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PostPosted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 9:16 am 
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So here's the set-up. I've been single about 2 years now, just sleeping with lots of different girls. Recently I met this one really great girl that I find really attractive and love spending time with. She's great, very fun, all the same interests as me, but very inexperienced sexually. I'm only the fourth guy she's been with in her life and I've been with over a hundred girls.

This hasn't caused too much of a problem, but she is starting to push for a relationship. Nothing over the top yet but she is definitely interested in a one on one monogamous relationship. I AM NOT!!!

I do however want to keep seeing her in a non-exclusive relationship. I'm seeing a few other girls right now as well as regular one night stands, and don't want to give that up.

Any of you guys got any advice on how to keep seeing her without having to make a commitment of any sort? Anything reasonable will be appreciated.

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PostPosted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 2:52 pm 
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If you realy like her, why don't you want to go in a relationship?

I'm a huge fan of the single life without commitments and with free love etc., but if I'd have some one night stands and flirts etc behind my back, and I would find a very cute and likable girl, then I wouldn't mind going for the relationship. I would not like to hurt a girl who I realy like. You shouldn't be ashamed to go in a relationship, so why don't you give it a shot?

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Be 100% open and honest about your intentions and where you see the relationship going, and make no apologies for it. She will either accept it and things can continue as they are or reject it, in which case she is obviously not the right girl for you to be in an open relationship with at this point in time.

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Although this thread actually is in violation of the PUA Lounge-specific rules, I'd say the topic is interesting enough to be in here.

You have to manage expectations from as early as possible. Might be too late for you to play things right but you have to communicate that you're not looking for exclusivity. Stop being a pussy and just tell her. Encourage her to see other and fuck other guys while you still see and fuck her as you'll be seeing and fucking other girls.

Or just learn how to play guitar and play her my managing expectations song :P
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RH04sEkVTyI[/youtube]

Lyrics:
It's okay if you love nobody
cuz I feel the same way too
and the only thing I want right now
is the bottom of my bottle of booze

It's okay if you keep your distance
cuz I'd like to do that, too
and if you promise never to love me
I've already said that to you

I hope I never meet another girl like you
cuz I know that I would break her heart
I used to be the one to take the fall
but it really isn't like that any more at all

I'm a bad bad man, stay away if you can
cuz I'll drink day and night and we'll get in a big fight
I care more about the band than I ever can
about anyone else, especially not you

Verse 1

I'll say what I mean and I mean what I say
but it won't sound true to you
I used to be the one to take the fall
but it really isn't like that anymore at all

Chorus

Bad, bad man x4

Hey, Bartender, I'll have another
I'm trying to drink my sorrows away
Seven and seven, take me to heaven
I've been going through hell all day

Hey, pretty woman, I'm just a someone
I won't tell you what's been bringing me down
but I'll give you a smile if you stay for a while
and take you home once we've painted the town

Chorus x2


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 10:21 pm 
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A girl asked me few days ago about what my intentions are and what do I want, and I simply told her that I just like to enjoy what life brings me, not to force a relationship on myself, and that I also don't want to hurt her.

Later that day, she asked me if the movie at my place offer, is still on.

Tell her what your intentions are. It will be very difficult for her to break all the connection between you too just like that, and it is very possible that she will accept it.
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Or just learn how to play guitar and play her my managing expectations song
Catchy song haha, I like it

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 27, 2010 3:04 am 
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Chief you're a card. Love it. The reason I don't want a relationship is that if I go into a monogamous relationship I will hurt her eventually, and I like her, so I don't want to hurt her. Honesty is the best approach I suppose, I guess I'm just looking for some magical silver bullet that will end all my troubles.

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 27, 2010 12:04 pm 
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Next time you're with her say you're open to commitment in the future but it's not what you're looking for right now. If you want to continue having a great time together (it's best to make this speech when you're in the middle of actually having fun at the time) when you do see each other, but what you two do separately is nobody's business, then great. If not, she should walk away now because you want what's best for her and you don't want her to get hurt. If she likes you enough she will probably say ok.

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