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Also I have told her that I am falling for her and she told me she doesnt know what to do.
You fukcing told her what??? Dude, seriously.... I'm not busting your balls, but this forum is about honesty and constructive criticism. So we give honest feedback. And I am telling you as a friend, that is the single biggest mistake you have ever made on your quest to get this chick. If displaying lower value was on a 1-10 scale, that shit was a 12. But I don't think any damage is permanent. So let's work on damage control.
First of all, do not say another word about your feelings for her. And if, god forbid, she should bring it up... still don't talk about it. If she asks about it, I don't know man, tell her you were drunk or something, but do not tell her anything else about "falling" for her. You are asking her if she would like to put a spikey lock on your dick and pull you around by a leash.
Then, be cool around her. You can flirt LIGHTLY, but you already told this chick you fell for her, so what would normally be acceptable levels of flirting will be perceived as neediness to her now that you spilled the beans. So you can still flirt, but keep off her awkwardness or feelings that you're needy, make sure for every IOI via flirting that you send her way, follow it with two negs. And I can't stress this enough, there should be two servings of neg and one serving of flirt at all times.
Don't do what every other fukcing guy does and act sad around her trying to make her feel sorry for you and then get with you. I regret to say that I've done this.... classical AFC. Girls do not get with guys out of pity... they get with guys because they're self-sufficient and because they have a backbone. You should be the happiest person she's ever seen when you're around her. You know why? Because you don't give a shit that she's not with you. You couldn't care less.
Man.... first thing first, you need to break off contact with her for at least three days. Do not call her, do not hang out with her, you're too busy. If you plan to salvage this thing, you have to disappear for three days. And don't say shit like "I've had a lot to think about." Hell no man, you had to go out of town to visit a friend...... who just so happens to be a girl. And I don't know if you're wanting to date this girl as a girlfriend. But everyone in here will agree with me on this...... you don't need a girlfriend right now. I think you really need to get on track and practice gaming, develop confidence, inner game, and transform yourself. You can hook up with this girl, sure, but don't get in a relationship. If you really do like this girl, then wait. Because right now your portrayed value is very low and you need time to build it up. If you got with her right now, this would show and she'd eventually break up with you. Take your time to study the game and build yourself up and get with her later if you still want..... she'll be terrified of losing you.
Now... this is more advanced, but I don't know what you've read (no offense, but if you told her that you're falling for her, I'm assuming you haven't read much at all). You can also use some Ross Jeffries tactics. Given she has a boyfriend, I think it would be effective here. If you haven't read his stuff, do it or you won't know what I'm talking about. But your conversation would be about this girl you dated (make up a fictional g/f if you have to) and why you broke up with her (DHV). And you would point out some really negative qualities she had. At this point, you'd ask her to imagine how she would feel if someone was like this or like that (beware of falling into the DLV trap).... And as you get her thinking about these negative qualities, that's when you pose hypothetical situations and use her boyfriend as the example. Run a couple of these and it will have her seeing these negative qualities in her boyfriend even though they may not actually exist. She will simply form a connection between those negative qualities and her boyfriend via your hypotheticals. But whatever you do, even if you do not use RJ techniques, NEVER bash her boyfriend to her. If you talk bad about him, it only makes you look desperate and needy.... a big DLV.
You know you messed up the initial encounter. But you can still fix it. But the first thing you have to do is fix yourself. I really don't think you should attempt a relationship with her, even in the absurdly unlikely even that she tries.... don't do it man. We all start out AFCs, you need to fix yourself, and she won't even seem that great when your confidence skyrockets.... and if she still does, then no problem, she's yours.
Happy sarging.......
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