I am very curious,many girls think of a relationship the standard way,how do you let the girl know you are looking for a fuck-buddy,or that while you are with her you are going after other women?Do they assume that you will be just with them?

you'll need to guage it on an individual basis. There will be some girls looking for a fuck buddy (dont call it that to the girl) and some girls lookin for a proper relationship.

Whatever you are after make sure you tell the girl before she gets the wrong idea. Not many girls will be expecting a full on relationship after a night out and a day 2 together so dont feel you have to make it obvious what you're after straight away.

After you felt you've spent enough time with her to tell her what you're after then tell her. If you're after a fuck buddy, tell her you're only looking for a bit of fun and that you hope shes after the same. If she says no then apologise and tell her that a relationship is not what you want.

If you want a relationship (only ask this after spending quite a lot of time together, you'll know when its happening anyway) then just say you really enjoy spending time with her and you want to take it a step further or want to make it official or whatever.

Do not lie to a girl(s) and say you want to keep seeing her and see other girls behind her back. Let her know you plan to see other people.

There is one girl that i like,we met and had a fun time,but i don't know where i fit in..BF,best friend....what should i do?i was thinking of a straight question like "so where is this heading or what's this between us?"and after that she will probably say i don't know or something...i will say "what do you want it to be?"and then i say what i want...keeping it casual,should this work?

how far have you gotten with this girl and how much time have you spent together?

did it at all feel like she was interested in you sexually?

in my opinion you shouldnt try and get a definate category of relationship determined until you've slept with or gotten close to sleeping with her. thats just how i would do it anyway.

dont make it an ultimatum.

Sleep with her first. Second or third time you see her after that, have a very short, simple conversation where you explain that you are OPEN to commitment but at the moment it's not what you're looking for. What's important is that when you're together you have a great time, and to enjoy that now while it's happening. If it leads to more then great, but otherwise it's not exclusive for now and she should understand that.

Preferably, say this while you're having fun at that time, and say it like "so if this isn't what you want then you should step away now because otherwise feelings could get hurt."

The two factors at work here are (1) people generally go with the inertia of a situation. If they're having fun they want to continue doing it. If she's having fun and you say she has to choose to back away, she's more likely to say it's ok and stay (2) By framing it as "I don't want this to be exclusive NOW, but am open to commitment," if she wants you to commit then she's gonna have to prove it to you by doing things to please you i.e. you build her compliance into the entire subtext of the relationship as it progresses.

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tnx for the tips

Be up front. Most women are open to a friends-with-benefits scenario, but they need to know what they're going into. Nothing is worse than meeting a great guy and slowly realizing he doesn't want to go further.

And don't spend too much non-sexual time together. No cuddling, no watching movies, no lunch dates. That shit fucks with your head as a woman - "he likes hanging out with me, loves fucking me, and yet he doesn't want to be with me, wtf?!"

This pattern sound effective

I just realised i have no ideea how to escalate...and i am kinda affraid to:P
After 2-3 nights of doing nothing,I can see that she is waiting for something,but i don't know how and what to do.
I was thinking of a casual "hey what's between us?" and after that tell her that it would be cool if we where together...but i don't want something serious:Pthat's the plan,but without KINO i don't now if it would work

Any thoughts on that?after so many PUA documentation,this simple thing didn't cross my mind:P