So i came here today maybe not just to get an answer but to come back home for a visit.

Cant say im not hppy in the relationship im in... because its really amazing. The issue is that once your out of the nightlife and start to take care of your life you get to a point where your so stressed out you loose it abit.

At least i did.

Wake up, go to work, go home, eat, sleep. sometimes make love if i dont feel like just droping myself on the bed/couch.

its a bitch :S i havent had a vacation in ages, and my job wears me down mentaly. pluss... busting your ass to have just enough :S depressive as hell.

Anyways, i feel like wih all this i hevent been giving my girl what she needs from me. our sex life has gone from nearly every day to... ocasionaly. and i feel like i dont have the motivation to do something nice for her. the candle thing is already too typical, and the warm bath all that romantic stuff just doesnt seem enough for some one like her. I want the best for her and i have run out of ideas.

Any advice? something romantic, or something to spice things up.

Im so down i lost my guts even for a little lap dance.

How do i get my guts back??????

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IM A GIRL that likes girls .. its simple.

Go out for a few meals, do something that'll cause an adrenaline rush, It will make you think more positive and want to be more positive, making you feel better.

Everyone has lapses now and then, at some stage.

Think im gonna go and get my haircut
take care of myself a little more again
do some more exercice

have kind of left that out

a girl needs to take care of herself!

Hearing some nice music thats cheering me up

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IM A GIRL that likes girls .. its simple.

You should come as priority, not your GF, unless it's time for a family.

Make yourself feel good, haircut as you said, some gym or other training, maybe treat yourself to something maybe... Make yourself feel good like you said.

If you don't care about yourself, who wil...

Lmao Hobbit @ the way you offered help.

I decided to talk to her instead. and im feeling a lot better. shes picking me up from work and taking me to get a hair cut

Im in a serius relationship... and since we dont want kids me her and the cat are a family and it works fine with me.
Relationships have ups and downs, if you talk to your partner about it, everything should go fine if you have the right partner.

Only reason we are not married is because gay marriage JUST got legalized in my country, and because of financial issues "we decided itsbest to only get married in like 50 years XD"

PS: i have had my experiences, and i am now in a comited and tough relationship not because of my partner but because of the crap around us. see ya, off to cut my hair

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IM A GIRL that likes girls .. its simple.

Your job shouldn't exhaust you like that unless you hate it. When you're happy with your job and life, you become invigorated by your daily routines. Same thing with relationships.

Find whats bothering you and either change it, or change yourself so you can learn to enjoy it and appreciate it.

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Programmer of reality.

Good to hear that you've made progress, but would like to add one thing: I see PUA as building a life. So, I aim to do exactly that. I believe I'm at a stage with women where I am now happy, so it is not the main focus in my life anymore, but I would also like to say I'm financially secure. This means minimalising debt at uni and building myself up to be an attractive, happy person. As of last week, I'm now a promoter at Tiger Tiger (actually, I hand out flyers for nearly 7 an hour in the cold, but I'm still promoting ) and trying to get a job elsewhere too.

Like Hobbit said, try new things, broaden your interests, and treat yourself. You need to feel happy with yourself for the maximum effect in anything.

Just like to add... working with family has its downs. When you have downs with your family it affects your work much more.

And also, im in a relationship where trying new things is NOT a problem. We are just going through a rough time because we decided to make some sacrifices in order to get some things we really want.

PS: in about 1 more month we will go on a great vacation

Hope people in relationships dont forget that ups and downs in relatonships are normal, and one thing that proves to you that you have a solid healthy relationship is when things are dificult and you can both deal with it and walk over the problems together.

take care people and good luck to you all in life

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IM A GIRL that likes girls .. its simple.