For the first time in a long while I'll be writing a post on here where I have no idea what I will say in it. I feel as if my heart needs to speak, perhaps even to tell myself something. Im simply going to let my heart speak, my fingers the vechical through which its words will be delivered.

Truth be told, I'm not even sure I'm going to post this but if your reading these words then I guess I have.

Ask anyone. Ask my friends, my family, the girls i've dated, anyone thats every met me and they will all tell you the same thing. They will tell you that I'm the happiest person they have ever met. That I'm always so full of positive energy and that I'm always looking on the bright side and reminding others to do the same. They will tell you that i'm almost never sad or depressed. "

"Almost."

Tonight I write this with a heavy heart. My big ball of positivity has bounced into the back seat and my passenger is an emotion I have not seen in a long while.

"Regret"

Its my fault for not seeing Mr. Regret coming, the blame lays soley on myself. I should have known that he is never far behind his friend...

"Doubt"

For the first time in a long while I have also experienced doubt. You see, not long ago I decided to enter into an exclusive relationship with a woman truly amazing. If you have known me for a while or have followed many of my post you will know that I've always been against exclusive relationships. I feel that long term exclusive relationships rarely work because humans are not designed to stay with one partner until death.

I've always had multiple girlfriends and always loved it that way. I envisioned myself being that way until my death. And you will have to forgive me for this sounding like a Hollywood story but then something happened... I met the woman that I would call my Girlfriend for the next couple months.

Over these last couple months this woman has touched my heart in a way very few women ever have. Keep in mind, I meet new women pretty much every day. I know the difference between some silly one-itis and true feelings...

This woman is absolutely one of the most amazing people I've ever met in my life. She is headed towards even more great things and she deserves every bit of it. That is why tonight, I had to break her heart.

This certainly isn't the first heart i've broken but being the selfish person I am, I never really care much. I explain to them what kind of man I am, what they can expect and they fall in love anyways. I didn't lie to them, they knew what to expect. I feel no regret for breaking their heart.

However, with this girl, we had an understanding of commitment and exclusivity. She trusted me, as I trusted her. I thought I was done sleeping with so many different women. I thought I found a woman who I would be happy being with, and only with her. In the back of my mind however, there was Doubt. A little part of me doubted that I could ever be with just one girl. I've always told everyone that I could never be with just one girl until I met this girl. I wanted to be with just her, and most of me thought I could.... all except that little piece of myself that doubted it.

You may be wondering, what of her feelings for me? This girl was falling in love with me, fast. She was in bad relationships before where she had her heart broke so she was cautious to commit to people, cautious to love them. But I had broke down that barrier and shown her that its okay to be happy and to love again. She was falling for me big and fast.

She is an amazing person who only offers value to the world. She truly has a heart of gold.

Unfortunately my doubt had merit to it. I cheated on her. I was right all along, I am simply not made to be with one person. This isn't what depressed me. What depressed me was that I knew she would be destroyed if she found out.

After some critical thinking I decided the best course of action would be to break it off with her before she fall totally and completely in love with me. Yes, she would be hurt but the hurt would be less now than it would be when her feelings grew even stronger for me. I knew that if I stayed with her, I would only keep hurting her and I care for her way to much to let that happen. So I let her go. Its for the best for her and I know that.

It hurts me to know I deeply hurt someone whom I care about so much but I also knew that i made the right choice in preventing further hurt to her.

Now she can go on and accomplish those great things I knew she will and I so desperately hope I have not ruined her ability to love but I know that if I stayed with her, eventually I would have ruined it.

She will continue on with her life and accomplish those great things, and I will continue on with mine. I will, however, continue on with the lessons that I have learned from this whole experience and I will be a better man for it.

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... I need more 50 posts so I can thread in the lounge again.

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I think you missed the entire point I made with the post...

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I didn't read the post.

I also just said I posted only because I need 50 posts so I can make threads in the PUA lounge on this account.

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That is unfortunate but I've got 4 things to say

1. Stop being so melodramatic
2. You fucked up - you deserved this shit
3. You can tell her how you feel, tell her you cheated on her, but you don't want to break up with her and tell her what you honestly think about her
4. If she gives you another chance show some restraint - every time you see yourself with another woman, think of her and how valuable she is compared to some temporary pleasure

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I was always interested in people who believe they can't get into relationships with girls because they think it's unnatural.


