I know many of you future PUA's need a lot of explaining on how or what this is actually about. Wether the fact you must engage a girl in today's society to gain her respect or wether to ignore her until she comes to you. This topic I'm going to write is a bit of a manual that actually works great for myself. It's my personal
rules of engagement.
In contradiction to what many may believe, a girl doesn't respect "kindness" as much as you think in a guy. The most they respect is self-acknowledgement and self-knowledge, therefore they expect a guy to be aware of who they are. If the guy does engage, he cannot show any sign of disbelief in himself or anything that he says. The one moment that he does, he has lost every gain he every had over this partical girl in person.
Now many of you problebly wonder:
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Yeah, but a girl wants me to engage? I mean they all say they want a guy to take action in his own hands!
This is true.
BUT action in your own hands can mean several things.
Rule nr 1.
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Do not mistake an IOI for a guarantee success.
In contradiction to many beliefs onto the forum and the PUA books, an IOI isn't a guaranteed success. A blink, a look into your direction or even a hand gesture or an accidental "bump" are all IOI's. The fact of the matter being, do never ever mistake an IOI for a genuine hard ball success rate of 100%. If you receive an IOI, make sure the IOI is genuine, make sure it is ment for you and make sure you first have all her attention
BEFORE engaging in any form.
Rule nr 2.
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Actions speak louder then words.
You know this famous quote? Yeah well, there is a lot of truth to it. Even in PU. A girl doesn't interest herself in what you have to say, they don't care about how your day was, they do however, care about what you do!
Each action is any form of action. Either ignoring the girl or just kino-escalating, it all works.
BUT yet again, do it properly. The fact of the matter being, a girl is attracted to you when you are having fun. You aren't having fun if you are constantly talking to someone, or just to her. You are having fun if you are throwing your hands up in the air, dancing, smiling and just goofing around.. Why you might wonder? This is purely because of the "Happiness" factor. A girl wants to have be happy, so she seeks people out who are having fun, who are doing crazy. If you want attraction - do this!
However, when you got the girls attention completely, you can do a bit of C&F.
In field example;
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Yesterday night I went out to a party in a club. A friend of mine met 2 girls, HB7 and a HB9. He invited them to come party with our group and so they did. He was really pushy towards both of the girls and coming over a bit too fast, so the HB9 directly turned to me with a gesture of him being crazy. IOI! So we started talking a bit, I only asked her name.. and where she was from. PAY ATTENTION to what I'm saying, I did not pay too much attention to her, even though I had a few IOI's!
However, later, he was standing with the same girls again. I've just gone out for some air and went standing next to them. I had my arms crossed staring at none of both the girls, even though she was looking a lot at me and smiling. Trying to get my attention. At a specific moment my friend tried a subtle neg on the HB9, which kinda went 50-50, she gave him a punch in his genitals with a playful laugh.. but he responded with "Hey, no touching only for my gf!" on which the HB9 responded with a hissing sound of a cat.
At that time, I just said to HB9 "You know you look a lot like a cat, are you as backstabbing aswel?" At that single moment, I turned around again.. it took no more then 2 seconds before she was standing right in front of me, trying to justify her action and getting my approval.
What do I mean with action in here? I took the power in my own hands. I decided to give her a little
action in the form of words. Took
action to remove all my attention. Then again took a little
action with 1 phrase and removed it again. Now I have her pretty much eating out of the palm of my hand if I want her too.
Rule nr 3.
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Gentle and kind is fun, sexual and dirty is even more fun!
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Just a quick example.
I've been talking to this girl in summer - things we're quite sexual... We actually got to a point where the sexual activity got so high we set up a f-date on a festival.. when the festival actually came around the corner, I froze. Needless to say I regret it each day till now.
Last week I chatted up to her again, each normal guy would go really slowly and take it calm not to feel bad about it. My conversation went like this:
Me: Hi, how've you been?
She: Hi, doing good, and you?
Me: Doing quite okay, hey you know our date from in the summer?
She: Yeah of course, too bad it didn't go through tho.
Me: Is there like something I can do to make it up to you, like for example a re-schedule. My place, huge desk, bed, and a lot of sex?
She: Hahaa! Yeah sure.. what about XX/XX ?
Me: Okay, sure no problem.. I can manage that.
See, done deal!
A girl doesn't want a guy that treats her like a princess at first sight. She doesn't want a guy to listen to her about every damn thing. The more you are self-secure about your own demands and sexual desires -- The more attraction you will get from high standing girls.
If you are going to engange into a conversation with a girl. Open with something really standard, but escalate into a subtle version of sexual convo. Why you might ask? Because that's what girls want. They want sexual security, they want a predator that knows how damn amazing he is in the sack or how damn great he is with woman. This is social status
YET ONCE AGAIN and the guarantee that they have picked an
ALPHA mate to
ENJOY their nightly adventures.
Final Rule nr 4.
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Be alpha, not beta.
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A few weeks back I went with some friends to another student city. We went to some bars, but got stuck in the third one. They had a shot-night over there. Needless to say, we wanted to show that city how real students party and drink.. so [b]I[/b] decided to order an entire table (around 100) shots for 5 guys of shots. [b][/b] [b] Being the shotcaller, I [/b] gave the order when to drink and when we order the next 100.
At the end of the pub, around 2hours later.. I K-closed 3 girls, N-closed 7.. Just because of the fact that they noticed me as being the alpha male in the group. One of the girls actually went to a mutual friend and said "Hey - Who's that handsome guy there?" .. I didn't have to do [b]ANYTHING[/b] they came to me, because [b]I dealt the shots![/b]
The more you are alpha, the less you actually even need to engage. Woman pick up this kind of "vibe" that you radiate when you are alpha. This means they know who is the center of the group and they want to follow up with that figure. You need to keep this mind, if she is dating the center of the group, she will have the entire group behind her aswell. Which is social gain and social high power. Which is pretty much where it is all about.
An alpha person is that person that does everything the way he pleases. He says "Hi" to everybody (Social proof), but chooses again who he wants to stick with. He also is dominant, strongheaded and socially powerful. He
NEVER EVER gives any power to a girl regarding his social strength in a relationship, groupswise or partnerwise.
This was my "Rules of engagement", I hope you liked it and it helped a lot of people"[/b]
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