Two nights ago I had these three really hot girls sleep over. We kind of have a four-way relationship - I picked them up a few months ago as a three, and since then we've had one date as a three and recently we went clubbing and stuff together.
We're really close now and this has been a real growing experience. I also think I have one-itis for the three of them. A four-way relationship can bring so much more and different kinds of happiness than a one-way one. It's really quite fascinating.
I've been working a lot on entourage game recently too, and now have lots and lots of girlfriends who I'll go out with or have some strange sort of relationship between friends and giver of amazing sex, but not quite fuck buddy...
Anyway, if any of you find yourselves in such a situation - or any situation where you have more than one girl who're close to you, here are some tips that I learnt along the way, the hard way:
- Treat them all equally, regardless of how hot they are; if you compliment one, try and compliment the others. If you buy one a rose, make sure you buy the others a rose of the same type and colour. They are likely to find differences!
- Don't judge and don't game. This type of game REQUIRES that you don't play games. If you're the type to have a lot of strategies or structures or routines or tricks to your game then chances are you won't find yourself in this position in the first place. You have to just be you, and you have to be honest about yourself and your feelings at all times. If you're not, you have more than one girl who can and will call you out.
- Don't change yourself. When I picked up these three girls I had quite a 'nice-guy' AFC/honest approach to the whole thing. I did make them to qualify themselves to me a fair bit, but I didn't do much teasing. Later on I tried to drop in some standard teasing and they were a little shocked. What you have to understand is that if you've pulled it off, just keep doing what you're doing, don't change. You are now essentially one of the girls in their girly group. They expect love and respect.
- Always share love
- Treat them as they treat each other
- Don't be afraid or don't flinch at all the crazy girly stuff that comes out, whether it be about periods, waxing, how it felt when she kissed some guy etc
- You are their pimp. I use 'pimp' in the loose definition of the term. But when you go out with them, you'll probably get a lot of heckling and snide comments or insults from guys (and probably girls) outside. You're some guy with three hot girls on your arms. If ever people are gonna hate, THIS IS IT. This opens you up to a whole new dimension of shit tests, often from guys. You have to be on your toes at all times. You got yourself into this position by being really high value, and you have to continue to raise all of your values as a group. Create an 'our world conspiracy'. But the most important point, is, THEY WANT YOU TO BE THEIR PIMP. No matter how nice they are, they LIKE IT. Don't shrug it off and be humble. THEY WANT TO WORSHIP YOU. THEY WANT TO COOK FOR YOU. THEY WANT TO LOVE YOU. Never before have I appreciated Mystery saying "They're playing groupie, so I'm playing rockstar."
- Think carefully about who in the group you're going to have sex with, if you are going to have sex at all, whether you'll have threesomes or foursomes, whether you'll have sex if one of them aren't there etc. Basically this goes back to treating them all equally.
- You will usually attract a band of guys pretending to be your friend so they can have one of your girls. It's up to you what you do with them because the girls worship you and they'll probably do what you say. Just make sure you're authoritative.
- Always be leading, don't end up the gay friend they're crashing on.
- It's important you get the order/protocol right in terms of how you address them. For instance when you're texting the three of them, either you send the same text to them all, or you text one of them that you always text in these situations. Try and find or appoint a mother hen. Everyone has their place or their 'role' in such relationships. Establish this and stick to it. For example when I made my facebook status about them recently, I had to think carefully what order I would put their names. It's important!
- Make memories
. It's an amazing experience
x
CHAT
