| I saved this awhile ago I can't remember where I saw it or the PUA who replied but its definitely worth the read.
Headline: What am I doing wrong?
Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm
a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old
girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New
York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes
at least half a million a year.
I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a
million a year is middle class in New York City,
so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this
board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I
dated a business man who makes average around
200 - 250.
But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock.
250,000 won't get me to central park west.
I know a woman in my yoga class who was married
to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca,
and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a
great genius. So what is she doing right? How
do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give
me specifics - bars, restaurants, gyms
- What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys,
you won't hurt my feelings
- Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles
on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really
'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer
married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop
dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village.
What's the story there?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows -
lawyer, investment, banker, doctor. How much do those
guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where
do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend?
I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY.
Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out
there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are
superficial; at least I'm being up front about it.
I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if
I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture,
sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
THE ANSWER:
Dear Pers-431
I read your posting with great interest and have
thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer
the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as
a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than
$500K per year. That said, here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me,
is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why.
Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a
simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and
I bring my money. Fine, simple.
But here's the rub: your looks will fade, and my money
will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is
very likely that my income increases but it is an
absolute certainty that you won't be getting any
more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset
and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a
depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates!
Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay
pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each
year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35
stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a
trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the
rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense
to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd
rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel,
I would say the following. If my money were to go
away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I
need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal
that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about
efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as
"articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful"
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy.
I find it hard to believe that if you are as
gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't
found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make
your own money and then we wouldn't need to have
this difficult conversation.
With all that said, I must say you're going about it
the right way. Classic "pump and dump." I hope this
is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort
of lease, let me know.
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