I had a bunch of people making me out to be the bad guy in the chat room, and for good reason. I was cheating on myself and my penis was suffering due to the fact I made the mistake of trying to turn a fuck buddy into a girlfriend. This is a bit of backwards thinking. Ideally, having a fuck buddy (also known as a booty call) means you have multiple girls you are fucking. They told me I was not cheated on when she found another dick and only had myself to blame. I see the error of my ways now.

You should always remember that girls have the power to get c0ck whenever they can. "Suzy Rottencrotch" is a ficticious girl that the military uses to illustrate every "cheating" wife, girlfriend, etc... out there. Don't make the mistake, as a PUA, of getting comfortable with any one girl. Why? Vaginas are meant to be filled with dick. If you are fucking her like once or twice a week, she still has 5 other days that week for Fernando, her lover with the 10" dick, to come over and fulfill her needs too.

Getting stuck in a Oneitis mentality, even if you are having sex with the girl, is never a good idea. I don't know how it works in marriage, but since I'm almost 30 and never been married, I know that my PUA lifestyle probably will only be satisfied with an open marriage. I prefer open relationships anyways, due to the fact that I prefer FBs (fuck buddies) over LTRs. I would much rather have a girl come over on my time and hang out than have to deal with the hassles of having a Oneitis "girlfriend" to deal with.

I hope this helps.

May all your adventures be orgasmic,
Chicoman

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Only if YOU give them that power. Don't yes and they don't have that power anymore. It is really that simple. Girls have this so called power because guys are not willing to say no to a girl while a girl has no problem saying no. Remember it takes two to have sex.

You didn't "make the mistake of trying to turn a fuck buddy into a girlfriend." You made a mistake while you were trying to turn a fuck buddy into a girlfriend. there's a difference.

IMO, the most natural way to get into a LTR is when a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits evolves into an exclusive relationship. The mistake you made was failing to communicate such an intention. You never told her that you saw the relationship between the two of you as exclusive.

"But, Chief, I never told her that I saw the relationship as open!" Then you didn't communicate ANY intention at all. You left her hanging with no request to consider. That's why she wasn't to blame for anything she did with other guys.

My impression of your situation that you explained in the chat was that you didn't really have your own desires figured out. Figure out if you're looking for exclusivity or open shit (You don't have to lose faith in the possibility of exclusivity). You can have either one if you can communicate your intentions clearly next time. Just remember that you can't have both because that would be a logical paradox. I guess that's what they mean by "you can't have your cake and eat it, too."

You can totally assume loyalty in an exclusive relationship when it's made official. Don't forget; it's official when facebook says so

I can safely assume that my girlfriend is loyal. Seriously, try to seduce her if you ever meet her. Open game for everybody. She won't fuck you.

You guys make it sound like women don't have free will and that you own them. The fact of the matter is, you can never truly have ownership over a woman. She is free to fuck whom she chooses and even wedding rings do not necessarily guarantee loyalty. This fact and the divorce rate are probably the main reasons that I'm almost 30, never been married and prefer open relationships. I found that a lot of the best PUAs don't get married as well.

-Chicoman

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Military slang for Iraqis is "desert niggers".

I think you're mistakenly taken this out of context. What he means is if you say no, there are ten other guys who'd be up for having sex with her. If you mean nothing to her, your dick is replacable unless your twenty stone and sober.

Of course everybody are potential cheaters.

Of course you can never guarantee that your GF is gonna be faithful.

Does that mean that you should lay off the whole getting close to someone and make anyone important to you? I think not.

I assume loyalty. Plus I assume that I can see when the vibe goes down so that I have to worry.

Do do that for a simple reason. It makes life easier. Yeah, so I might be fooled and not know that someone is cheating on me... But still, I dont know about it so it doesnt hurt me.

Rather do that than assume that she is gonna cheat and never get close to anyone. It is totally worth it.

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Apart from what everybody else have said so far, think of it along these lines instead: Not assuming loyalty in a relationship will work perfectly fine from the start. However, as you grow emotionally attached to this girl (in whichever doses), your pre-programmed mentality of disloyalty will make you act in such ways that the relationship will fall apart.

With that in mind, you will eventually notice (hopefully rather), that all the problems are linked back to you. You are the one with the trust issues and therefore, you are the one who's never going to find a stable relationship - not her.

Trust her or don't trust he - if she decides to cheat, you will end up getting hurt either way. You think she'll decide to not cheat on you, just because you don't fully trust her? There are no acts in the world that are going to stop her from cheating. She will do whatever the hell she pleases to.

Thus concluding that assuming loyalty in a relationship right from the start is the better option. So if the woman truly is a faithful individual - your fear of commitment won't alternatively fuck up the relationship.