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Text messaging is now a fact of life, learn how to use this tool properly, or have a handicap with every teens-late 20s woman in the United States. I’m going to explain how to text competently – however, if I were to go in-depth about why everything is the way that it is, this brief texting guide wouldn’t be nearly as brief. I should also note before beginning that this is texting game, and should be applied to only women that you’re interested in pursuing a sexual relationship with. I’m in no way saying that you can’t send female friends lengthy text messages for no reason. If you have any comments or questions, feel free to drop a message below and I’ll get back to you eventually.
Unlike men, women need to feel the entire gamut of emotions, not just good feelings. They’re not happy if they don’t have something to bitch to their girlfriends about – like their alpha boyfriend being a jerk to them. Like reader Fabian, from “Don’t Date Him Girl” blog:
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He had several “lady friends” who stayed the night at his house and he claimed they were “Just friends”. He frequently forgot important details about me, such as the fact that I had a sister, my birthday and what sorts of hobbies I had. He blew me off constantly, would return calls a week later with the excuse of “I was busy.” I often spoiled him with gifts, rides and sex only to receive a bag of Skittles in return. (I don’t even like skittles!) That was the only gift I ever received from him! I met a new friend and we were bonding over “worst ex-boyfriend stories” and suddenly we realized “boy, a lot of these sound the same… Was his name ____?” IT WAS THE SAME GUY!!!
For texting, this has some implications. If you are texting just to text, this is going to build up more and more rapport and familiarity (positive emotions). Familiarity breeds contempt, as does perceived availability, while too much rapport without physical escalation lands you directly in the “friend zone”. Idle texting builds all three of these.
Texting has one purpose, and that’s to arrange a meet-up. This is your primary directive in every text conversation.
When in doubt about whether or not to text, always refrain from texting. Generally speaking, in text messaging you have everything to lose, and next to nothing to gain by not replying. When you don’t have your body language and ability to convey emotion as you do in-person, killing your chances is as simple as saying one thing that may be taken the wrong way.
Now we’ll move onto the content of text messages. All of your texts must pass a simple test. If your message were broadcasted for the entire world to see, would you cringe, or feel pride?
The world must have no doubt of your alpha acumen.
Going further, each text you send should both be shorter than the woman’s text, and include no emoticons or exclamation marks other than
Generally, attractive women get a constant barrage of texts from boring men, and unless you’re a text-game wizard with sexual framing and witty remarks, your best bet to set yourself apart from the crowd is a) in person, and b) by not texting her irritatingly pointless messages like “Hey, how are you?” or “Why didn’t you call me back last Friday?”
The content of the first text is a question I get quite frequently. The first text should come at one of two points in time. First, it can be an interesting remark immediately after you get the number, and you’re still standing next to her. Sometimes I like to use “Who is that hot guy standing next to you?” Be creative and make up your own material. If you for some reason fail to send an instant text, you can secondarily send a noncommittal text at the end of the night saying something like “Get home safe – dg.” This doesn’t require a response from her and it insures that she has both your name and phone number in her phone, which will multiply her comfort (and therefore chance she’ll respond) when you later attempt to set up a meet.
After the first text, sometime in the future, it’s time to achieve your primary directive – a meet. If you’re interested in a single person, one method that I like is use is one fluff comment that’s cocky and funny or sexual, then I use the second text to suggest a meet, and if necessary, a third to solidify logistics. After that, the conversation is over, regardless of what she replies, or whatever witty comment you think you have to say.
Another great tool to use to re-spark whatever feelings you had developed in your initial single person-to-person interaction is callback humor. Had a cute nickname that you gave her? Call her by that when you text her a few days later to set up a meet.
More often, you should be texting multiple women at once to improve your chances.
Batch texting is probably the most efficient way to never go without a date on the weekend. Depending on how long you invest into a particular interaction to build rapport and attraction, progressing to a day 2 with a phone number is still a game of statistics (instant dates will be a topic for another time). You won’t make a return on every single number. Fortunately, we can use this to our advantage. At the end of the week, send a batch text to every number you picked up during the week, and you’ll get at least one commitment. Usually you’ll get more than one, but that just gives you more options, which is never a bad thing (not to mention other side-effects of this situation, but that’s outside of scope of the current topic as well).
So everything is going well, and you just got an excited text from a lucky lady – how long should you wait to respond? Generally, take at least as much time as she does, or that amount of time plus some marginal addition. Responding in this way will fool her into thinking you’re actually a valuable and interesting member of society who is busy doing important things. Eventually -if you keep reading my blog
-, you’ll no longer need to use these silly tricks, and response times (for example) will branch off as a natural byproduct of your fulfilling and busy life.
However, don’t be afraid to not reply at all, or the need to respond to every single question that you’re asked – only respond to what will further your primary objective.
People love to ask “is she into me?” then proceed to pointlessly account a boring and long text conversation. I don’t want to go in-depth about trying to identify potential interest from the text messages you receive for several reasons – though mainly that I believe you should assume attraction, and have all of your actions and interpretations generated from there. I should note that you should pay next to no attention to the words that women say – instead let me suggest that you watch their actions (if she agrees to go on a day 2, she’s interested. If not, move on). There are some things you can look for, such as the length of texts (short for disinterest), usage of emoticons or exclamation marks, response times, etc. However, these things can just as easily mean nothing at all, and it’s best to not place meaning on one particular message. If you must try to divining the meaning of the words in your messages it’s better to watch (ACTIONS) trends over multiple text messages. Is she constantly sending one word replies and taking hours to get back to you?
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