Before you reply, if you're not sexually experienced don't reply. I only want replies from those who have actually had sex.

My girlfriend and I are just about to have sex. We've been dating for about 6 months, she wanted to wait on having sex in the beginning and that was fine with me because this is going somewhere. We have both expressed how strongly we feel towards each other. We have tried having sex a few times, and I'm fine until I go to put a condom on. As soon as I do, I go limp. I'll take the condom off and we'll start fooling around again and I'll get an erection, but again, as soon as I put a condom on it dies down.

Any ideas what the hell is the problem? I would really appreciate some advice.

Thanks guys

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-Bedrock

"The society that separates scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." - Thucydides

Seize the day with love

Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you learn.

yeah...its happened to all of us, mostly becuase you care about this girl and you care what she thinks because she matters to you. you want her to know that your a machine in the bedroom that would be the ideal situation but we all have trouble doing this.

advice from me that ive used to get over this
take horny goates weed...some pill u ccan get from any supermarked in the condom section(for fun, its full of caffine and blood flow stimulating herbs and gets you horny and hard all the fucking time, i was riding the bus home and it was a bit bumpy haha )
or alcohol works me, ups the arrousel levels for me and you can block out thought for a while and let the good times roll (just not tooo many drinks lol)


BUT, then despite doing this i still sometimes randomly have problems as soon as i put on condoms, (then constrict the blood out) hey it happens, dont be ashamed of it lol, just make a game of it.....Roger weve hit a problem over, in need of a blow job how do you copy, over...then forplay for a while and make sure tht the environment your in is warm, ive heard when its cold it can lower arrousel levels by a LOT so turn on the heater or light a few douzen candles. this is where i think alcohol finds its way in tricking your body about the temperature

hope this helps in any way man....after a while you will stop caring and can start pleasing your woman.

Ash

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"what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail" robert shuller

You waited for 6 months. Sure, you were "fine with waiting" but you would have much preferred to have done it months ago.
In that time, I bet you have thought about it time and time again. Made it into something amazing and now it is actually happening, your fantasy of it isn't happening (which has been embedded into your mind for the last few months).

It is also possible that you feel you need to prove something to her or even yourself. That is making you nervous and making you lose it. The reason it is happening when you put on a condom could be because that is the point you think its 100% certain your going to have sex.

Lastly, is she honestly arousing you enough? Getting hard is only being physically aroused, are you actually ready to rip her clothes off you are so desperate for it?

Madals

Happened to me to. It's that way when you are in your head too much. When instead of injoying you are thinking of what you should or shoudn't do. When you put on that condom, it turns the switch 'we are having sex!' which gets you in your head.

Madals also adressed a potential problem, you might feel the need to prove tyourself. That would once again pull you right in your head.

Go slowly, take your time and enjoy it. She will too :P

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Drink me, make me feel real
Wet your beak in the stream
Game we're playing is life
Love is a two way dream

Alright thanks fellas. We had sex last night haha and I didn't even read any of these. I just stopped trying to have a great first time and didn't care. She texted me asking me what I wanted to do tonight and I said "We're going to fuck. And eat at Olive Garden, but that's a side note" She laughed at the side note part.

We were at her place watching The Blind Side and she kept kissing on me trying to fool around, but I kept telling her to stop trying to seduce me because I really wanted to watch the movie. But whenever I would say that I would tickle her, kiss on her neck, bite her, breathe into her ear, or (if we were spooning) kiss her on the back of her neck. I did this the entire movie. I really wanted to fool around, but I told myself no so by the time the movie was over I was ready to rip her damn clothes off. After seriously 3 minutes of fingering she came. We flipped over so I was laying on my back and I thought she was going to give me a blowjob, but instead she started grinding on my dick and before I realized it we were having sex without a condom After a few awesome (and way to short) seconds, I pulled out and got a condom and we got down to the nitty gritty haha

Thanks anyways guys

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-Bedrock

"The society that separates scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." - Thucydides

Seize the day with love

Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you learn.

Its in your mind as Hobbit said. I have a friend specializing in this, he is a sexologist and he says that people go around without reason for a long time instead of going to a sexologist and just get it fixed just like that...

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