way you feel safe, about approaching girls.

Ofcourse, this is great. But would picking up girls not be a lot easier if you weren't nervous and had to look up routines/lines and NOT BEING YOURSELF?

Isn't CONFIDENCE what girls like in a man?

I like myself, I respect myself, I'm really confident. But when it comes to approaching girls, I ALWAYS get nervous. Ofcourse, but what is there to be nervous about?

Is appraoching a girl something I actually got to feel
Insecure, doubting myself, not feeling safe about all of a sudden?

How to kill your nervousness:

- Insecurity
Insecurity can be killed, by feeling secure. When presentating, I got mates in my class who study a week from before and pull out quite a nice presentation!

When I have a presentation, everytime when I have to do a presentation at school, I feel secure, because I get compliments about how good I am at presentating, I KNOW I'm good, so I feel secure.

Instead, why not make up in your mind that your GOOD at picking up women and act like you KNOW your good at picking up women.

- Doubts
This is what the 3s rule is made up for, the 3s rule is to prevent overthinking, and doubting yourself. Usually at this part, when approaching girls, I dont use the 3s rule but I think "JUST DO IT"

- Feeling safe
When you feel secure, and have no doubts, I bet you'll feel safe and have nothing to worry about when talking to a girl.

.. So theres my mini-research, please tell me what you think and if needed feedback. I'd appreciate it

- Appss

I tend to disagree.

Nervousness comes from wanting something but not being sure on how to get it (being competent)

How do you get competent? Go out, get in awkward situations, experience it all. Do it.

Routines and lines are great tools to get you out there. But just consider them tools. DOING SOMETHING without them would be alot harder if it had to come out of 'nowhere' like you're suggesting.

I'm the exact opposite. I get nervous if I'm relying on canned material. When I'm being myself, and I lose my ego, I quite frankly just don't care.

Nervousness is a physiological state, for the most part. If you get over the physical aspects of it, the mental aspect becomes easy.

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