So I do feel that it is widely accepted for most, that if a girl is unreachable for any reason that you should give up and move on. However, for the sake of argument, lets keep these responses to a minimum as they really hold little insight and only represent giving up.

That being said, here's a quick background of me that may be helpful to the story. I am an upper-classmen at a prominent university in the states. I'm not quite 21 but can legally enter bars. And I am currently taking summer classes on campus, which would be considered deserted in comparison to a regular fall/spring semester.

A small group of friends, along with myself, went out to the bars last night and had a pretty relaxed night. The events at the bar I don't really see as having much importance, however I can include them later if anyone requests them. I ended up walking out of the bar at close with just me, a girl (7.5-ish) that I had been talking up and her group of friends. We dropped off her friends at each of their places and then I was invited back to hers.

Things got heavy, we had started playing around and I had her half-undressed when I flipped her from top to bottom. Apparently, she hid how much she had had to drink well (up to this point), because the sudden spin was enough to send her into the bathroom puking. Definitely, not one of her finest moments I'm sure, but shit happens sometimes.

When it became apparent that she wouldn't be coming out of the bathroom for quite some time, I left her a note explaining that I had had fun with her, but did not want to take advantage of her in her drunken state, that I hoped to see her again at a later time and then left her with my name and number. And then left.

She contacted me today thanking me for being a gentleman and suggesting that we get back together... next time she's in town. I knew that she was only visiting for the weekend since she told me at the bar, but now I have come to realize that I would like to see her again. (She attends the same university, but isn't on campus over the summer).

Where my question lies is: Should I attempt to make any further contact with her, or just let things play out and see if I hear from her in the future?

I have found her on facebook, however I have had girls tell me in the past that they thought it was weird that I was able to find them (last names rarely come up in conversation). So I don't know if it is a good idea to friend this girl or not?

I'm open to suggestions on either question.

Thanks,
~GQute

I wouldn't contact her directly, especially not through facebook because like you said it could come off as creepy. Also you would get a weird and tiresome chat-relationship which doesn't get you anything.

Just wait it out and when she comes to your city try to contact her and hit it off. In the mean time, get her out of your head and make sure you meet a few other girls with whom you can eventually, possibly make her jealous, raise your value or simply give you experience and phun.

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"To know what people really think, pay regard to what they do, rather than what they say. "
René Descartes

ditto, I'd stay off the fb creepage

I do appreciate the help, and would like to include that I followed your advice and did not friend her on facebook. However, she friended me this afternoon. I would imagine that your advice would stay the same and that you would tell me to still make no initial contact. But allow for that to be affirmed by you.

Thanks,
~GQute

I am going to go against the norm and tell her how you feel. If you liked her and want to keep in contact then do so. Dont think of any pick up rules but just go with how you feel and what you want from it.

I think its better to avoid the just move on to next girl response (I always gave it) and go with the (Im a guy and I want to keep in touch with her).

good luck and let me know what happens

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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me. ~Winston Churchill

Ah...the ol' boy meets girl, girl gets drunk, girl throws up story.

I'm sure she's mortified about the incident. Even though you said that you'd like to see her again, a lot of guys say stuff like that, so she's probably feeling insecure about the whole thing. She may not contact you.

I find drunk women very unattractive.

Beauty without wit offers love nothing but the material enjoyment of its physical
charms, whilst witty ugliness captivates by the charms of the mind,
and at last fulfils all the desires of the man it has captivated.

---Casanova

Well I didn't contact her after she friended me on facebook, but two nights ago she text me and told me she was going to be in town until monday. So I ended up meeting her last night out at the bars, we spent some good time talking and joking around.

One of my buddies invited us over for afterhours (party/drinking after bars close) at his place, so we ended up going there. We played, and won, at pong multiple times and eventually left and went to my place.

We started going at it, we were both partially undressed after a marginal amount of time passed making out on the bed and all that jazz when she asked if we could "just lay for a second". So I obliged and it ended up being long enough with no talking or anything else, just her in my arms, that I eventually fell asleep.

When I woke up this morning I had a text from her saying that she was sorry and that she wasnt feeling well last night and didnt want to wake me. But also said she had a good time with me.

Im really kind of at a loss as to how to proceed with this girl. She's leaving tomorrow morning and then wont be back til the beginning of the school year in 3 weeks.

Im open to suggestions or input if anyone thinks they have some insight on the situation.

Thanks,
~GQute