ok now i have no problem with being shut down by a set after talking with them for 5 mins. thats completely normal , to them im just some random guy and they dont even know me. if they did get to know me theyd realize im not the monster that my approach has made them believe i am lol.

no my problem is pre determined rejection. by this i mean hooking up with a girl one night getting a great vibe, connecting to them , lowering all defences and letting them see the real you only for them to turn there back on you 30 mins later.

that shit stings.

as an example i was with a HB8 the other night and i isolated k closed with real ease and arranged to meet later so we could go back to hers ( id only been out for and hour and wanted to spead some time with my boys ) but then when i bumped into her later in the night she seemed cold and distant. i dont know maybe anti slut defence? anyway i moved on and ended up in the toilet with a 7 but i still cant the other out my head. sounds stupid but it all comes back to the idea of wanting what i cant have. god thats fucking childish.

im not even completely sure what question im trying to ask here and just realized that this is all pretty jumbled.

how to stop it from happening ?
how to move past it ?

i dont know , just wanted to put it out there i guess and see what everyone else had to think

all feedback is appreciated

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Happens all the time. It's normal. and not just with picking up chicks but anything that is kinda fun and entertaining whether it be fishing, tennis, mtn bike riding etc etc. You have fun, you say, "let's get together and do this again some day but 'some day' never comes.

Chicks are real bad at it. they get caught up in the moment and they get excited and aroused by the attention and stimulation but when the arousal is broken and they get into a nonsexual state then they start to come up with all the reasons that they should NOT hook up with you.

If you came on to them in a bar and had a make-out and then you went and banged some other chick in a toilet, then they know you are a player and once she is a nonsexual state, she's knows that if she goes back and hooks up with a player then she will feel like a slut.

You can finess it if you meet someone in normal everyday life and things get a carried away. You may be able to recover and just say that you both got carried away by the chemistry and she might give you a second chance. But if you are out hustling chicks in bars, you gotta go for it cause a lot of women will regain their senses and walk away from a player once the spell is broken.

cheers for the quick reply mate.

yeah youre completely right. i suppose the solution would be not to interrupt the moment and just to continue escalating and not to allow the illusion (?) of spontaneous romance to be broken.

its bizare but my last months oneitis ( its a common thing for me lol ) told me on my first night of hooking up " you dont like it when you cant get what you want ". thats really stuck with me.

also what you said about normal life is something im gonna try out, i really need to start doing more direct day game approaches. no excuse not to really .

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