I think that alot of these beliefs, which became trends, are making it more extreme.

For instance: thousands of relationships all over the world are happily living together with each other for a long term period. Then suddenly, scientists discover that men are polygamous and that nature has not build them to stay with one woman for a long period, and they publish that and the news gets hot and spreads. The next thing you see is a sharp increase of men only having fuck buddies with no strings attached, not carring about them too much cause nature made them that way.
This could have been a resume of a large scale , scientifical research, experiment (would maybe be unethical) or observation.

As a social sciences student, my questions arises: why could couples stay hapilly together before the event and why is the balance disturbed since the news?

I assume that when men believe they can't have LTR with girls, that it becomes reality. Like the Thomas theorem says: "if men define a situation as real, they become real in their consequences." In short: if you believe you can't have LTRs, you won't have LTR. This is appliable to many aspects of life. A familiar example: if you believe you can't get girls, you won't get girls.

I'll hope you'll think about that. I am sad to read that you might have lost this special girl because of a limiting believe. I believe that you should always take the golden midway, between the two extremes. If you wish, fuck as many girls who make you horny, but open up when you meet a girl you realy like and don't be affraid to try a real relationship. Keep a healthy balance between fucking many women and having a LTR.
I got some realy confident and succesfull male friends who have a pretty long relationship of like 2,5 years and they are realy sattisfied. They also experience things that people with only casual sex or fuck buddies don't experience, like some intimate stuff and going on vacations.
If you don't have many LTRs, it should not be because you think it's unnatural, but because you haven't met a girl yet who managed to trigger your full interest and who make you feel like noone else did before.

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I don't want another chance at an exclusive relationship with her. As I thought before, I'm happier with multiple women. I did a little experiment, seen if I could be exclusive, found my answer, and unfortunately hurt someone really awesome along the way.

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I see what you saying and I agree, however, what your saying doesn't fully describe me. I did open up to her, I have no problems with that.

Also, I do disagree that 2.5 years is a long relationship.

And yes, I agree with the statement that if you only have fuck buddies you often times dont get to experience a deeper level of connection. However, if you have multiple GFs, you can still experience it.

I really don't believe in the Hollywood creation of "the one." I don't believe there is one special "soul mate" out there in the world. Out of 4 billion females on this planet, there is certainly more than "one" girl for you.

The truth is, different women are right for you at different points in your life. Also, take anyone who has claimed to find "their soul mate" and I can guarantee a few things:

1) This person probably found the "soul mate" within the first 500 women they have known. 4 billion women on this planet and they really think they found her out of just 500 or less? This leads me to my next point...

2) No matter how special or awesome she really is, and no matter how many qualities she possesses he loves, out in that 4 billion I can guarantee there are quite few women EXACTLY like her and other who are even better.

That being said, i'm not a cynic. I'm not against finding a person who you share a unique bond with and loving them and only them for as long as you wish. I'm also not against finding multiple women you share a bond with and loving them as long as you wish either. There is no one right way to go about love and relationships. But no matter how a guy chooses to go about it, I just hope they don't get fooled into the whole "soul mate" idea.

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It is only a matter of time youngster. Your fall is coming.
Like most pick up guys on here.

You really think you are the shit, going around breaking young girls hearts.
It's only a matter of time until it happens to you. LOVE

Then you can experiance heart break and all the shit that goes with it. lol

Just pointing out then obvious.

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Its getting Hot out there.

Its all to easy.

I want to be a tree!

LOL.

Been there, done that.

Had my heart broken before, might have it happen again one day. I'm okay with that, its all part of the human experiance.

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What i like is that you are prepared to say it EXACTLY LIKE IT IS.

Hold on a minute.

WTF.

I feel a bit emotional. (erghh) thats womens behaviour.
Must be ill.

Hold on a minute. I'm Alpha............... or i think i am.

Where is my confidence gone.............?
Feel a bit confused and full of doubt...?

Errrrrrrr.

I'm a broken PUA.

Fuck. I might revert bact to AFC.

OH FUCK.............. arrghhhhhhhhhhhh.

So what do you do.

I don't know. lol

Ask Kasabi.

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Its getting Hot out there.

Its all to easy.

I want to be a tree!

LOL, wut?

I don't feel like an afc for being emotional, thats part of the human experiance. Everyone feels emotions, its only the "wanna-be alphas" the feel that can never show it.

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